According to a survey conducted by Bacardi Breezers, women enjoy talking with their girlfriends as much as they enjoy having sex. I love my friends, but that is definitely not the case for me. A new episode of "Mad Men," a fresh copy of Lucky and a bowl of mac 'n' cheese, however? I might make the old "I'm tired excuse" to spend the evening indulging in that rather than sex. What about you?

On my recent vacay, I learned a valuable new skill that makes me pity any man that had sex with me before. Why? Because, after many failed grade-school sleepover party attempts, I can now, finally, hula hoop. And since I have mastered the fine art of keeping it up, er, the hoop I mean, with my new and improved hip swivel, I know my next boyfriend is going to be an extra lucky man. But as the weather gets too cold to use hula hooping in a bikini as a stud magnet, we girls have to get creative. Despite the chill, here’s how you can warm things up in your love life with hobbies that’ll show dudes you knock boots better than anyone else.

We met fresh out of college, when we both worked at a law firm. All the ladies in the office chirped about his thick hair, cooed over his broad-shouldered frame, whispered about his posh upbringing and slick pedigree. I found him arrogant and self-consumed.

I took an interest in him only after he started bringing a lacrosse stick to work. My crush deepened the first time I heard him speak with passion about his gun. This was not a euphemism—he actually had a gun. More specifically, he had a shotgun he kept in pieces in a bedroom that was, I later learned, cluttered with various trophies, medals, sticks, muscle balms, beaten running shoes, and athletic tape.

This week, The Frisky will be revealing their oh-so-ambitious resolutions for 2009. We encourage you to submit yours in the comments—maybe you’ll inspire others to adapt the same resolutions and at the very least you’ll get some support. Especially for your resolution to eat more donuts this year. That’s something we can all get behind. Take it away, Annika…

1. Get a driver’s license: I put this on my resolutions list last year, but only achieved part of it. I was born and raised in NYC, so having a car is more of a luxury than a necessity. But now that I’m getting older I want to add a license to my list of accomplishments.
2. Go to Europe: I haven’t been to Europe since I was a little babe. My plan is to reconnect with my cousin in London or my friend in Slovakia, so I can’t use not having a travel companion as an excuse. I also plan to adapt my style to where ever I’m going, so I don’t stick out like a tourist.
3. Pay off my credit card: I’m sick and tired of my credit card debt. And this year, I’ll actually have the means to pay it off in one fell swoop. So I will ignore whatever heels or boots that catch my eye until I’ve paid my debt.

This week, The Frisky will be revealing their oh-so-ambitious resolutions for 2009. We encourage you to submit yours in the comments—maybe you’ll inspire others to adapt the same resolutions and at the very least you’ll get some support. Especially for your resolution to eat more donuts this year. That’s something we can all get behind. Amelia will start…

1. Commit to going to yoga three times a week: And at the very least, getting into headstand. Forearm stand, I will tackle you in 2010. Handstand, see you in 2011.
2. Introduce myself to new music: And go to see more bands play live. I used to love doing this, but have stopped going on a regular basis. And I need some Ladyhawke and Little Joy to balance out all the Beyonce and Britney.
3. Curb bad behaviors: My bad behaviors are drinking too much wine and then eating copious amounts of mac ‘n’ cheese while sending regrettable Facebook messages. Must stop this in 2009.

I posted earlier about chopping off seven inches of hair after finally deciding that my break was not a breakup. While a cliche, it was a defining moment that signified my new perspective on the future. Luckily, as many of you so kindly pointed out, it turned out to look good too. (I swear, I didn’t post the before and after photos in a desperate search for compliments, but I sure do appreciate them!) But as some of you pointed out in the comments, the MAJOR haircut is not the only action many women take post-breakup. After the jump, five other major changes and steps women often make in their quest to get over a broken heart and start a new phase in life.