When it comes to dating, I have a lot of preferences. I’d prefer to end up with someone who shares my religion, my political views and my musical interests. I’d prefer to find a man who has a college education, a job he enjoys and tight-knit family. But those are preferences— not dealbreakers. If I happen to find someone who’s a perfect match for me, but he’s not Catholic and he hates country music, so be it. I would be with him despite our differences. But when it comes to physical “preferences,” I’ve always been a bit pickier.
While I never considered them “dealbreakers,” my hesitation (and usually refusal) go out with someone who’s under 5’10, overweight or has a receding hairline, is, despite my denial, dealbreaker status. So this weekend, I checked those dealbreakers at the door and went on a date with my OKCupid run-in, Andrew, who I can now confirm stands barely two inches taller than me at 5’9″. Keep reading »
A study by Rice University and the University of North Texas has found that for lots of us, height does matter when it comes to choosing a partner.
Researchers set out to learn more about height preferences in the heterosexual dating world by conducting a study split into two parts. The first part compiled data from Yahoo! personal dating ads and consulted the opinions of 455 heterosexual men (with an average height of 5’8″ and average age of 36) and 470 heterosexual women (with an average height of 5’4″ and an average age of 35). Only 13.5 percent of guys said they prefer to date women who are shorter than they are. The women in the study, on the other hand, were a bit pickier: 48.9 percent of women would only date men who are taller than they are.
The study’s second part enlisted volunteers from a U.S. university to take an online survey with open-ended questions. The survey included 54 men (who averaged 5’9″ tall) and 131 women (with an average height of 5’4″). Researchers found that 37 percent of men would only date women who are shorter than them, and 55 percent of women would only date men who are taller than them – very similar to the study’s previous findings. Keep reading »
I am 4’11” and I absolutely love it. While it wasn’t always something I liked, these days I wouldn’t trade it for anything. It’s a part of who I am and really fits my personality. I can sit comfortably in a tiny airplane seat, I can crowd-weave like nobody’s business, and being tiny secretly makes me feel dainty (never thought I would admit that one!), The bottom line is: I like being short. But the strange thing about my height is this phenomenon in which people seem to think I don’t know I’m short. They also believe that it is now their personal job to inform me, in case I hadn’t realized in the past few decades. My height is a part of my persona, but it’s kind of old news to me. It never occurred to me to bluntly inform others of the status of their physical traits, but there is something about being short that makes me an unsolicited opinion magnet. Maybe this happens to tall girls too? Enlighten me.
The thing is that when people make cutesy “short” commentary to me (which usually isn’t meant to be rude) they honestly believe they are the first people to say it. Here are the most common things people say or do to me that they think are oh-so-original. Some are endearing and funny, some are eyeroll-inducing. ALL are overused… Keep reading »
I have a specific problem when it comes to dating. I mean, I have many problems (I’m attracted to unavailable guys, ranging from gay men to to fictional characters), but there’s one that has significantly affected me.
I’m short. I’m 4’11”. I’ve been this size since I was about 12 years old. So, NO, to answer the question you were probably wondering and men on dates have actually asked me, I am not a little person. If you take a look at me – either by Googling me or assessing my corporeal being — you can tell that I am of average proportions.
Now, while there are obvious perks to being petite (Saving money by shopping in the children’s sections! Wearing high heels guiltlessly! Getting picked up spontaneously! Wearing a hoodie to a Mexican restaurant and getting a kid’s burrito!), there are some times where I do get the short end of the stick, pun heavily intended. I don’t just mean that I have to weed out all of the shady men who have a petite girl fetish, but something about being a short lady brings out the alpha — or, unfortunately, misogynistic — in some men in a variety of ways. Keep reading »
Space fun fact: IT MAKES YOU TALLER! Astronauts who orbit the earth have gained up to two inches in height while floating in oute0r space. The lack of gravity in space allows the vertebrae in the spine to stretch out and separate. The lack of gravitational pressure gives the spine the freedom to spread out up to three percent. Scientists haven’t figured out why this gravity trick only affects the spine, but they say the stretching out is similar to what occurs every night when we lie down to sleep. As the spine relaxes the vertebrae spread out — and if you measure yourself in the morning, you might find that you’re a centimeter to an inch taller. Sadly, the added height doesn’t last — for astronauts or the rest of us. As soon as we stand up from sleeping, and as soon as astronauts return to earth, the vertebrae are compressed again by gravity, and we lose our extra inches. [NASA]
I’ve been short all my life — I think I stopped growing at, like, 12 or something, and depending on the day, I will tell you I’m 5’2″ or 5 feet. I really think i’m probably just 5 feet tall, but I lied about it for so long that I’m not sure what the truth is. When you are short, people will readily call you cute, but not pretty or beautiful. When you’re short, it feels harder to be taken seriously. And when you’re short, absolutely nothing ever fits without getting major tailoring.
I wanted to be taller for so long — for sooooo long — until one day I didn’t. Until I realized that there are actually a lot of advantages to being short. Like, sure, you’re always cute, but then again, you’re always considered cute. And there’s never really a dude who’s off-limits because of his height. And you can still shop at Gap Kids if you want.
Anyway, there are tons of fierce short girls out there — women whose small stature doesn’t dictate their large personalities. Check ‘em out.