“Some women are just happier in a relationship.”
As my shrink said this, my jaw dropped to the floor. Did she really just say that? The woman who had feminist literature on her bookshelf and never failed to induce a pep rally of self-empowerment at the end of each session?
We were, of course, discussing (OK fine, I was complaining) about my lack of a boyfriend, and inability to get over some of the ones I did have. For me, I surmised from my psychotherapy high horse, the issue was about loneliness and, therefore, about some childhood father complex. I thought I sounded smart; it seemed like something my psychiatrist would say herself. Keep reading »
A new study conducted by the National Bureau of Economic Research and the University of Pennsylvania and presented by economists Betsey Stevenson and Justin Wolfers, shows that both sex’s happiness levels have decreased over the past few decades, but women’s “subjective well-being” has declined “absolutely” and in relation to men. This is only a big deal because the same study was done in the 1970s and women reported higher levels of happiness than they do today! Is it because they were stoned out of their minds? Is it because feminism never really worked out? The research study didn’t come up with any conclusions but had loads of hypotheses…but not as many that have come up since it was released last month! Read on to hear the theories. Keep reading »
The most recent edition of the K Chronicles, a comic strip on Salon, caught my eye this morning because it’s all about celebrating “life’s little victories,” like “reading a neat recipe you’d like to try…and you already have all the ingredients!” and “the one dollar bookstore actually has some good stuff.” As the strip says, we need to celebrate these everyday victories “now, more than ever,” so without further ado, after the jump are 10 Frisky-flavored victories to get excited about. Add your own in comments! Keep reading »
The next time you think the glass is half-empty, think again because you could be killing yourself faster. Optimists live longer, healthier lives than pessimists, according to researchers at University of Pittsburgh who looked at the death rates and chronic health conditions of women participating in the Women’s Health Initiative Study, which began following more than 100,000 women 50 and older in 1994. Women who expected good things to happen to them were 14 percent less likely than pessimists to die of any cause. And they were 30 percent less likely to be killed by heart disease. They also had less incidence of high blood pressure and diabetes and were less likely to be cigarette smokers. Women who were highly mistrustful of others, called “cynically hostile” by the team of researchers, were 16 percent more likely to die during the study period of eight years compared to the least cynical of the group. They were also 23 percent more likely to die from cancer. Dr. Hilary Tindle, who led the team, said the study doesn’t prove that negative attitudes cause negative health effects, but she said more research is necessary to see if attitude modification benefits health. That’s it! I’m convinced and I’m canceling my health insurance because all I really need is a positive attitude. Wait a second…isn’t this just The Secret? [Reuters] Keep reading »
As young adults, women start off being happier than men, and then age 48 comes along and the guys get a whole lot happier than us. According to a study in the Journal of Happiness Studies, our happiness depends on fulfilling our aspirations. Most people surveyed — nine out of 10 — want a happy marriage and the ability to buy what they desire, whether that’s nice clothes, a car, or a vacation home. Because most men are single and want lots of expensive stuff when they’re in their 20s, this is the time when they’re the least happy. But then, after age 34, men are more likely to be married than women, and the gap increases with age. They’re also able to buy more of what they want. So, while guys are able to meet their expectations in the family and finance categories, we’re sad because we’re not married and still don’t make enough money to buy all of the Marc Jacobs we want. Who wants to prove this study wrong? Who’s with me! [EurekAlert!] Keep reading »