My fiance is not a happy person — he’s not blue or misanthropic, but he’s been raised to believe that happiness is something only naive people believe in, so one should shoot for security instead. We recently transitioned from living together to a long-distance relationship because he found a job after a year-long search. He likes the job and his co-workers, but not the small town in which he now lives. He says that whether or not he likes the town doesn’t matter because he’s able to put up with his living situation as long as he has security. He’s been told there’s “room at the top” and he’s now determined to stay in this town, in this job, for the long haul.
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For the past five days, we’ve been celebrating “Love Yourself Week” on The Frisky. And really, at the end of the day, what is loving yourself all about? Just being happy with who, what, and where you are. So I was a little tickled today to see these interesting statistics about happiness on The Daily Beast because they’re just not what I would have guessed. Read them after the jump. Pat yourself on the back for the ones that apply to you, and stick your tongue out at the ones that don’t. Then, be happy anyway. Keep reading »
The other day, I came across this post: “Does the meaning of ‘happiness’ change as we age?” It featured this quote: “The research finds that the meaning of happiness shifts as people age: Whereas younger people are more likely to associate happiness with excitement, older people are more likely to associate happiness with feeling peaceful—a change driven by increasing feelings of connectedness (to others and to the present moment) as one ages.” And it got me wondering how women of all ages define happiness. What does happiness mean to you? How do you define happiness? What makes you happy? Tell us in the comments and we’ll post a follow-up featuring our favorite Frisky readers’ answers on their idea of happiness. [Barking up the Wrong Tree] Keep reading »
How many times a day do you smile? Chances are it might not be enough. Smiling can change your mood, making you feel happy even when you didn’t think you could. Think about it — people are always busy, whether they’re late to work, shopping around, or running errands. We often forget how easy it is to smile and the significant effect it can have on improving your perspetive. If happiness is not enough of an incentive to start smiling, well, for the hell of it, then maybe getting a beach bod is. While smiling may not directly burn calories, it might lead to a good laugh, which could burn anywhere from 10 to 40 calories per day! Science, people! After the jump, find out five more reasons to smile just because. Keep reading »
How important is it for both partners in a relationship to be equally happy to make it last? According to a new study done at Deakin University in Australia, it’s very important … especially for the ladies. Researchers studied the effect of the “Happiness Gap,” a theory which states that the bigger the difference in satisfaction levels between spouses, the bigger the chance for splitsville. The study surveyed thousands of married and unmarried couples in Britain, Germany, and Australia and found that a big “Happiness Gap” was only a relationship dealbreaker if the woman was more unhappy than her man. Married women who were miserable were more likely to file for divorce than unhappy hubbies. They also found gaping “Happiness Gaps” in couples that were living together but not married, where the woman did most of the housework, came from a different social background from her man, or made more money than the man. They found much narrower “Happiness Gaps” in couples that came from similar social and religious backgrounds or where the woman was a housewife, student, or retiree. Conclusions? Men, make sure your woman is the happier one in the relationship. Oh, and help with the housework. And women, don’t have a career and a husband if you want to be happy. Womp womp. [Daily Mail] Keep reading »
According to research from Mintel, beauty products will take a new turn in 2010, one that focuses on concretely improving well-being: “Mood beauty” — products that come with psychological benefits by interacting with the body’s neurotransmitters — will be one of the key trends for 2010 among other industry innovations.” So what does that mean, exactly? You might start seeing your cream as advertised with new added “mood enhancers” that claim to improve your state of mind. Of course Origins has been marketing similar products for a long time, and we know of one kitschy company already doing this, Smiley, which became known for its “anti-depressant perfume.” The latter company’s website appears to be down, however, so maybe they went out of business. According to the Independent, you’ll also begin to see products marketed with a larger medical image through “DIY pharmaceutical kits.”
On “Oprah,” I watched a segment on women living in Copenhagen, Denmark. I was struck by the comments of one particular woman. She was tall, lean, blonde, 44 years old, and enjoying her singleness.
Denmark has been named by researchers as the happiest country in the world. There is free health care, free college (as a matter of fact, students are actually paid to attend college), a year paid maternity leave, and four years support if you lose your job. Keep reading »
Just what we all need—a hat that makes us smile. Constantly. It’s called “The Happiness Hat” (obviously) and you either smile in it or suffer the consequences—literally, from a jolt of pain it inflicts upon you. For some reason I don’t think Bright-Sided author Barbara Ehrenreich would be feeling this contraption—because as she sees it, we are a nation of anti-depressant-popping, cheerfulness-obsessed, unrealistic folks who prize a happy outlook above all else. But back to the hat: It literally jabs you in the back of the head with a metal spike when you frown! Check out this ridiculous video of it exacting revenge on some non-smiler. Spooky. Keep reading »
We all know the stories, a beautiful young woman meeting her Prince Charming, falling in love and living happily ever after. What these storytellers fail to mention is that you may have to kiss a lot of frogs before finding your Prince and once you do, there are no guarantees that it will end in happily ever after. In most cases, it will end without the birds singing and wrapped in the pretty bow that we remember from “Cinderella.” Keep reading »
At 13, it was being the odd kid and Zoloft. At 16, dark self-loathing and Prozac. My 17th birthday brought parental issues and Celexa, while my 19th pushed me to anorexia and Prozac again. My early 20s: failed relationships, Effexor, Ativan, fear of getting nowhere, issues at work, and Lexapro. Long story short: I’ve never been a happy camper. True, depression does run in my family, but being diagnosed with it so young, it’s come to be something that’s part of my personality. Keep reading »