A new study from the University of New South Wales has found that expressing gratitude to new acquaintances will earn you friends. The study was put together to explore a theory that suggests that gratitude helps people create new relationships, build on the ones they already have, and help to maintain both. In an effort to test the “new relationships” aspect of that theory, researchers studied 70 university students who gave advice to younger peers. The students were told that they were mentoring high school students and critique their university admissions essays. Afterwards, the mentors received handwritten notes from their faux mentees, and only about half of those notes included an expression of thanks for assisting them with their essays. The mentors who were thanked were more likely to give the younger students their contact information and presumably continue the friendship. The mentors also reported warmer personalities when it came to the grateful mentees, and that warmth is probably why grateful people make lots of friends. Keep reading »
It’s that time of year when many of us gather around the table and give thanks for family, friends, health, happiness, and most importantly, that heaping slice of pumpkin pie we’re going to enjoy later. But something we often forget to be thankful for is, well, ourselves. Each of us possesses unique perspectives, talents, and gifts that guide us through life, and guess what? We can thank our astrological signs for imbuing us with some of those qualities. Want to know why you’re lucky to be a Gemini, Leo, Cancer, or whatever wonderful sign you are? Read on to find out… Keep reading »
Thanksgiving is just around the corner, which means in between gorging on pumpkin pie and crying in the bathroom about something terrible your uncle said, it’s time to give thanks for the multitude of blessings in our lives. We’re pretty good about being grateful for all the usual suspects–health, family, career–but sometimes we overlook all the little things that make life awesome. You know, like a perfectly timed commute or the arrival of a warm bread basket at a restaurant. Read on to see 50 random things we’re so thankful for, and feel free to add your own in the comments! Keep reading »
Thank you notes are kind of a lost art, and that’s why writer Leah Dieterich has made it her mission to bring ‘em back. In her new book, Thx Thx Thx: Thank Goodness for Everything, she lovingly pays homage to all the things she’s thankful for, from the big to small. In the book, Dieterich writes a thank you note a day, to everything from her ponytail (for keeping her hair out of her face) to her ring finger (for being just as powerful without jewelry on it as with it). We could all use a little more gratitude in our lives, wouldn’t you say?
I was getting my morning coffee today at my local neighborhood spot when a blind man walked in. The two baristas and I watched as he used his cane to navigate around. He had wandered into the shop kind of accidentally on purpose. Most likely just to get a whiff of the intoxicating smell of coffee and pastries. But then he couldn’t find his way out, even with his cane. One of the girls came out from behind the counter, took his arm, and escorted him out of the shop. The other looked at me really earnestly and said, “Ya know, we don’t appreciate what we have. We always want more and more. We’re never grateful enough for what we do have.”
I was slightly taken aback since we make small talk every day, but never really talk on that level. How right she was. As I walked out, sipping my coffee, I was inspired to acknowledge what I was grateful for … as hokey as it may sound. Recently, I’ve been thinking about how important it is to be humble, so this seemed like the perfect opportunity. I’m grateful for many things, but for today, I appreciated that I was on my way to a job that I love. What are you grateful for today? Please share in the comments. Keep reading »