going dutch

Dater X: Taking Turns, Investing Equally

This week, I found myself in a position with Scar Twin that I’ve never been in before (and no, I’m not talking about sexual positions— that’s a story for another day). Anyway, as many of you know, my last long-term relationship ended about four years ago when Patrick Bateman decided to have two girlfriends andMore »


Man Steals Date’s Phone After She Refuses To Split The Bill

On the rare occasion that I actually go out on a date with a man, I always bring my wallet. And, when it comes time to pay the bill, most of the time I reach for my wallet in an effort to show that I am willing to pay my half of the tab. Sometimes… More »


Men Are More Inclined To Pay For Dinner If Their Date Is Pretty, Study Finds

Dating is uncomfortable for a lot of reasons, not the least of which is figuring out who pays at the end of the date. You’re a modern, working woman. You don’t need a man to treat you.  On the other hand, who wants fork over $12 per dirty martini if you don’t have to?

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Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: Do You Always Pay The Check On A Date?

Yesterday I wrote about a recent trend: More and more dates end in split checks. Several of my married female friends — and their husbands — were dismayed and shocked to hear about this, and so were some of you. Some believe that whoever does the asking should do the paying, while others think the… More »


Dating Trend: Going Dutch

This weekend I had a conversation with two good friends of mine who are married and have been with their husbands for five-plus years. They were peppering me with questions about my oh-so-exciting dating life, and I mentioned that all the dinners and drinks were getting expensive. “Wait, what do you mean?” they asked. “Aren’t… More »