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Dater X: Taking Turns, Investing Equally

Dater X: Taking Turns, Investing Equally

This week, I found myself in a position with Scar Twin that I’ve never been in before (and no, I’m not talking about sexual positions— that’s a story for another day). Anyway, as many of you know, my last long-term relationship ended about four years ago when Patrick Bateman decided to have two girlfriends and two lives in two different states. Since then, I’ve found myself on an endless carousel ride of courtships lasting approximately two months each before things turn to shit. During those short-lived romances, the issue of money never really came up. And then, this week, it did. Keep reading »

Man Steals Date’s Phone After She Refuses To Split The Bill

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Men foot the dinner bill if their date is pretty, study finds. Read More »
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Man Steals Date's Phone After She Refuses To Go Split The Bill

On the rare occasion that I actually go out on a date with a man, I always bring my wallet. And, when it comes time to pay the bill, most of the time I reach for my wallet in an effort to show that I am willing to pay my half of the tab. Sometimes my date stops me and insists on paying. More often, he doesn’t stop me and I pay half (or more — one time, a date legit itemized down to the cent). Then we usually go back to my apartment and bang and go our separate ways when things get awkward. Kidding! Anyway, the point is, I am prepared to pay for myself on every date, if necessary. Because what if? 

Take what happened to Londoner Fakhara Sultana when she went on a first date with Kishore Nimmala, who she met through the online dating site Zoosk. According to authorities, Sultana and Nimmala had drinks and at the end of the evening, Nimmala expected Sultana to pay her half of the  £54 ($84) bill. Alas, Sultana had assumed — like, frankly, many women would, fairly or unfairly — that Nimmala would be paying for the evening and did not bring money with her. Sultana told authorities that Nimmala followed her to the train, continuing to badger her for the money as he became increasingly angry. When Sultana took out her Blackberry to call for help, Nimmala seized the opportunity to take what he thought he was owed — her phone.  Keep reading »

Men Are More Inclined To Pay For Dinner If Their Date Is Pretty, Study Finds

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On Jessica's newfound respect for men who behave chivalrously. Read More »
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Is Chivalry Sexist?
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Is being a gentleman actually really sexist? Read More »
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Dating is uncomfortable for a lot of reasons, not the least of which is figuring out who pays at the end of the date. You’re a modern, working woman. You don’t need a man to treat you.  On the other hand, who wants fork over $12 per dirty martini if you don’t have to?

It turns out, ladies, that men are doing their own calculations in order to figure out who pays on a date. And the results are ugh-worthy yet not surprising: a new study from the University of St. Andrews in Scotland has found that men are more willing to pay for a date if she’s pretty.  Keep reading »

Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: Do You Always Pay The Check On A Date?

Yesterday I wrote about a recent trend: More and more dates end in split checks. Several of my married female friends — and their husbands — were dismayed and shocked to hear about this, and so were some of you. Some believe that whoever does the asking should do the paying, while others think the guy should always pick up the check, at least for the first few dates. Recently, I went out with three guys in a row who didn’t pick up the check on the first date, and three is a trend, not a case of bad luck. So, I went to the guys on my IM to find out what the hell is going on. Turns out, I should be dating them. Keep reading »

Dating Trend: Going Dutch

This weekend I had a conversation with two good friends of mine who are married and have been with their husbands for five-plus years. They were peppering me with questions about my oh-so-exciting dating life, and I mentioned that all the dinners and drinks were getting expensive. “Wait, what do you mean?” they asked. “Aren’t the guys paying?”

“Oh, no,” I responded. “Men don’t seem to be doing that anymore. Every date I’ve gone on, the check has been split.” They were aghast. What had happened to the tradition of men paying for dates since they were single? Was it the economy? Were men cheaper? Women more insistent on paying their share?
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