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Girl Talk: On The Stigma Of Mental Illness In The Asian Community

It was a workday of minor annoyances. Everything at my temp job had gone normally, except for a snippy email from IT and a laminator malfunction that forced me to dig out a half-laminated page with a fork.

So why was I crouched in a bathroom stall, hyperventilating, sobbing, and trying not to… More »


Girl Talk: I Was Terrified Of Sex

Me: I’m sorry! It’s just not going in!

Him: Don’t worry – we can always try later…

Me: I’m really sorry! I’m just so scared! (Sobbing. Tearful search for bra.) What if this never works?

That was me and my now-fiancé during one of many abortive attempts to have… More »


Girl Talk: Confessions Of A Thin-Privileged Fat Activist

Once upon a time — before URLs, handles, likes and shares — I put some good old-fashioned postage stamps inside an envelope and sent away for a zine (made of actual paper!) that was filled with some very big ideas. I was 16 and the zine was called i’m so fucking beautiful, a title that… More »


Girl Talk: My Husband’s Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Was A Living Nightmare

My husband was always a little strange — but that’s par for the course in a marriage sometimes. Sure, he covered his face whenever he encountered the smell of bleach, and he took to maniacal cleaning rather than use poisons to eradicate a cockroach problem. He demanded we turned off the heat at night to… More »


Girl Talk: Yeah, I Can Squirt

I’m no sexual stunt woman. I didn’t even know female ejaculation existed until about five years ago. At the time, it seemed like nothing I needed to worry about. You’d probably have to really put in an effort to make something like that happen, I figured. I had more important things to do. But then… More »


Girl Talk: Why I Love MMA Fighting

The first MMA fight that I saw was by accident. I was visiting a friend at her apartment and her boyfriend and his friends were watching the last battle in a trio of fights between Quinton Jackson and Wanderlei Silva, two notable MMA fighters. I’d always had a healthy respect for the craft of boxing… More »


Girl Talk: I Lied To My Gynecologist About My Number Of Sexual Partners

I didn’t think I was ashamed of the number of sexual partners I’ve had in the 20 years I’ve been getting it on until I found myself filling in a number half the true total at a recent gynecologist appointment. Although I know doctors are trained not to judge, and this doctor in particular had… More »


Girl Talk: I’m Being Brutally Honest In My Online Dating Profile

“I’m an empty essay, fill me out!” the words beckoned under the Self Summary section of my brand new, totally blank OkCupid profile.

Armed with a Diet Coke and a new resolve, I was actually signing up for online dating, something I hadn’t done in three years. And not because I was in… More »


Girl Talk: Confessions Of A Nude Model

The flash went off with a “pop” and the photographer patiently told me to loosen up. My hands were sweaty and my heart was beating a mile a minute. Trying my best to concentrate, I twisted into an elegant pose and took a deep breath to soften my expression. The resulting photograph was beautiful but… More »


Girl Talk: I Have Long Labia

I’m not sure when or in what context I first realized that I have long labia. Maybe it was that teasing comment from an ex boyfriend, oh, seven years ago. Maybe it occurred to me at some point when I was watching porn and noticed that mine looked different. Maybe it was in the shower,… More »


Girl Talk: I Left Ballet Over A Dance Injury

It was a typical Orange County night at the tail end of a long, lazy winter break. The plethora of yogurt shops in the neighborhood were closing, and even if you craved a Starbucks treat, it was too late in suburbia. The few dive-bars in the area boasted their usual divorcee crowd. My mom, dad… More »


Girl Talk: I Like To Be Bitten

It was after L left and I looked in the mirror that I realized I might have a problem. My breasts and neck were covered in bruises and bite marks. One was even bleeding; that would leave a scar. I was heading to my parents’ house in two days for Christmas, and although I knew… More »


Girl Talk: Facing My Doctor Phobia

By the age of 16, I had been for multiple MRI’s, a sonogram, an ultrasound and five rounds of allergy testing, diagnosed with epilepsy, rediagnosed with benign paroxysmal positional vertigo, hospitalized for dehydration, broke my wrist then got the chicken pox the following week, had my sinuses irrigated, a begin cyst removed from my skull,… More »


Girl Talk: I’m A Lesbian Who Loves Channing Tatum

When I came out as a lesbian, my mom cited my rabid N’Sync fandom as evidence that I was obviously mistaken. She was certain that my liking a group of effeminate, nearly prepubescent boys, gyrating to songs about feelings was indicative of my heterosexuality. I’ve used that story as the punch line to my coming… More »


Girl Talk: How I’ve Turned Having Breast Cancer Into A Blessing

Did you know that about 10,000 “young” women will get breast cancer this year? I do now. I am one of them.

It all started while my boyfriend and I were away for a long weekend to celebrate my 29th birthday. We were lying in bed and I reached my arm across my… More »


Girl Talk: My Parents Are Threatening To Move Away If I Don’t Give Them A Grandchild

My sister is the good daughter. My sister was kind enough to get married and procreate. She’s not only doing the species a favor, but my parents as well. My parents had always wanted to be grandparents to a couple of rascals. My sister gave them two: Jackson and Elliot. My parents are obsessed with… More »


Girl Talk: Going Off Of Antidepressants Will Make You Feel Worse Than Depressed

Greetings from zombie-land.

That’s where I’m currently residing as I go through antidepressant withdrawal. It’s a horribly dizzying place, filled with bouts of insomnia, nausea and an episode of neverending flu. It’s not a place I recommend visiting, and yet, I’ve found myself here because I decided to get off of Paxil, the… More »


Girl Talk: How I Learned To Stop Equivocating And Just Remove The Jerks From My Life

In the past couple of months, I’ve tried something new: I’ve removed people from my life  who were not adding anything to it. I de-friended on Facebook. I unfollowed on Twitter. I stopped responding to emails.

This is so unlike me. … More »


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