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Girl Talk: Why Valentine’s Day Gets To Us, Even Though We Know It’s Pointless

Dating Don'ts: VDay
Valentine's Day is not an excuse! Read More »
Fixing To Find Love
3 Things You Don't Need To Fix About Yourself To Find Love
Here are a few things your DON'T need to fix about yourself to find love. Read More »
VDay Treats
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Treat yourself on Valentine's Day...but not like this. Read More »
Open Letter: Single Self
Ami wrote a letter to her single self. Read More »
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We all know that Valentine’s Day is a contrivance of greeting card companies and florists. We all know that even those who have nice relationships aren’t really enjoying February 14th, as there is nothing particularly romantic about eating overpriced heart-shaped ravioli in a restaurant full of unhappy couples on the coldest night of the year.

And yet, the holiday still manages to make us feel like shit.

Every stupid drug-store box of chocolates, every generic bouquet of deli roses, every Macy’s ad hawking tacky jewelry and embarrassing underwear is all basically saying this: Everyone is buying this crap, knowing full well it’s crap, because there is someone out there who they love, and they don’t want that person to be left out. You, on the other hand, are being left out. Keep reading »

The Most Ridiculous Assumptions People Make About Being Kinky

Kinky Sex Myths
Five myths about kinky sex from "50 Shades Of Grey." Read More »
Be Sex Positive!
Eight ways to be positive you're sex positive. Read More »
On BDSM
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BDSM is not "consensual domestic violence." Read More »

Let’s set the scene: I’m 23, drinking chai in a charming coffee shop. Sitting across from me is a gloriously burly guy in a leather jacket (and, as I know from his Fetlife photos, also in possession of two equally glorious full sleeves of serpent tattoos).

Then the conversation veers from what we do for a living to something more intense. He takes my hand, gently stroking the back of it, and indicates the deeply unsexy red burn line on my wrist.

“And is this from doing one of your… scenes?” he whispers in a voice full of anticipation.

“Nah,” I say. “I burned myself making muffins this morning.”

The devastation on his face is so remarkable that I wish I had taken a picture. It was like I’d farted right before he was about to come, AND kicked his puppy in the face.

Next, he asked me if I’d like to have sex with him in his car, which was currently parked on a busy street during the height of tourist season. I ended the date right then and there and sulked my way through the rest of my tea, alone, wondering how something that seemed so promising could go so wrong in the span of 15 minutes. Was it unreasonable to assume that I didn’t need to be constantly projecting submissive vibes during a first date? And certainly other kinksters made muffins, right? Keep reading »

Girl Talk: My Husband’s Imaginary Wife

On The Word "Wife"
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It's okay, the word "wife" isn't going to bite. Read More »
Flirting And Marriage
One woman's husband cockblocks her her flirting attempts. Read More »
My Husband Partied
While I was pregnant, and it caused tension. Read More »
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“You would be in better shape if you had a German wife,” I tell my husband.

I’m sure this is true. Not only do the Germans have a fondness for fitness, but they generally don’t take a lot of shit. As an American, I am more susceptible to his feeble pleas that pizza has been classified as a vegetable, and both our waistlines suffer for it.

“You would be the funniest person in the relationship if you had a German wife,” I tease him. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Adventures In Intuitive Eating

Better Body Affirmations
Body Image Tips For Teen Girls
Makes these your mantra. Read More »
Open Letter: Fat Girl
Winona pens an open letter to the fat girl. Read More »
Stop "Fat Talk"
Seven ways to stop yourself from engaging in "fat talk." Read More »
Girl Talk: Adventures In Intuitive Eating

We’re all born with the ability to eat intuitively, to listen to our body’s needs, to eat nourishing foods when we’re hungry, to stop when we’re full. It’s our default setting; our natural state. Even just writing that out right now, it’s such a “duh” that I can’t believe how easy and common it is for people to lose this ability, but it is. I stopped eating intuitively when I was a kid. I can’t pinpoint one exact moment that my sense of hunger became more emotional than physical, but I remember lots of little moments that helped redefine my relationship with food:

  • When I realized that eating half a box of Cheez-Its after school made me feel numb to the mean things my classmates had said to me that day.
  • When my grandma literally stuffed cookies into my mouth while saying, “Don’t get fat.”
  • When I started eating tons of refined carbs to self-medicate my ADD.
  • When I learned to lean on food for emotional support.

And even beyond all that, I just genuinely love food. Always have. I view it as one of life’s great pleasures, but like any pleasure, overdoing it is a surefire way to take all the pleasure out of it. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: What Taking Good Care Of Yourself Really Means

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Girl Talk: Being Content Is So Much Harder Than It Sounds
Is so much harder than it sounds. Read More »
Girl Talk: Alone
Why alone time is so important. Read More »
On Saying "No"
Ami talks about how she needs to learn how to say, "No." Read More »
Girl Talk: What Taking Good Care Of Yourself Really Means

“What time do you go to bed?” the acupuncturist asked while monitoring my pulse.

“Like, midnight?” I said.

“And what time do you wake up?” she asked, examining my tongue.

“Um, 6:30,” I said, proudly.

I’ve always thought of excessive sleeping as a sign of weakness. Just for myself, not for others. It’s too closely related to depression, so I try not to do too much of it. I didn’t say this out loud, of course.

We sat there, staring at each other for a silent moment.

“You need to sleep more,” she told me. “You don’t take good care of yourself.”

That’s when I started to cry.

“Let her out,” she said. “Let the real you out.” Keep reading »

Girl Talk: An Engagement Ring? No, Thanks!

Girl Talk: An Engagement Ring? No, Thanks!

I am a woman who is engaged to be married. But unlike lots of your friends who are busy posting photographs of their diamond engagement rings on Facebook, you wouldn’t be able to tell by looking at my left hand.

This is because I told my fiancée many times before we got engaged that I wasn’t interested in getting an engagement ring at all, diamonds or no. There are a lot of reasons I feel this way, including my particular indifference to jewelry. “Honestly, I’d rather have an iPad,” I told him.

Diamond engagement rings are a translation of a much older sexist tradition of putting a down payment on one’s bride. This is, incidentally, still legally the case. In many states a bride-to-be can still sue her fiancée for breach of contract if he breaks off the engagement, as a Georgia woman did last year. After all, it is only women who are marked with an engagement ring as taken, suggesting that the balance of power doesn’t lie with the one who wears it. Keep reading »

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