‘Twas the season for engagements and this Washington State couple won. Bethany Albert came home on Christmas Eve to discover her whole family dressed in Regency garb and holding scripts that her boyfriend David Slater had written to reenact the perfect Pride & Prejudice-themed proposal in character. David played Mr. Darcy and Bethany, of course, played Lizzie Bennet! Click through to see how Bethany’s family pulled it all off to ensure an August wedding! [All images by Lisa Hepfur via Imgur and BuzzFeed]
I am a woman who is engaged to be married. But unlike lots of your friends who are busy posting photographs of their diamond engagement rings on Facebook, you wouldn’t be able to tell by looking at my left hand.
This is because I told my fiancée many times before we got engaged that I wasn’t interested in getting an engagement ring at all, diamonds or no. There are a lot of reasons I feel this way, including my particular indifference to jewelry. “Honestly, I’d rather have an iPad,” I told him.
Diamond engagement rings are a translation of a much older sexist tradition of putting a down payment on one’s bride. This is, incidentally, still legally the case. In many states a bride-to-be can still sue her fiancée for breach of contract if he breaks off the engagement, as a Georgia woman did last year. After all, it is only women who are marked with an engagement ring as taken, suggesting that the balance of power doesn’t lie with the one who wears it. Keep reading »
“I don’t think I realized what 19 truly is, and I got engaged at 19 and I definitely wouldn’t change being engaged. It was so fun wearing a fat rock for a few years. But now I wait for those moments of silence, when I’m just at my house by myself. … I was so scared of ever being alone, and I think conquering that fear this year was actually bigger than any other transition that I had this entire year. I don’t ever want to have to need someone again where you feel like, without them, you can’t be yourself.”
Is that really Miley Cyrus talking? That girl in the cat-patterned playsuit who twerks on Father Christmas and lights joints onstage? She’s taken a minute from screaming “PAY ATTENTION TO MEEEEEE!” to do an interview for “Barbara Walters Presents: The 10 Most Fascinating People Of 2013.” While I beg to disagree that Miley is fascinating — I mean, maybe in like a five-car pileup way? — she did say something refreshingly mature to Babs. Miley doesn’t regret getting engaged to Liam Hemsworth but said she stayed engaged to him way longer than she should have because she was afraid of being alone. She sure isn’t the only person to have this fear, not by a long shot, and good for her to realize it at 21. Yes, let’s keep this up. More self-awareness please! [E! Online] [Image via Getty]
“It was so amazing to be proposed to on live TV! … I had no idea the “interview” was actually a planned, surprise on-air proposal, hence my shock. The element of surprise did prevail and it was the happiest moment ever! I really could not have asked for anything more. … I am unhappy about the recent backlash that was received from my on-air engagement to Chirag [Shah]. He does not deserve to be labeled self-centered on feminist websites like Jezebel critiquing the entire experience when he is the most thoughtful person I know. I am moved by the beautiful proposal he arranged out of a genuine intention to make me happy. All of my close friends and family members cried when they saw it because of how sweet it was. My time on the show was never supposed to be about my work as it was about a proposal Chirag wanted to surprise me with on our four-year anniversary. … It was disappointing for people to apply their own lens and cultural biases to interpret that I was pissed off and upset about not getting to speak about my work.”
Last week, the Internet cringed when a woman named Simone Jhingoor appeared on “The Today Show” and began to speak about her non-profit Women’s Housing and Economic Development Corporation … only to be awkwardly interrupted by her boyfriend, Chirag Shah, who proceeded to tell her she wasn’t on the show to talk about her job, she was there because he wanted to propose! As Jhingoor clenched uncomfortably, looking irritated, her boyfriend literally grabbed the microphone from Al Roker and asked her to marry him on live TV. It’s not that the intended sentiment wasn’t sweet; it was that the execution means when you search “awkward marriage proposal,” theirs comes up on the first page of Google.
Shah immediately got bopped for duping his now-fiancee into thinking she’d be speaking about a very worthy cause, as well as proposing on live television to someone who so clearly seemed uncomfortable with it. But here’s Jhingoor in an interview with YourTango, insisting — methinks a bit too much — that she was thrilled, thrilled about her on-air engagement! Um, not sure we believe you, but okay. I’m not quite sure why she is now saying “my time on the show was never supposed to be about my work,” because it clearly wasn’t — she just thought it was. But whatever, maybe this whole awkward affair actually ended up drawing more attention to her nonprofit in the long run! [YourTango]
Shortly after Patrick and I got engaged, my mom called with a request that was so cute, I didn’t know what to say: “The ladies at church want to throw you a bridal shower.”
The “ladies” in question were women who had watched me grow up in our small-town Methodist church, with whose daughters I attended countless birthday parties, bunked with at church camp and defied the chaperones at all-night lock-ins for Jesus.
I was touched. I hadn’t had a conversation with these women for years and yet they wanted to throw me a party. And not just any party. A presents party! Keep reading »
It happened in slow motion; I couldn’t stop myself. It was like I watched from outside my body — NOOOOOOOOOOOOGGGHHH — as I reached into the seat pocket, pulled out my phone, and took an artsy photo of — STTTOOOOOOOOOOOOOOPPPP — my newly paired engagement ring and wedding band.
“It’s a six-hour flight to Hawaii,” I probably told myself. “What else am I going to do to pass the time?”
And then a force greater than myself caused my thumbs to move swiftly across the iPhone screen, open Instagram, and post the photo — tinted green, of course, to match my beautifully manicured, fir-colored fingernails and peridot-paired diamond, posed artfully above the mostly unreadable text of a Big Island guidebook — before I even knew what I was doing. Keep reading »