Earlier this week, we asked you: “What Would Get You To Take Your Ex Back?” From a look at the results of the poll, not much. Forty-three percent of you said that there’s nothing he could do to get you to change your mind, and that getting involved again would mean “giving up when I just need to move on.” The unfortunate truth is that you can’t make someone love you.

But! There is a but ... what if you still both love each other (either consciously or subconsciously), yet you’ve gone your separate ways? Maybe you never moved on from the feelings you have because no one else compared, or you both weren’t at places in your lives to make things work. In that case, there’s potential to re-ignite the relationship. Of course, you have to prepare for the probable possibility that your Ex isn’t interested. There’s no middle ground when it comes to re-wooing: either it works, or you have to look at it as an opportunity to finally move on. The not knowing still driving you crazy? Here, we looked at what you said, put in our own two cents, and came up with some tips to give it a go, both for guys and girls.

In his August “Jake (A Man’s Opinion)” column in Glamour, single guy Jake discusses “7 ‘Sexy’ Things That Aren’t” (which reminds us of our Sweet Overload: 15 Ways A Guy Can Overdo It). In the last paragraph he writes:

I was at dinner with my last girlfriend, Claudia, admiring the candlelight reflecting off her olive skin, the warmth of her smile and…hold on, was that glitter on her eyes? In glitter’s defense, it’s not not sexy; maybe it’s even in style right now. But it marks the point where makeup veers into arts ‘n’ crafts. No man dates a woman because she’s an expert with cosmetics. He dates you for what’s underneath all that. P.S. Claudia, I miss you, spangles and all.

Even though Jake kind of dissed Claudia’s glitter eyeshadow, he still was man enough to admit he missed her—and he put his feelings in print for millions of people to read. How romantic! So we’d like to know what’s the most romantic thing a former lover has done to win you back or what have you done to get a lover back? Tell us in the comments.