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12 Famous Women Who’ve Used Their Sexuality (To Get Ahead)

The combination of tits and drive can, apparently, cause the internet to crash. In the past six months I’ve watched as publications and writers I admire scrutinize Lana Del Rey for representing a “passive femininity,” gawk at young writer Marie Calloway for sleeping with older, more established male writers and shake their heads at Rihanna for not giving a f**k anymore and Instagramming intimate moments from her party-fueled lifestyle. What is more controversial than a woman using her sexuality in order to get ahead? I guess, not apologizing for it.

The main reason for feminist criticism in these cases is that the image of sexuality projected by these women doesn’t look “transgressive” — it looks too much like the role assigned by mainstream, for the benefit of the male gaze. These images read socially as “hot,” seemingly heterosexual and femme.  I mean, I love it when women rock the boat with their sexual expression. I enjoy the “man repeller” fashion trend, I like seeing stars like Amy Poehler not in suggestive poses on the pages of magazines, I like the ugly-funny sex in “Girls.” But I also think there should be room for more. Why can’t a fantasy-driven  femme, submissive, seemingly heterosexual display of female sexuality be a genuine one? Why can’t the image of a self-destructive Lana Del Rey in heart-shaped sunglasses be one of her own creation?

With those questions in mind, click through for a celebration of famous women who are using their sexuality and not apologizing for it.

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Geena Davis Believes We’re Not Done Creating Gender Equality

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Bill says empowering women and girls is essential in the 21st century. Read More »
Marriage Equality In WA
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The state of Washington passed a marriage equality bill. Read More »
Lea T On Gender
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Transexual model Lea T explains her gender expression. Read More »

“I just gave a commencement address at a local girls’ high school and one point I made was to realize that that the job of creating gender equality was not yet done. There’s a tendency for the younger generation to think that the women’s movement made enormous progress and that we’re pretty much set, you know, we’re good. And certainly college girls don’t want to hear anything about feminism. But the facts are not so good. While the girls may enter various fields at 50 percent as compared to the boys, even higher in some cases, that percentage drops off severely as early as the very first level of promotion. And then it’s like a pyramid that gets very skinny at the top, at the CEO level and the board level. So I asked them to be conscious of this, to notice the numbers and to proceed with that consciousness.”

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Why A Men’s Center At Canada’s Simon Fraser University Should Not Be Controversial

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Last month, the student society at Simon Fraser University in British Columbia, Canada, approved $30,000 to establish a men’s center. The center’s main supporter, a student named Keneen Midgely, said the volunteer-run men’s center would only be equitable, considering SFU already has had a women’s center since 1974. It would be a space, he pointed out, for men to support each other and deconstruct masculinity and gender roles just like SFU women can.

I couldn’t agree more. Yet somehow, establishment of the SFU men’s center is controversial. Instead of being seen in a positive light as a “safe space” for men, it is being seen as an unnecessary, even frivolous, expense to give men their own space in what is already a patriarchal culture.  Keep reading »

Today’s Lady News: Little Girls & Their Pink Things Make For A Fascinating Photo Project

My Little Pony
Author Peggy Orenstein has a bone to pick with My Little Pony dolls. Read More »
Pink Stinks For Toys
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Some parents are upset their little girls are given pink toys. Read More »
Sexist Beliefs
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Sexist beliefs are passed down more from mothers than fathers, study finds. Read More »
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  • As if you needed further proof that toy companies are ruthless when it comes to marketing “girls” and “boys” toys in the basest way possible: “The Pink & blue Project,” by photographer JeongMee Yoon, captures little girls and their pink — very pink — toys, dolls, shoes and clothes. [Flavorwire]
  • Feminist activists Gloria Steinem, Robin Morgan and Jane Fonda say it’s time for the FCC to step in and deal with Rush Limbaugh, who recently called Sandra Fluke a “slut” and a “prostitute” on-air. I suspect the FCC is too busy keeping an eagle-eye out for wardrobe malfunctions. [Christian Science Monitor]
  • Here’s a delightful compendium of Rush Limbaugh’s worst comments about women … [Seattle PI]
  • … including a special focus on his use of the word “feminazi.” [Media Matters For America] Keep reading »

British PSA About Male Rape Proves It’s Hard To Please Everybody

Date Rape PSA
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This date rape PSA has been accused of blaming the victim. Read More »
Dating Good Guys
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Not every woman wants to date an a-hole. Read More »
Depressed Men
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Threats to masculinity lead to depressed men. Read More »
Real Men Get Raped PSA

The issues of male rape and sexual abuse get plenty of sensationalistic air time on “Law & Order: SVU,” but not so much substantive awareness in our day-to-day lives. While it is true that reported sexual abuse of girls and women is far more prevalent than male abuse, I also assume acknowledging or discussing male sexual abuse brings up uncomfortable feelings amongst guys about masculinity and what it means to be a “strong man.” There’s even vicious stereotypes that dog gay guys — who are routinely denigrated as being “not manly enough” — that they must have been sexually abused as kids. In a way, that’s kind of all you need to know about what some (perhaps many) people think of male sexual abuse survivors. 

So it makes sense then, from a messaging standpoint, that to reach male victims of sexual abuse, the UK group Survivors UK would address “masculinity” head-on. Their new campaign, which launches this week in time for a rugby tournament in London, features a rugby ball (speared by a nail, I think?) and the slogan: “Real men get raped: and talking about it takes real strength.” Keep reading »

Bill Introduced To Ban Abortions Based On Sex & Race

Abortion Lies
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CPCs scolded for misleading women about abortion. Read More »
Black Men Targeted
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This anti-abortion billboard targets black men. Read More »
Womb Is "Dangerous"
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"The most dangerous place for a black person is in the womb." Whoa. Read More »
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Abortion rights are being screwed with yet again! The Susan B. Anthony and Frederick Douglass Prenatal Nondiscrimination Act seeks to criminalize abortions based on the race or the sex of the fetus. That might sound good to some people: supporters of the bill quickly point out how many female fetuses are aborted in China, where there is a one-child policy in most areas and a nationwide preference for boys. However, a closer look at the bill reveals that it’s yet another tricky-dick move by abortion opponents to restrict abortion rights and make life more difficult for abortion providers. Keep reading »

Oops! Men Only Think About Sex 19 Times A Day, Not 8,000

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Just kidding! There was a slight miscalculation. Men don’t actually think about sex every seven seconds. I always thought that 8,000 sexual thoughts a day seemed like an oppressive estimate.  New research says that men are not the wild, hyper-sexualized beasts science made them out to be. Men’s sexual notions happen more like once every hour. Much more manageable. The study, done at Ohio State University, found that in addition to their sexual thoughts, guys actually think about (gasp!) other things during the course of a day like eating and napping. The men in the study thought about sex an average of 19 times a day with food a close second at 18 times a day, while women thought about sex an average of 10 times a day and food 15 times. Keep reading »

Why Are The Best Shows On TV About Dudes?

Dr. Pepper's "Manly" Soda
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Dr. Pepper Ten says it's "not for women." Read More »
On "Man Caves"
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Why are we told men need "man caves" to be happy? Read More »
"Mad Men" Q&A
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An interview with actor Bryan Batt, who plays Sal Romano. Read More »
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There’s an interesting essay Chuck Klosterman wrote (it’s really very good, read the whole thing here) where he postulates:

There doesn’t seem to be much debate over what have been the four best television shows of the past 10 years. It seems like an easy question to answer, particularly since it’s become increasingly difficult to write about the state of TV (or even the state of popular culture) without tangentially mentioning one of the following four programs — “The Sopranos,” “The Wire,” “Mad Men,” and/or “Breaking Bad.”

And that’s not just a Chuck Klosterman opinion. A commenter on a Vulture Recap of Breaking Bad remarks:

“This past season ‘Breaking Bad’ passed ‘The Sopranos’ as the best show ever on television (followed by ‘Deadwood’ and ‘Mad Men’).”

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Andrej Pejic Says His Looks Are “Personal”

“The way I need to look, it’s a very personal thing. When I started experimenting, it was to make myself feel happy, to look in the mirror and be satisfied. I never did drag or anything like that. It was always that I wanted to be pretty, to look beautiful, as a girl would want to … In this society, if a man is called a woman, that’s the biggest insult he could get. Is that because women are considered something less?”

–Gender-bending model Andrej Pejic on his androgynous looks. I find it fascinating that Pejic says that he needs to look the way that he does — it highlights that, for transgender people, the desire to dress or perform as one gender identity or another isn’t simply a matter of dress up, but one of necessity. Pejic also says that he doesn’t ever mind being mistaken for a woman, despite the idea that men typically balk at being called female, and brings up an interesting hypothesis as to why. [NYMag] Keep reading »

Morning Quickies: Tim Gunn Thinks Hillary Clinton Is “Confused About Her Gender”

 

  • Tim Gunn thinks Secretary of State Hillary Clinton is “confused about her gender.” The claws came out when Gunn went on “Lopez Tonight” and dissed Clinton’s “big, baggy menswear tailored pantsuits. No, I’m really serious. [They're] unflattering.” Wow. Inappropriate. She’s pushing 70 and works in government — what exactly do you want from her? [Celebitchy]
  • Lady Gaga is co-hosting “The View” on August 1. Consider us there. [Gossip Cop]
  • A heavily pregnant Jessica Alba and sex guru Sue Johanson shared “The Tonight Show” couch and Alba took the opportunity to ask about pregnancy sex. “As someone who’s in the later stage of pregnancy, is there any way to harm the baby during intercourse?” She asked. “That baby is in there and that baby ain’t going nowhere until it’s ready,” Johanson said. “That uterus wall is just like that.” Good to know. [Celebitchy]

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