Tag Archives: gender

British PSA About Male Rape Proves It’s Hard To Please Everybody

Date Rape PSA
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This date rape PSA has been accused of blaming the victim. Read More »
Dating Good Guys
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Not every woman wants to date an a-hole. Read More »
Depressed Men
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Threats to masculinity lead to depressed men. Read More »

The issues of male rape and sexual abuse get plenty of sensationalistic air time on “Law & Order: SVU,” but not so much substantive awareness in our day-to-day lives. While it is true that reported sexual abuse of girls and women is far more prevalent than male abuse, I also assume acknowledging or discussing male sexual abuse brings up uncomfortable feelings amongst guys about masculinity and what it means to be a “strong man.” There’s even vicious stereotypes that dog gay guys — who are routinely denigrated as being “not manly enough” — that they must have been sexually abused as kids. In a way, that’s kind of all you need to know about what some (perhaps many) people think of male sexual abuse survivors. 

So it makes sense then, from a messaging standpoint, that to reach male victims of sexual abuse, the UK group Survivors UK would address “masculinity” head-on. Their new campaign, which launches this week in time for a rugby tournament in London, features a rugby ball (speared by a nail, I think?) and the slogan: “Real men get raped: and talking about it takes real strength.” Keep reading »

Bill Introduced To Ban Abortions Based On Sex & Race

Abortion Lies
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CPCs scolded for misleading women about abortion. Read More »
Black Men Targeted
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This anti-abortion billboard targets black men. Read More »
Womb Is "Dangerous"
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"The most dangerous place for a black person is in the womb." Whoa. Read More »

Abortion rights are being screwed with yet again! The Susan B. Anthony and Frederick Douglass Prenatal Nondiscrimination Act seeks to criminalize abortions based on the race or the sex of the fetus. That might sound good to some people: supporters of the bill quickly point out how many female fetuses are aborted in China, where there is a one-child policy in most areas and a nationwide preference for boys. However, a closer look at the bill reveals that it’s yet another tricky-dick move by abortion opponents to restrict abortion rights and make life more difficult for abortion providers. Keep reading »

Oops! Men Only Think About Sex 19 Times A Day, Not 8,000

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15 things you don't really need to know! Read More »
Sex = Love
Ladies should be prepared to fall in love if they have sex. Read More »

Just kidding! There was a slight miscalculation. Men don’t actually think about sex every seven seconds. I always thought that 8,000 sexual thoughts a day seemed like an oppressive estimate.  New research says that men are not the wild, hyper-sexualized beasts science made them out to be. Men’s sexual notions happen more like once every hour. Much more manageable. The study, done at Ohio State University, found that in addition to their sexual thoughts, guys actually think about (gasp!) other things during the course of a day like eating and napping. The men in the study thought about sex an average of 19 times a day with food a close second at 18 times a day, while women thought about sex an average of 10 times a day and food 15 times. Keep reading »

Why Are The Best Shows On TV About Dudes?

Dr. Pepper's "Manly" Soda
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Dr. Pepper Ten says it's "not for women." Read More »
On "Man Caves"
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Why are we told men need "man caves" to be happy? Read More »
"Mad Men" Q&A
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An interview with actor Bryan Batt, who plays Sal Romano. Read More »

There’s an interesting essay Chuck Klosterman wrote (it’s really very good, read the whole thing here) where he postulates:

There doesn’t seem to be much debate over what have been the four best television shows of the past 10 years. It seems like an easy question to answer, particularly since it’s become increasingly difficult to write about the state of TV (or even the state of popular culture) without tangentially mentioning one of the following four programs — “The Sopranos,” “The Wire,” “Mad Men,” and/or “Breaking Bad.”

And that’s not just a Chuck Klosterman opinion. A commenter on a Vulture Recap of Breaking Bad remarks:

“This past season ‘Breaking Bad’ passed ‘The Sopranos’ as the best show ever on television (followed by ‘Deadwood’ and ‘Mad Men’).”

Well, if you say so. Keep reading »

Andrej Pejic Says His Looks Are “Personal”

“The way I need to look, it’s a very personal thing. When I started experimenting, it was to make myself feel happy, to look in the mirror and be satisfied. I never did drag or anything like that. It was always that I wanted to be pretty, to look beautiful, as a girl would want to … In this society, if a man is called a woman, that’s the biggest insult he could get. Is that because women are considered something less?”

–Gender-bending model Andrej Pejic on his androgynous looks. I find it fascinating that Pejic says that he needs to look the way that he does — it highlights that, for transgender people, the desire to dress or perform as one gender identity or another isn’t simply a matter of dress up, but one of necessity. Pejic also says that he doesn’t ever mind being mistaken for a woman, despite the idea that men typically balk at being called female, and brings up an interesting hypothesis as to why. [NYMag] Keep reading »

Morning Quickies: Tim Gunn Thinks Hillary Clinton Is “Confused About Her Gender”

 

  • Tim Gunn thinks Secretary of State Hillary Clinton is “confused about her gender.” The claws came out when Gunn went on “Lopez Tonight” and dissed Clinton’s “big, baggy menswear tailored pantsuits. No, I’m really serious. [They're] unflattering.” Wow. Inappropriate. She’s pushing 70 and works in government — what exactly do you want from her? [Celebitchy]
  • Lady Gaga is co-hosting “The View” on August 1. Consider us there. [Gossip Cop]
  • A heavily pregnant Jessica Alba and sex guru Sue Johanson shared “The Tonight Show” couch and Alba took the opportunity to ask about pregnancy sex. “As someone who’s in the later stage of pregnancy, is there any way to harm the baby during intercourse?” She asked. “That baby is in there and that baby ain’t going nowhere until it’s ready,” Johanson said. “That uterus wall is just like that.” Good to know. [Celebitchy]

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Not Acting Like “A Lady” Will Get You Dissed In Congress

Today from the “Seriously, Is Everyone In Congress Trapped In The 1950s?” file: a Congressman and a Congresswoman from Florida are unhappy with each other and he decided the best way to deal with this was to email her to tell her she is “not a lady.” Not a lady? Oh my stars!

Rep. Debbie Wasserman Schultz, a Democrat, was apparently stepping on some toes while talking about Medicare. Eh, it happens. But Rep. Allen West, a Tea Partier/Republican, pitched a fit. Naturally, as you do in situations like this, he fired off an email with the subject line “Unprofessional and Inappropriate Sophomoric Behavior from Wasserman-Schultz” to former Speaker of the House Nancy Pelosi and a whole bunch of other people. Let’s see what he had to say! Keep reading »

J. Crew Ad Called “Blatant Propaganda Celebrating Transgender Children”

I didn’t think I could love Jenna Lyons, Creative Director for J. Crew, any more, but my respect for her has grown tenfold beyond just loving her work with the line. On the brand’s website, there’s a feature called “Saturday with Jenna,” featuring photographs of Lyons hanging out with her son Beckett (above). In one photo, she’s seen holding her son’s tiny feet, freshly pedicured with a hot pink Essie polish. The accompanying quote reads:

“Lucky for me, I ended up with a boy whose favorite color is pink. Toenail painting is way more fun in neon.”

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12 Reasons Why Women Don’t Listen To Men

Psychologist Robert Leahy made a list of reasons why men don’t listen to women. Sure maybe he’s not listening to us because he want us to be rational rather than emotional, but it’s pretty likely that at that point, we’re not listening to him either. While this list is an interesting look at why communication breaks down between the sexes from the male perspective, we thought it would only be fair to make a list of reasons why women tune men out. Check them out after the jump. Why do you stop listening? Share in the comments. Keep reading »

Poll: How Do You Respond To Cat-Calling?

How Do You Respond To Cat-Calling?

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