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Barbie Now Has Her Own Construction Site

Little Girls & LEGOs
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Remixed Toy Ads
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Sexist Toy Catalogs
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When I was a little girl, playing LEGOs with my little brother was far from appealing. Not only did I have no interest in hanging out with him anyway, but I much preferred settling myself in my bedroom loft, cutting my Barbie’s hair off and allowing her to scandalously peck my Swan Princess Prince Derek Barbie doll on the cheek. Barbie got lucky with him. He was a hunk.

Next week, though, Mattel will be combining a LEGO-like atmosphere with Barbie in their new construction set, Mega Bloks Barbie Build ‘n Style. This new toy, featuring a mini-Barbie that can attach to each construction site, comes in various scenes like “a fashion boutique, a mansion and an ice cream cart,” where the children can rearrange and build the play set themselves. Keep reading »

Mommie Dearest: Why Toy Catalogs Make Me Roll My Eyes

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Why LEGOs "for girls" are extremely popular. Read More »
Remixed Toy Ads
Remixed toy ads tell the truth about gendered marketing. Read More »
Sweet Or Creepy?
Disney princess doll
Put your daughter's face on a Disney princess doll. Read More »

Mommie Dearest is The Frisky’s new biweekly column about being a mama.

I have a love/hate relationship with catalogs. There are some that I love to flip through and pretend that I have the money to burn. Who wouldn’t want her own cotton candy machine, night vision goggles, or handcrafted teak patio furniture? (I don’t even have a patio.) The holiday season provides me with an ample supply of these catalogs, depositing no less than three catalogs a day into my mailbox. However, they’re not all fantasy furnishings and expensive gadgets. The majority of the catalogs I receive actually cause me to roll my eyes, gnash my teeth and fill my already stuffed recycling bin to the brim: toy catalogs promoting tired traditional gender stereotypes. Keep reading »

True Story: I’m The Only Man In The Kitchen On Thanksgiving And I’m Happy To Be There

Who Cleans Up?
Who does all the work on Thanksgiving -- the men or the women? Read More »
Post-Dinner Sex
Tips for having sex after a huge meal. Read More »
Thanksgiving!
It's Thanksgiving again. We're here for you. Read More »

Originally appeared on Role/Reboot. Republished here with permission.

Of all the holidays that I bemoan, Thanksgiving is the one in which I play my Pick Your Battles card and allow myself to enjoy without too much inner turmoil. In spite of the holiday’s history, for me it prevails with a modern, singular purpose that I don’t mind: familial appreciation.

That family might be your community family or maybe your blood-tied family, but either way it tends to be a holiday centered on getting into the same zip code as the people you love most in the world. My own family’s Thanksgiving observations have altered many times over the years, ranging from eight-hour drives to my aunt and uncle’s house when I was a boy to smaller gatherings at my parents’ house during my teenage years to the modest tradition today comprised of family and friends of family.

Regardless of where or how Thanksgiving happened, one constant remained throughout all those alterations: Traditionally, the women cook and the men watch sports and talk in the den. Keep reading »

Who Cleans Up After Thanksgiving Dinner — Ladies Or Gents?

Thanksgiving is a lovely time of year to not only see distant family and beloved friends, but also dredge up decades-old resentments. A famous familial bugaboo is who helps clear the table/wash plates/Saran Wrap the leftovers and who sits on their ass, pretending to be paralyzed by a food coma. (Of course, food coma person perks right up when the pecan pie comes out. I’m on to you, Christian.) I am fortunate that I grew up with a father who has always shared 50/50 of chores equally with my mother, including on holidays. The fact that my parents’ kitchen is clogged with women doing cleanup has more to do with the fact they have four daughters than anything else. Keep reading »

Everything Thanksgiving!
All you shall need to survive the Thanksgiving Holiday Frisky style. Read More »
Post-Dinner Sex
Tips for having sex after a huge meal. Read More »
Black Friday On Thurs?
Black Friday begins at 8pm on Thanksgiving now, apparently. Read More »

Taylor Swift Says She Doesn’t Like “Wearing The Pants” In Relationships, Gets Trashed By Blog

Taylor Not A Feminist
Taylor Swift appears on 'Good Morning America', NYC
Taylor Swift doesn't consider herself to be a feminist. Read More »
Traditional Men
I'm a feminist, but I want to date a more traditional dude. Read More »
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Giada says she's a traditional wife, despite her high-powered career. Read More »
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“Whether it’s a summertime dress that makes me feel carefree, an evening cocktail dress that makes me feel fancy, or a vintage dress that makes me feel like a ’50s housewife—which I enjoy feeling like, for some reason—I just really like dresses. …

If I feel too much like I’m wearing the pants, I start to feel uncomfortable and then we break up. … [I]t’s wonderful to hand over the reins to your boyfriend when you control so much of these big, high-pressure decisions, you know? That is a huge defining factor in who you choose to be with. Some combinations of people are toxic, you know? You have to find the right one that isn’t just going to explode into fiery ash and destruction.”

This is Taylor Swift in Harper’s Bazaar magazine, first talking about her love of dresses, and elsewhere in the interview talking about what she wants from a relationship. Tay-Tay is someone I’ve criticized in the past because she seemingly doesn’t understand feminism whilst declaring herself not a feminist. Fine, don’t be a feminist, but at least understand what it actually is that you’re disagreeing with. So I found myself nodding my head in agreement when I read these quotes above that she gave to Harper’s about what kind of dudes she likes to be with in a relationship. I nodded my head because hey, Taylor Swift, I am the exact same way.

So I was somewhat dismayed to see Taylor getting trashed for these quotes on the blog Mommyish. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Being The Breadwinner Sucked

Female Breadwinners
Amelia would be happy to bring home the bacon. Read More »
Poor BF
What to do if your boyfriend doesn't make enough money? Read More »
Women Breadwinners
They are on the rise. Read More »

I grew up blissfully ignorant of gender roles. Growing up in the ‘90s, I never thought I’d one day need a man with a six-figure income to take care of me. But I wasn’t a feminist, either—I didn’t even know what feminism was until my 20s. All I knew was what my mother taught me—that I’d have to work hard to become a self-made woman—and what Hollywood taught me — that eventually I’d meet a Jonathan Taylor Thomas look-a-like and be swept away to my happily ever after.

Though my JTT look-a-like never surfaced, I did find someone to share my happily ever after with. When we first entered couplehood, neither of us had much in the way of disposable income. Date nights included hitting up Applebee’s for happy hour and grabbing a $.99 movie rental. If I had to name one of us as the breadwinner, it was him, but money was such a non-issue in our relationship that we never thought of who earned more. We viewed each other as equals so we split the bills down the middle, paying little attention to who earned what. We were in love and that was all that mattered, right? Keep reading »

Why A Men’s Center At Canada’s Simon Fraser University Should Not Be Controversial

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How men's rights activists (MRAs) get feminism wrong. Read More »
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Last month, the student society at Simon Fraser University in British Columbia, Canada, approved $30,000 to establish a men’s center. The center’s main supporter, a student named Keneen Midgely, said the volunteer-run men’s center would only be equitable, considering SFU already has had a women’s center since 1974. It would be a space, he pointed out, for men to support each other and deconstruct masculinity and gender roles just like SFU women can.

I couldn’t agree more. Yet somehow, establishment of the SFU men’s center is controversial. Instead of being seen in a positive light as a “safe space” for men, it is being seen as an unnecessary, even frivolous, expense to give men their own space in what is already a patriarchal culture.  Keep reading »

More Men Are Moving Into “Pink Collar” Professions

SAHM Study
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Stay-at-home-moms are more worried, sad and stressed, says poll. Read More »
Managing Men
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Managing men as a female boss can be a balancing act. Read More »
Working Women Ugly?
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... according to Rush Limbaugh's wildly inaccurate twisting of study. Read More »
On Marrying Up
Let's be realistic about the finances it takes to raise a family. Read More »
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Once upon a time, a male kindergarten teacher or a male nurse was an oddity, even a novelty. But changing gender roles — and a turned-on-its-head economy — mean that more men than ever are working in what were previously considered to be “pink collar” jobs.

In an article about the trend today, The New York Times explains that “pink collar” jobs in fields like health care and home care/child care haven’t been bombed out by the economy because they cannot be outsourced and they are available to anyone without a college degree, regardless of gender. Hence, while jobs in all those fields are growing in general, the numbers of men working in them are increasing apace. Keep reading »

Today’s Lady News: Little Girls & Their Pink Things Make For A Fascinating Photo Project

My Little Pony
Author Peggy Orenstein has a bone to pick with My Little Pony dolls. Read More »
Pink Stinks For Toys
princess dress girl photo
Some parents are upset their little girls are given pink toys. Read More »
Sexist Beliefs
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Sexist beliefs are passed down more from mothers than fathers, study finds. Read More »
The Pink & Blue Project photo
  • As if you needed further proof that toy companies are ruthless when it comes to marketing “girls” and “boys” toys in the basest way possible: “The Pink & blue Project,” by photographer JeongMee Yoon, captures little girls and their pink — very pink — toys, dolls, shoes and clothes. [Flavorwire]
  • Feminist activists Gloria Steinem, Robin Morgan and Jane Fonda say it’s time for the FCC to step in and deal with Rush Limbaugh, who recently called Sandra Fluke a “slut” and a “prostitute” on-air. I suspect the FCC is too busy keeping an eagle-eye out for wardrobe malfunctions. [Christian Science Monitor]
  • Here’s a delightful compendium of Rush Limbaugh’s worst comments about women … [Seattle PI]
  • … including a special focus on his use of the word “feminazi.” [Media Matters For America] Keep reading »

12 Annoying Phrases Used To Describe Women

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"The Bachelor" finale made Ami feel deep shame. Read More »
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I’ve been reflecting more on why I felt such deep shame while watching “The Bachelor” finale the other night. I think part of it has to do with the way they talk about the bachelorettes. It’s like they are stock characters. Well, I guess they are. It’s television. But in real life as well, I find myself irked by a certain subset of commonly used phrases to describe women. They are just kind of one-dimensional, stereotypical and well, annoying. After the jump, the female descriptors that make my skin crawl. Keep reading »

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