I’ve been thinking about writing this essay for a while, but I’ve been putting it off because I feel like a traitor. Since coming out, I’ve struggled with feeling like an outsider in the gay community. Now, I feel totally secure in identifying as a lesbian and when I’m hanging out with a bunch of queer chicks nothing seems amiss. But I can’t help but notice that there are a bunch of things about gay gals that most people don’t know. And, honestly, that’s because we don’t want you to know. They are guarded secrets that we don’t even talk about amongst ourselves. But, lucky for you, I’ve always sucked at keeping secrets. So here goes.
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Good news! The online dating website eHarmony will finally become more inclusive to gays and lesbians. After duking it out over a class-action lawsuit in California for two and a half years, eHarmony has agreed to be more “welcoming” to homosexuals on its site. Keep reading »
As some of you know, nearly four years ago, when I still lived in Chicago, I was set up on a blind date while visiting friends in New York. Things went well; my date and I began a long-distance relationship, I moved to New York a year and a half later, and we were married last July. It’s now been almost two and a half years since I made the move from the Midwest to Manhattan for love, and while much of my life is better than it’s ever been, there’s still one void I have yet to fill: I don’t have any gay guy friends in town. I’ve made some girlfriends, my husband and I have plenty of couple friends, but when it comes to the really important things, like karaoke, watching awards shows, and getting an honest opinion on my hair, I find myself in dire need of a few good gays. Keep reading »
So, guess who praised New Jersey‘s recent decision not to legalize gay marriage? Why, Dina Matos, the scorned ex-wife of Jim McGreevey, New Jersey’s former governor who was caught having a homosexual affair and famously came out as a “gay American,” of course!
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The other night my girlfriend and I were lying in bed and she said, “You know, sometimes I forget you’re gay. I mean, you just look so straight.”
“Crap,” I thought, “her too.” Then I rolled over so my back was to her and attempted to compose myself, to figure out how to explain, for the millionth time, that I have thought this over enough times to be fairly certain that I’m into women.
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You thought all you had to worry about with Netflix was a big old scratch across “The Nanny Diaries” DVD, didn’t you? But be warned: if you’re LGBT and still in the closet, competitors in Netflix’s recommendations contest might be on to you.
According to the tech blog Switched, “Jane Doe,” a closeted lesbian mother, filed a lawsuit against Netflix last week because she claims the DVD rental company is violating consumers’ privacy by inadvertently making their personal business, like sexual orientation, known to the public. The lawsuit seeks $2,500 for each of Netflix’s customers, which are now over two million people. Keep reading »
No one will dispute the importance of good girlfriends – they support your delusional hopes of one day being Mrs. Sam Kass, listen to you vent about your idiot boss and evil ex, and assure you that you haven’t gained an ounce despite that steady diet of french fries you’ve been adhering to, as a coping mechanism for the aforementioned idiot boss and evil ex. But it goes without saying that no modern woman’s circle of friends is complete without at least one gay bestie. The unique bond between a straight woman and a gay man is a many splendored thing, one that’s inspired sonnets (not really), TV shows, books, and the true barometer of mainstream credibility, a possible incarnation as a Bravo reality show. A new study conducted by Nancy H. Bartlett of Mount Saint Vincent University in Canada (and covered in the December issue of Allure magazine) suggests that having a large contingent of gay male friends may actually be good for you.
With this in mind, we asked women we knew if they felt that gay men made better best friends than girls. Two women share their opposing views, after the jump … Keep reading »
And you thought Oprah
tore James Frey a new one on her show? Last night, Rachel Maddow
invited Richard Cohen, the controversial (and unlicensed) psychotherapist who claims to have counseled thousands of men and women out of being gay
, on her show. In his book Coming Out Straight
, Cohen argues that there are psychological underpinnings to homosexual attraction—he says he was gay because he was “trying to experience the unobtained bond with my dad that never happened”—and that by coming to terms with what’s behind the attraction, you can become straight. After all, he did it! He’s been married for 27 years and has three kids! Although he admits in part two of the segment
that for some of those years, he was still doing dudes.
Maddow, who’s a lesbian, obviously took issue with his argument and critiqued it point by point, especially since some of his quotes suggest gay folks are out to recruit children. But even more than that, she was furious about how Cohen’s work has been interpreted in Uganda. Keep reading »
Last night on “The Joy Behar Show,” host Behar asked her guest, Levi Johnston, how he feels about being a gay icon. “You come from a conservative background and Alaska’s not the most liberal state,” she said, “and yet, you seem to be very comfortable being a gay icon.”
“Once I started doing all these tours and everything,” Levi replied, “I just, you know, they’re people too. It doesn’t matter to me, more fans, it’s great.” Clip above. [via PopEater] Keep reading »