Congratulations New York! You’re now the newest state to celebrate marriage equality. And since studies show lesbians are the bulk of the married gay population, there’s a lot of things you’ll want to know before your big day. I got married in May, so I’m going to share a few of my own personal stories. Keep reading »
“[The first gay bar I went to] was called the Bushes … My first ‘real’ boyfriend took me. I was too young to be in a bar—and too naive to be in a gay bar—but bars didn’t card people then like they do now. I’m pretty sure I wasn’t the only 17-year-old boy in that bar that night. It was dark, it was dirty. But it was a public place—the first public place where I ever kissed a guy … I don’t remember much else about the place—but I do remember what I had to drink (a Long Island Iced Tea, I’m embarrassed to say), and I do remember what it felt like to walk into the Bushes for the first time. I had spent all day, every day, for the last six years trying to hide my homosexuality from my family, from my friends, from strangers on the street and on the L. The pressure was so intense that I’m surprised I didn’t crack. To step through that door and feel that pressure lift made me feel lightheaded. It was like stepping through an airlock; I’m surprised my ears didn’t pop. The Bushes was the first place I’d ever been where everyone was gay, where being gay wasn’t something that set you apart.”
—Dan Savage remembers his first time at a gay bar. And look at him now. He has affected so much change in his community. He and his husband, Terry, were the Grand Marshals of the NYC Pride Parade yesterday, which was especially awesome because of the gay marriage law passing about 36 hours before. [Slate] Keep reading »
I know I’m lucky to have it as easy as I do. I’m a lesbian, which means I don’t have to put up with any crap from men. In fact, I’m exempt from patriarchy, and women are just so easy! I don’t have a care in the world, being gay. I don’t have to worry about getting married or having children – I can just share my closet and my hair products with my girlfriend and live in a state of bliss while vacationing on Olivia Cruise ships.
If only any of it were true. Keep reading »
“He had already been living a gay life away from me after we divorced, and he said, ‘I don’t want you to be shocked. I’m dating men.’ … During our marriage he had told me he might be bisexual, but he wanted to stay married … By the time he told me, I had survived uterine cancer. Nothing could shake me … It’s great that we had the ability and the wisdom to reinvent our relationship. All those years weren’t for nothing. We’re very tight. We’re best friends.”
—Fran Drescher on her relationship with her her now gay ex-husband, Marc Jacobson. I could not approve of this more. After 21 years of marriage her husband came out and her reaction is inspiring. More marriages should end so well. Also, I love that her new sitcom, “Happily Divorced,” is based on her experience. [People] Keep reading »
“I mean, is it really that different when it’s a skinny white woman in a bathing suit singing [about gay rights]? None of these women ever wear pants, first of all. Second of all, just because you’re wearing a goofy hat doesn’t make it performance art. I mean, that’s just my feeling about it. A lot of the music just sounds like bad Euro disco, though that first Ke$ha song ‘TiK ToK’ was good. But (Katy Perry‘s) ‘I Kissed a Girl‘ was just straight-up offensive. The whole thing is like, I kissed a girl so my boyfriend could masturbate about it later. It’s disgusting. It’s exactly every male fantasy of fake lesbian porn. It’s pathetic. And she’s not a good singer. I don’t want to trash other women. I mean, I think Jason Mraz is horrible. It’s not just like I hate other women performers. Jason Mraz, and the new James Blunt song is the worst thing that has ever been created on the face of the Earth.”
— This CNN interview with Kathleen Hanna about the new Le Tigre documentary, “Who Put The Bomp,” is amazeballs. I may not agree with every single thing she says (Lady Gaga does not sound like bad Euro disco!), but she’s always thought-provoking. And I love, love, love that she has the ovaries to speak her mind. [CNN] Keep reading »
“I’m glad to hear that Tracy apologized for his comments. Stand-up comics may have the right to “work out” their material in its ugliest and rawest form in front of an audience, but the violent imagery of Tracy’s rant was disturbing to me at a time when homophobic hate crimes continue to be a life-threatening issue for the GLBT Community. It also doesn’t line up with the Tracy Morgan I know, who is not a hateful man and is generally much too sleepy and self-centered to ever hurt another person. I hope for his sake that Tracy’s apology will be accepted as sincere by his gay and lesbian coworkers at “30 Rock”, without whom Tracy would not have lines to say, clothes to wear, sets to stand on, scene partners to act with, or a printed-out paycheck from accounting to put in his pocket. The other producers and I pride ourselves on “30 Rock” being a diverse, safe, and fair workplace.”
— Tina Fey released a statement responding to the news that Tracy Morgan made hateful comments about gays while performing stand-up comedy in Nashville on June 3. Morgan said gays needed to stop “whining” about bullying and that he would stab his son if he ever found he out was gay, among other nastiness. Do you think Tina Fey’s reponse — whether as executive producer of “30 Rock” or as his friend — was appropriate? Or do you think she could have come down a little more harder? [After Ellen] Keep reading »
Oh my. It sounds like someone needs a spanking from Tina Fey.
A man named Kevin Rogers took to Facebook after a Tracy Morgan standup show in Nashville on June 3 to share the disappointing news that Morgan is an unabashed bigot towards gays. Not like “ha, ha, gay dudes wear product in their hair” but real bigotry. TMZ reports that the audience booed Morgan and some people even walked out.
So what did he say that was so offensive? Keep reading »
Reality TV is a tricky medium. It claims to be a realistic portrayal of the people (“characters”) and themes (“storylines”) it pieces together in each episode, but viewers are often left wondering how much of it was all for the cameras. So when a show is supposed to be a “real” portrait of a subset of under-represented people, it can be a little dangerous. And I’m not talking about any Housewives, Kardashians or aspiring pop stars.
Last summer, Showtime premiered the first season of “The Real L Word.” Reviews and ratings were poor, but the president of the network and producers of the show believed they identified a diamond in the rough in one of its “real” lesbians named Whitney. The second season, which premiered last Sunday night, is a radically different show in that Whitney is the only returning cast member, and the rest of the new ones all appear to be just as willing as she is to get naked and intimate on screen. Keep reading »
UPDATE: A London woman, Jelena Lecic, has claimed that the “Gay Girl In Damascus” blogger has stolen her photographs to use as the public face of her blog. Lecic’s publicist said the woman knew before that a Syrian blogger had been using her pics, possibly taken from Facebook, as her identity. However, when blogger Amina Abdallah went missing recently, Lecic began seeing pictures of herself everywhere claiming they were of the missing woman. Now there is some doubt being cast on Abdallah’s actual identity. Summary: the whole thing is very weird. [MSNBC]
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A lesbian blogger in Syria, who penned a popular blog called “Gay Girl In Damascus,” was abducted, her family said. Amina Abdallah, 35, an English teacher, was a prominent voice in opposition to Syria’s leadership and had dodged other abduction attempts by suspected security agents, CNN reports. Keep reading »