Erin Faith Page was chosen to represent students at New England College’s commencement this year. The school also chose Senator Kelly Ayotte as a keynote speaker at the event, offering her an honorary degree. The problem? Erin is an out lesbian who believes that Ayotte’s conservative politics make her a terrible choice for the honor.
But New England College, a small, private liberal arts college with around 1,800 students is sticking by its choice. ”The College is pleased to have Senator Ayotte speak at our Commencement Ceremony as we have a rich tradition of welcoming differing viewpoints and celebrating freedom of speech,” NEC’s Vice President for Academic Affairs Mark Watman told The Frisky. In case you’re not familiar with Ayotte, she is staunchly anti-gay marriage, supports the Defense of Marriage Act, and most recently voted against the gun control bill. In a petition created by Page, she writes that Ayotte: Keep reading »
Back in the days when men were “men” and Rock Hudson was a paragon of heterosexuality, life was simpler for straight guys. Today, with gender roles in a state of flux and traditional ideas about masculinity turned upside-down, things are a lot more confusing, especially for women.
Do girls keep slotting you into the “friend” category, despite your best efforts to attract them? Maybe you’re giving them the wrong idea. We asked a random selection of women and gay columnist Richard Burnett to give us some straight answers. Here are six reasons why women might assume you’re gay.
1.You’re homophobic. This one should be obvious. When a guy goes out of his way to make disparaging remarks about gay people, one can’t help but wonder what he’s so worried about. Homophobia also expresses itself in other, more subtle ways, like “harmless” jokes or obsessions with the sexuality of people around you. As Burnett puts it: “Most straight people just aren’t all that concerned with whether or not someone is gay. Gays are mostly invisible to completely straight men.” Read more on Ask Men…
This video has been around for a few years, but it’s making the rounds again and I think it’s always worth watching–and thinking about. The premise? An interviewer asks a number of straight people for their thoughts on the whole “Do gay people choose to be gay?” debate, and then follows up with a version of the question gay people get asked all the damn time: “When did you choose to be straight?” Reactions range from surprised to confused to genuinely thoughtful. A few people even change their answers entirely. Hit play to check it out. [YouTube via Upworthy]
In a moving piece in the May 6 issue of Sports Illustrated, veteran basketball player Jason Collins came out as gay today. The center, who’s spent the past 12 years playing with the New Jersey (now Brooklyn) Nets, among other teams, says he was inspired to go public in the wake of the Boston bombing.
“The recent Boston Marathon bombing reinforced the notion that I shouldn’t wait for the circumstances of my coming out to be perfect. Things can change in an instant, so why not live truthfully?” he wrote. “No one wants to live in fear. I’ve always been scared of saying the wrong thing. I don’t sleep well. I never have. But each time I tell another person, I feel stronger and sleep a little more soundly.”
Collins is the first openly gay NBA player. Keep reading »
Moving through the world as someone who identifies as bisexual or queer, I’m always navigating difficult experiences that compartmentalize my sexuality. I’ve been labeled “indecisive” for not being more assertive in which sex I prefer to date. I’ve been called “disgusting” because my desire to date women makes some people uncomfortable or possibly more accurately, question their own sexuality. And, of course, I’ve been told that my experience is a phase that will soon become a distant memory as I evolve into heterosexuality, find the perfect man, marry and become a Quiverfull woman who embraces domesticity and leans away from my career.
But none of these experiences trouble me as much as a recent experience I had in which I, and women like me, were named sexually perverse. The U.S. Supreme Court hearing regarding California’s ban on same-sex marriage has surfaced some polemic debates on the rights of the LGBT communities. In my experience, when opponents to marriage equality aren’t being downright nasty they’re crafting negligently harmful stories that characterize same-sex loving people as menacing. We’ve all heard some of the narratives: “Gay people will convert our children,” “Giving gays the right to marry will compromise the institution of marriage,” “Gay people lack a moral compass which is why they’re okay with being gay,” and “What’s next, sex with animals?” Keep reading »
Progressive cultural change doesn’t always happen quickly, but when it does, it’s a beautiful thing. Take the National Football League, professional football’s bastion and, up until now, a rather conservative place. That may all change now that Alan Gandreau, a kicker from Middle Tennessee State University, has become a viable NFL prospect.
Gendreau, who is the top scorer in his school’s conference, came out at an early age and dated boys in high school. “When you know, you know,” he told OutSports.com. Keep reading »
– Despite what Snoop Dogg might say, rapper T-Pain thinks people need to get over their homophobia. Hopefully the “Buy You A Drink” rapper is right: maybe attitudes about homosexuality are changing in the hip hop world. [Advocate]
Jared’s* question came during a sex party a few months ago, after some steamy foreplay organically led to this discussion: “Can I fuck you now?”
It caught me off guard, but not in an unpleasant way. Men had asked me this question before, and I was half expecting to decline, like I usually did. But I’d been fantasizing about having sex with him for months. This was opportunity knocking.
“It’s okay if you don’t want to,” Jared continued, directing this at both me and my husband, Paul. “But it seems like the logical next step here.”
It was. “Are you okay with that?” I asked Paul. He nodded reassuringly, excited to watch me take this new step. I smiled. “Then, yes. Let’s give it a try.”
So we did. Jared became the second man I’ve ever had intercourse with, signifying a change I never thought would come: an interest in sleeping with men. Keep reading »
A new coloring book is out for kids who may be gay, live in a gay family, or be gay-curious. The Being Gay Is Okay coloring book offers color-able same-sex domestic scenes, and includes a series of trading cards, featuring notable gay icons and gay supporters
One of the Fabulous Gay Trading Cards features Jodie Foster, who’s homosexuality is one of Hollywood’s biggest non-secrets. Still, as Foster rather cryptically explained in her Cecille B. DeMille Golden Globes Awards speech, she’s not really out-out. Keep reading »