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NJ Court Says State Must Recognize Gay Marriage

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  • A New Jersey judge has ruled that the state must recognize gay marriages now that the federal government does, so that NJ citizens can receive their federal benefits. Presently, LGBT folks in NJ can only have civil unions.  [WNYC, New York Times]
  • The Center for Reproductive Rights, the ACLU, and other organizations filed a federal lawsuit to block portions of the severely restrictive anti-abortion law in Texas from going into effect in late October. [RH Reality Check]
  • California Governor Jerry Brown signed a bill that guarantees overtime pay for domestic workers like some nannies and home health aides, a largely female workforce. [Sacramento Bee]
  • Why the real mommy wars are against mothers who don’t have choices. [Salon] Keep reading »

New Mexico To Consider Legalizing Marriage Equality

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  • The New Mexico Supreme Court will hold a hearing on October 23 regarding the legalization of same-sex marriage. Woo hoo! [Talking Points Memo]
  • Read MSNBC host Melissa Harris-Perry’s touching letter to Tiana Parker, the seven-year-old Black girl who had to switch elementary schools in Tulsa, Oklahoma, because the dress code deemed her Afro “unacceptable.” [MSNBC]
  • Meanwhile, 111 Black women have sent little Tiana an uplifting care package. Very cute. [Ebony]
  • One of our writers, Shanelle Matthews, is up for a social media award from the Women’s Media Center for her work as a feminist activist. You can vote for her at the WMC website. Congrats, Shanelle! [Women's Media Center] Keep reading »

It’s OK, The Word “Wife” Isn’t Going To Bite

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A woman goes through life with a number of labels that she doesn’t have any control over, either by birth or by society’s imposition. But one label she should get to choose is whether she wants to be someone’s “wife” or not.  This should be a right for all of us.

A recent piece on Salon.com by soon-to-be-married author Tracy Clark-Flory about the word “wife” really pissed me off.  Clark-Flory wrote about going over the language of her wedding ceremony script with her fiancé and getting to the part that says “I now pronounce you husband and wife.”

Husband? Wife? I could barely conceal my gagging sounds. He said something to the effect of, “Ew, gross.”

She continues:

It makes me feel like Betty Draper, like I should be fetching his slippers and a scotch on the rocks — and remembering to get the roast bird out of the oven. (In reality, I’ve only just recently expanded my cooking repertoire beyond Kraft mac ‘n’ cheese and things you put in the microwave. He, however, will roast a chicken and make a rustic tart from scratch — all in one night.) I am a daughter, partner and friend — but a wife? I can’t help but imagine saying “I’m his wife” with heavy air quotes, a roll of the eyes or exaggerated feminine cheer.

Clark-Flory then expresses concern that the Middle English/Old English terms for “wife” and “husband” translate, roughly, to “vagina” and “householder.” It’s not that I don’t understand Clark-Flory’s discomfort with both words or their histories (although dredging up the Old English definition? really?). But I’m uneasy with how glib she was about that choice when so many people are scrambling to have the same one. Keep reading »

Sandy Rios Of Fox News Thinks That Ariel Castro’s “Love For His Victims” Is Just Like Homosexuality

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Sandy Rios is both an American Family Association talk show host and a Fox News contributor, so naturally when she spoke with anti-gay Chicago pastor, Erwin Lutzer, some pretty offensive words were exchanged.

The two both oppose same-sex marriage and use the bogus argument that homosexuality is like pedophilia in that even though there is “love” in these relationships, the people involved should not be able to get married. According to Right Wing Watch, Lutzer said, “A pedophile I’m sure says that he loves children — as a matter of fact, he does — but you can see how destructive that love is.” That comparison is nothing new in the anti-gay argument, but Sandy Rios then went on to make a new and uniquely offensive comparison. Keep reading »

High School Teacher Ken Bencomo Fired After Marrying A Man

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Since Proposition 8 was struck down in the Supreme Court, same-sex marriage is once again legal in California. Unfortunately, just because something is legal doesn’t mean that people are suddenly more accepting and open-minded about it.

Ken Bencomo of Rancho Cucamonga taught at St. Lucy’s Priory, an all-girls Catholic school in Glendora, California, and was head of the English department. Bencomo is gay and for 10 of the 17 years he has worked at St. Lucy’s, school officials knew his sexual orientation and had even met his partner. Yet after all this time, Bencomo was fired from his position just days after he married his partner, Christopher Persky, according to The San Bernadino Sun. According to USA Today, the school justified their decision, saying that gay marriage goes against the teachings of the Catholic Church. Officials apparently did not have a problem with Bencomo being gay, they just had a problem with him getting married to the person that he loves. HUH? Keep reading »

Ohio Won’t Let Dying Man Honor The Love Of His Life

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John Arthur was diagnosed with terminal Lou Gehrig’s Disease, and is currently in hospice care. He’s been in a loving 20-year relationship with his boyfriend Jim Obergefell, and just weeks ago, he and Arthur flew to Maryland to be legally wed on the tarmac. Arthur is now so sick that he can’t even get up from his hospital bed.

The couple has now returned to Ohio, where they are trying to make the most of their last days together, and have one final wish. Arthur would like Obergefell to be acknowledged on his death certificate as his “surviving spouse.” Why is this so important, besides the obvious unadultered fact that two married people should be acknowledged in the eyes of the law? Because Arthur would like to ensure that Obergefell can someday be buried in his family plot next to him.  Thanks to a specific family directive, without this express acknowledgement, a cemetery will not honor the request. Keep reading »

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