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New York Times Takes A Look At Why Some LGBTQ Couples Refuse To Get Married

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I didn’t expect a can-usually-be-counted-on-for-fluff article about marriage in the Sunday Styles section of the New York Times to be so damn depressing. But I suppose that’s a conclusion to be expected when one starts wondering, what’s the point of it all? Keep reading »

Cory Booker Kicks Off Same-Sex Marriages In New Jersey

  • Newark, New Jersey, Mayor Cory Booker married seven same-sex couples minutes after midnight this morning. New Jersey has officially begun recognizing gay marriage, making it the 14th state in the nation to do so. Mazel tov to all the happy couples who can finally tie the knot! [Guardian UK]
  • Tyra Banks is open to adopting a child and says she’s dating someone who is “not famous.” [ONTD]
  • Cee Lo has been cleared of charges that he sexually assaulted a woman after slipping Ecstacy in her drink. However, he will be charged with the felony of possession of Ecstacy. [TMZ]
  • Ashley Judd and her estranged husband, race car driver Dario Franchitti, are giving their marriage another go after a separation. [Fox News]
  • “Bridesmaids” star Chris O’Dowd is in talks to join James Franco in a Broadway revival of the John Steinback novel Of Mice and Men. [Playbill]
  • Danielle Fishel from “Boy Meets World” married her boyfriend, Tim Belusko, this weekend; her former co-star Rider Strong married his longtime girlfriend this weekend, too. Congrats! [People] Keep reading »

New Jersey To Issue Licenses For Same-Sex Couples On Monday!

NJ On Gay Marriage
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NJ court says state must recognize gay marriage. Read More »
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Obama On Gay Marriage
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The president comes out in support of same-sex unions! Read More »
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  • New Jersey’s Supreme Court has ruled that the state must start issuing same-sex marriage licenses beginning on Monday. Last month, an NJ judge ruled the state must recognize gay marriages now that the federal government does. NJ will become the 14th state to recognize gay marriage, plus D.C. Congrats, everybody getting married because of this wonderful news! [NBC News]
  • A Catholic school in Arkansas fired a lesbian teacher who had worked at the school for 15 years after she married her partner. [Jezebel]
  • Juana Villegas, an immigrant who was forced to give birth in shackles while in detention, has won a settlement from the city of Nashville. [Colorlines]
  • Here’s another fantastic response to the Slate/Emily Yoffe article about teenaged girls, drinking and rape. [Salon]
  • Meanwhile, here is a response today by Yoffe to her critics. [Slate] Keep reading »

NJ Court Says State Must Recognize Gay Marriage

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  • A New Jersey judge has ruled that the state must recognize gay marriages now that the federal government does, so that NJ citizens can receive their federal benefits. Presently, LGBT folks in NJ can only have civil unions.  [WNYC, New York Times]
  • The Center for Reproductive Rights, the ACLU, and other organizations filed a federal lawsuit to block portions of the severely restrictive anti-abortion law in Texas from going into effect in late October. [RH Reality Check]
  • California Governor Jerry Brown signed a bill that guarantees overtime pay for domestic workers like some nannies and home health aides, a largely female workforce. [Sacramento Bee]
  • Why the real mommy wars are against mothers who don’t have choices. [Salon] Keep reading »

New Mexico To Consider Legalizing Marriage Equality

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  • The New Mexico Supreme Court will hold a hearing on October 23 regarding the legalization of same-sex marriage. Woo hoo! [Talking Points Memo]
  • Read MSNBC host Melissa Harris-Perry’s touching letter to Tiana Parker, the seven-year-old Black girl who had to switch elementary schools in Tulsa, Oklahoma, because the dress code deemed her Afro “unacceptable.” [MSNBC]
  • Meanwhile, 111 Black women have sent little Tiana an uplifting care package. Very cute. [Ebony]
  • One of our writers, Shanelle Matthews, is up for a social media award from the Women’s Media Center for her work as a feminist activist. You can vote for her at the WMC website. Congrats, Shanelle! [Women's Media Center] Keep reading »

It’s OK, The Word “Wife” Isn’t Going To Bite

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The connotations of the word "wife" worry bride-to-be Andrea Grimes. Read More »
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A woman goes through life with a number of labels that she doesn’t have any control over, either by birth or by society’s imposition. But one label she should get to choose is whether she wants to be someone’s “wife” or not.  This should be a right for all of us.

A recent piece on Salon.com by soon-to-be-married author Tracy Clark-Flory about the word “wife” really pissed me off.  Clark-Flory wrote about going over the language of her wedding ceremony script with her fiancé and getting to the part that says “I now pronounce you husband and wife.”

Husband? Wife? I could barely conceal my gagging sounds. He said something to the effect of, “Ew, gross.”

She continues:

It makes me feel like Betty Draper, like I should be fetching his slippers and a scotch on the rocks — and remembering to get the roast bird out of the oven. (In reality, I’ve only just recently expanded my cooking repertoire beyond Kraft mac ‘n’ cheese and things you put in the microwave. He, however, will roast a chicken and make a rustic tart from scratch — all in one night.) I am a daughter, partner and friend — but a wife? I can’t help but imagine saying “I’m his wife” with heavy air quotes, a roll of the eyes or exaggerated feminine cheer.

Clark-Flory then expresses concern that the Middle English/Old English terms for “wife” and “husband” translate, roughly, to “vagina” and “householder.” It’s not that I don’t understand Clark-Flory’s discomfort with both words or their histories (although dredging up the Old English definition? really?). But I’m uneasy with how glib she was about that choice when so many people are scrambling to have the same one. Keep reading »

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