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Coming of age, regardless of sexual orientation, is a mess. It’s like an awkward pubescent choose-your-own-adventure book that you are constantly cheating at, reading ahead or skipping back, to try and reach some kind of conclusion in the least traumatizing way. You string together little landmarks in your life, some horrifying and some empowering, toREAD MORE »


Love & Sex

There’s an important point to be made about how easy it is to ghost people or cancel plans now. We now say no at a lower emotional cost. That means we can say yes more. READ MORE »


Love & Sex

A few months ago, I was trying to find something to do on a Saturday night after my initial plans fell through. I scrolled through my recent texts to search for someone who lived in New York and didn’t work on weekends. On an average day, I text anywhere between 20 to 30 people. This… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

A couple weeks ago, some guy tweeted at Janelle Monae telling her to be sexier and to not dress so androgynously. What resulted was one of the most perfect and succinct clapbacks: “Sit down,” Monae tweeted back. “I’m not for male consumption.” I feel this, we all feel this. If you are a woman anywhere,… READ MORE »


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I’m a hopeless romantic, but in the last six months, I’ve had a drastic shift in what love means to me. I’ve let go of the idea that love is an intense and demanding force. It doesn’t need all of my attention and it doesn’t mean things have to happen “now or never.” I’ve learned… READ MORE »


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One of the things about being a little different from society’s standard is that you tend to seek out and consume the kinds of things that you see your reflection in. This is why “The L Word” stayed on the air for as long as it did. This is also why Jews still go to… READ MORE »


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I went to my first gay bar when I was 18. This was also the night that I discovered Four Lokos when the gas station was sold out of the other disgusting malt liquor energy drinks. My gay male best friend and I split a can and, with our designated driver, drove an hour from… READ MORE »


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I have 876 matches on Tinder. I love Tinder. I’ve met some of my favorite people via Tinder, but sometimes, Tinder feels cheap. That feeling creeps up on me when it’s late at night and I’ve just swiped left on 20 people. That feeling also creeps up on me when five people send me the… READ MORE »


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There’s a thought process that being a lesbian is easier. Because women understand other women, they communicate better, and they’re exempt from the patriarchy. Yeah, right. READ MORE »


Love & Sex

I’m bisexual, so people like to ask me how dating ladies is different from dating guys. (I also get a lot of “Wanna have a threesome?” and “How do girls have sex?” The first question is a lot easier to answer.) Sometimes people ask the question with a little competitive edge in their voice –… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

I had been feeling lost without the weekly wisdom (ha) from The Millionaire Matchmaker’s Patti Stanger. Luckily, there are some exclusive interviews online, including the one above, in which Patti discusses how gay and lesbian dating is different from heterosexual dating. In it, she pontificates on how rich, ugly gay men date hot… READ MORE »