Yesterday, Gawker’s J.K. Trotter wrote a piece naming the man who allegedly raped Lena Dunham in college. Dunham wrote about the rape in her book, Not That Kind Of Girl, but took a number of steps to conceal his identity. Unfortunately, the manner in which she cloaked his identity was seized upon by some of Dunham’s conservative critics, who sought out to identify (and probably exonerate) the guy so he could tell “his side.” This led to a totally unrelated former student being fingered, which Dunham’s critics presented as proof that she was stretching the truth. Dunham eventually wrote a piece for Buzzfeed making it clear that the wrong guy had been identified, that she didn’t want her real rapist to be revealed and that his identity isn’t the issue anyway, as telling her story was the only point. “Reporters have attempted to uncover the identity of my attacker despite my sincerest attempts to protect this information,” she wrote. Sadly, her wishes have not been and continue to not be respected.
Last night, Beejoli Shah, a former editor at Gawker’s Defamer blog and a soon-to-be full-time Frisky staffer (woot!), forwarded me the email she sent to Trotter — who she acknowledges as a friend and former colleague — expressing her concerns with his decision to publish the name of Dunham’s rapist. She gave me permission to publish her email verbatim on The Frisky, though I have made a few small spelling/formatting corrections. For context, Beejoli also recently wrote a piece for Buzzfeed about her own rape and was harassed on Twitter by men’s rights activists (like Roosh V.) as a result. — Amelia Keep reading »
Dear Ernest Baker,
In your recent personal essay on Gawker titled “The Reality of Dating White Women When You Are Black,” you stated unequivocally that you are not a “sell out” because you are a Black man who chooses to seriously date only White women. As a 24-year-old Black woman with very similar life circumstances, I can assure you that after reading your piece — although you may not believe that you are a “sell-out” or that you are riddled by “self hate” —the man who wrote that piece is both. Keep reading »
Guys, I love sarcasm. It’s a heady, delicious treat I eat up on the hour. But even I have my sarcasm limits. Case in point: Gawker writer Hamiliton Nolan’s response to a piece by xoJane writer s.e. smith about the western appropriation of Eastern religion, specifically in the context of yoga, and whether someone with an atheist viewpoint should really practice yoga. I’m not going to get into that, because I personally hate yoga and can’t understand why people are always freaking out about it. Howevs, it’s how Nolan wrote about s.e.’s piece that’s super irksome.
Throughout the piece, Nolan referred to smith by the pronouns her/she, which is not how s.e. identifies. When the Gawker piece came out, a couple members of the xoJane team wrote in to let Nolan know that s.e.’s preferred pronoun is “ou.” s.e. has written about preferring “ou” before, and even mentions it in ou’s xoJane bio: “s.e. smith is a writer, agitator, and commentator based in Northern California. Ou focuses on social issues, particularly gender, prison reform, disability rights, environmental justice, queerness, class, and the intersections thereof, and has a special interest in rural subjects.” Keep reading »