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Frisky Q&A: Drunk Mom Author Jowita Bydlowska On Alcoholism, Parenthood & Writing

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Motherhood. We all have a vision in mind of what it’s supposed to look like: warm, nurturing, saccharine, even beatific. Even the messier versions we allow — frazzled new parent anxiety, daylight zombies — still position the mother as with-it and in control. But what about the mothers who are anything but in control? What about the mothers who have an addiction in control of them?

Jowita Bydlowska is the author of a searing memoir, Drunk Mom, about her 11-month relapse into alcoholism after her son’s birth. A sober alcoholic, Bydlowska toasted her son’s birth with a glass of champagne. Then she began drinking regularly in the overwhelming new days of parenthood. At first her relapse was easy to hide, especially home alone on maternity leave with a newborn. But soon, the addiction metastasized into full-blown alcoholism once again, causing her to make dangerous decisions about her own and her baby’s safety and shrouding her relationship with her baby’s father in lies. When she finally makes it to rehab, the reader is relieved everyone is still alive.

Drunk Mom, which will be published in America on May 27th, is a discomforting read. It’s bare-naked honesty about addiction and families will make a lot of people uncomfortable, especially those with idealized versions of what motherhood and womanhood “should” mean. It’s by far one of the best memoirs that I’ve ever read (and yes, I’m including Wild in that) both for it’s candor and bravery and for her narration.  I understand addiction all the better with once-again-sober Jowita Bydlowska as the Charon to this Hades, our guide to the underworld.

I called Bydlowska in Canada where she lives with her now-five-year-old son.

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Frisky Q&A: Hip Mama Editor Ariel Gore Talks Parenthood, Abuse & Her New Memoir

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Mother’s Day is when advertising distills motherhood down to home-cooked brunch, a bracelet, or a fragrant bouquet. But for far too many people, the relationship with their mom is a complicated one. Not all mothers have been nurturing and caring; not all daughters and sons have overcome the trauma of their childhoods as adults.  There can be a lot of love in a mother-child relationship, but also a deep well of pain. That’s why The End Of Eve: A Memoir, by Ariel Gore, is the perfect antidote to Mother’s Day.

Several years ago, Gore, who is the editor of Hip Mama magazine, was happily in a relationship with her partner and raising a college-aged daughter and a toddler son, when she got some news. Her narcissistic, emotionally abusive mother, Eve, announced she had cancer.

So, Gore and her family picked up their lives and moved to spend the last couple of years caring for Eve — who, in turn, made everyone’s lives difficult in every possible way, like reporting Gore and her partner to Child Protective Services for (nonexistent) child abuse. But Gore was dedicated to both caring for her sick mom and trying to keep her relationship with her girlfriend together.

As a memoirist, Ariel Gore is gifted: she is able to tell a heartbreaking story of illness and betrayal with the perfect mix of respect, humor and irreverence. I called Gore at home to talk about The End Of Eve, which I absolutely devoured. Our conversation is after the jump!

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Frisky Q&A: All Your No-Shampoo Questions, Answered!

All Your No Shampoo Questions, Answered!
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True Story: I Stopped Washing My Hair (And So Should You!)
True story: This woman just stopped washing her hair. Read More »

Last week we published an article called “Why I Stopped Washing My Hair (And So Should You!)” by Rebecca Vipond Brink. The post generated a lot of discussion — and a TON of questions. So we brought Rebecca back to answer all your most pressing no ‘poo questions, from worries about unwashed hair smells to detailed instructions for that baking soda scalp scrub. Read on for the lowdown on the no shampoo lifestyle… Keep reading »

Frisky Q&A: Essie Nail Polish Guru Essie Weingarten Talks ’80s Trends, Nail-Biting & Streaking

You have to be living under a rock to have never seen an Essie nail polish: they’re a staple of modern woman-dom, a nail paint that you can find in nearly every pharmacy and even J.Crew!. But did you know that there’s a real Essie behind the global brand?

Essie Weingarten is the founder and president of Essie Cosmetics, which she started back in 1981 while she worked at the famous department store, Henri Bendel. Weingarten debuted just 12 polishes in Las Vegas and they became an instant hit. Throughout the ’80s, ’90s and ’00s, she grew her brand up to 900 polishes, even gaining the Queen of England as a fan. (In fact, Kate Middleton wore Essie polish on her wedding day!)  In 2010, she sold the company to L’Oreal and still reigns supreme as global creative director.

Weingarten’s newest project is joining AOL as a beauty expert where she’ll dole out advice on polish and nail care. Fans can submit any and all questionse via Twitter starting in May using the hashtag #AskEssie and tweet @AOL + @essie. I had the chance to call up Essie Weingarten and ask her some questions of my own (and was very glad to be on the other side of the phone where she couldn’t see my nails were bare and bitten — oops). Keep reading »

Frisky Q&A: Nick Verreos From “Project Runway Under The Gun” Wants Your Boyfriend To Wear Makeup

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Once upon a time long ago in a land far away … well, okay, it was 2005 on Bravo … there was the world’s most friendly and energetic designer, Nick Verreos. Although he was eliminated on episode 10 (boo), his involvement on the show shot his line,  Nikolaki, co-designed with his partner David Paul, to stardom and now Katy Perry, Eva Longoria and Beyoncé  are all fans. It also made him a regular presence on fashion red carpets and a regular guest on the TV Guide Network’s “Fashion Wrap.”

Verreos hasn’t strayed far from “Project Runway,” though: this year, he joined the cast of  ”Under The Gunn,” a “Project Runway” off-shoot hosted by the one and only Tim Gunn. The show brought Verreos, and other alums Mondo Guerra and Anya Ayoung-Chee, to mentor and coach teams comprised of 15 designers. Not surprisingly, Verreos was the winning mentor.

Part of the “Under The Gunn” final prize was to work with Benefit Cosmetics to create new uniforms for their in-store staff members. On Monday, Verreos and winner Oscar Garcia-Lopez hit up a Benefit store in SoHo to show off the brand’s adorable new apron (Sophie and I are wearing them above with Nick and Oscar!), kvell about his love for their products, and give his endorsement for the makeup-for-men trend.

Our chat, after the jump:

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Frisky Q&A: Great Author Sara Benincasa Talks Young Adult Fiction, Zelda Fitzgerald & Women In Comedy

Frisky Q&A: Great Author Sara Benincasa

A show of hands: who had to read The Great Gatsby in school?

Most of us, right? You’re probably overly familiar with the tale of Jay Gatsby and Daisy Buchanan, if not from high school English class then from the Baz Luhrman spectacle in theaters this past summer. I hope you still have room in your stomach for more, because there’s a new Gatsby tale in town: Great, by Sara Benincasa, a young adult novel retelling of the classic.

But Great isn’t just any old retelling: the star-crossed lovers in this story are a same-sex couple set in the modern-day Hamptons. Jacinta is an “It girl” blogger who lives next door to Naomi, our narrator. While she rides out the summer at her mother’s extravagant summer home, Naomi tries to piece together Jacinta’s love affair with Delilah, a family friend of her mom and the Daisy Buchanan character in the story. It’s a familiar tale, but a completely different take on modern sexual mores and class.

And Sara Benincasa isn’t just any writer, either. She’s also one of my dearest friends. We met about seven years ago when she was a New York City-based standup comic and hosted a “Gossip Girl” fan festival. (Dorota came. It was amazing.) Over the years, I’ve watched Sara’s writing and comedy career skyrocket to much-deserved success. I’m genuinely thrilled for her that Great is such a good book and that more books from Sara are coming down the pipeline soon.

I called Sara up over Skype last week to chat about F. Scott Fitzgerald, feminism and how her memoir is being made into a TV show (!!!) by Diablo Cody. Here’s our conversation, after the jump:

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Frisky Q&A: Academy Award-Winning “ANITA” Director Freida Lee Mock

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Before she transcribed this interview, our intern told me that she wasn’t entirely sure who Anita Hill was. I could hardly blame her. Even with a segment on the Anita Hill testimony during a gender studies class in college, I didn’t know too much about Anita Hill myself.

The new documentary,”ANITA,” revisits Anita Hill’s testimony before the Senate Judiciary Committee in 1991 after she revealed that her former employer, Clarence Thomas, had sexually harassed her. A quiet law professor in Oklahoma, Hill had privately revealed the sexual harassment she suffered under Thomas, which was then leaked to the press. Immediately thrust in the public eye, she was asked to publicly testify against Thomas and decided to go for it. Sexual harassment laws were on the books, but this was the first time in many people’s memory that a woman subordinate to a very powerful man had spoken out. Not at all surprisingly, Hill was repeatedly asked to repeat graphic testimony about Thomas’ behavior; she was accused of being a liar or a “scorned woman”; and worst of all, treated as if it were her character that was under consideration. That both Hill and now Supreme Court Justice are both Black only added another layer of pressure to her decision to speak up. Thomas famously accused the 14 all-white men seated on the Senate Judiciary Committee investigating Hill’s allegations of conducting a “high tech lynching.” (He later blamed “pro-choice liberals” for going after him.) Eventually, Thomas was narrowly confirmed by the Senate. Keep reading »

Frisky Q&A: Melissa Gira Grant, Author Of Playing The Whore: The Work Of Sex Work

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If you’ve done any reading on the Internet about the business of sex work, chances are you’ve come across Melissa Gira Grant. She’s written about sex, politics, labor and tech everywhere from the UK’s Guardian to The Atlantic  to Jezebel and Valleywag, making her one of the top intellectuals to turn to when America needs an explanation about why we’re so weird about sex.

A former “web cam girl,” Grant just published her latest book, Playing The Whore: The Work Of Sex Work, which is unlike any book about sex work or feminism that I’ve ever read. In it, she critiques law enforcement’s treatment of actual or perceived sex workers; labor issues surrounding sex work; and the tendency for governments and some outreach workers to treat all sex workers as “victims” in need of being “rescued.” However complicated you might have thought issues pertaining to sex work were before, Grant’s excellent book is extraordinarily illuminating.

Grant recently spoke to me about “whore stigma,” feminism, police, and the media’s struggle to accurately cover sex workers. Our Q&A begins after the jump: Keep reading »

Frisky Q&A: Avital Norman Nathman, Editor Of The Good Mother Myth

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You know Avital Norman Nathman as the columnist behind Mommie Dearest, our feminist parenting column. But Avital is also the “mom” of her first book, The Good Mother Myth: Redefining Motherhood To Fit Reality.

The anthology explores the same ground she writes about here on The Frisky, like teen parents, postpartum depression, the changing face of the American family. Contributors included maternal health advocate/model Christy Turlington Burns, New York Times Motherlode blogger K.J. Dell’Antonia, Feministing co-founder Jessica Valenti, Manifesta co-author Jennifer Baumgardner, The Radical Housewife blogger Shannon Drury, and many others.

I’m not saying this just because Avital is one of our columnists — I genuinely loved The Good Mother Myth. It provoked me to think about feminism and motherhood in ways I hadn’t before and opened my eyes more to how gender identity, race and class alter the experience. I gave Avital a call over Skype to chat about her book, myths surrounding motherhood, and how to know when you’re ready to have kids. Our interview, after the jump: Keep reading »

Frisky Q&A: Janet Mock, Author Of Redefining Realness

Frisky Q&A: Janet Mock, Author Of Redefining Realness

After being the subject of a 2011 Marie Claire profile, writer and activist Janet Mock decided to tell her story in her own words. And what a story it is. Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More, is out this week. It’s a brave, honest and gripping memoir detailing Mock’s turbulent childhood and experiences as a young trans woman finding herself.

Despite digging deep and sharing intimate details of her past, Mock still manages to pepper her book with vital LGBT statistics and snippets of important history regarding trans women. While her debut book is most certainly a memoir, it also provides a carefully crafted way to begin discussing the very real issues and challenges many trans women and men face on a daily basis. After quickly devouring the book, I had the pleasure of speaking with the author herself. Keep reading »

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