A few years ago, I complained to a girl friend about how my then-boyfriend was getting on my nerves. I told her how we would be hanging out in his apartment on the weekend and I would ask for some “alone time” to read or go online. He would say okay, but couldn’t go for more than a few minutes before he would start chattering away to me as I sat on his couch with a book. I would ask him to please let me have some time alone; he would get angry that I, as he put it, “didn’t want him to talk” in his own home. I felt so frustrated that he wasn’t respecting, or perhaps fundamentally understanding, what “alone time” meant and why it was important to me.
“You are an introvert,” my friend told me. “You relax and recharge your batteries being by yourself and withdrawing inside your own head. It sounds like he’s an extrovert. That means relaxing and recharging means being with other people.”
Oh, I thought. No one had ever explained my personality to me quite like that before. I used to believe I had strange, inexplicable over-stimulation issues; I also used to think I was a “loner.” Deep down, though, I knew that word wasn’t correctly descriptive, because I have many friends and a close family. Fortunately my friend’s metaphor about recharging batteries made perfect sense. It’s not that I hate people or don’t have any friends; I just need to have quiet in my head to, well, recharge. Keep reading »
Dear formerly pregnant friends,
I know this is way, way overdue on my part — but I really owe you an apology for how I reacted when you excitedly told me you were going to be a mom. The minute “I’m pregnant!” came out of your mouth, I saw the look of pure joy and elation on your face. But what did I do instead of sharing in that happiness with you? I immediately started ranting and raving about how much your life was going to change — and not necessarily for the better. Read more on The Stir…
There’s nothing I love more than sitting down with a heaping bowl of stuffing and rewatching “Friends” Thanksgiving episodes. Providing us with some of the best Turkey Day episodes of all time, Monica, Chandler, Phoebe, Joey, Ross and Rachel brought it EVERY year, leaving me wondering what the holidays would be like if I were the seventh friend. But that’s a “moo point.” This year, turn your own Thanksgiving into a “Friends”-inspired one. Here’s how to do it… Keep reading »
Every year families and friends gather together to give thanks and stuff their faces with as much turkey and cornbread as possible without imploding. But after the potatoes have been plopped into Tupperware and the nightcaps are a-flowin’, it’s time to whip out the group-friendly activities. Game time, bitches.
We’ve put together a list of some fun Thanksgiving games to play in groups, along with the hazards that come with each. Don’t say we didn’t warn you. Keep reading »
“We plotted it out in a self-protective way. It wasn’t a relationship [the other characters were] talking about. Nobody knew about it. We as writers were almost as protective of it as those characters were. We didn’t want to make too much of a deal about it too early. That’s what you saw on the screen, but it’s also how we experienced it. We didn’t want to spend too much too fast. We didn’t want it to be high drama. So we just kept taking baby steps forward and feeling our way through. …
If you didn’t have a Monica-and-Chandler relationship, if the center of ’Friends’ had remained Ross and Rachel, you would’ve seen a much shorter shelf life for the show. Without Monica and Chandler, it ends three years earlier. I don’t owe my whole house to them, but at least two bedrooms and a bath are because of them.”
I’ve never been much of a sitcom fan, but “Friends” is one exception. I still think the show, which ended its run in 2004, is one of the funniest TV shows ever and, thanks to the endless repeats on TBS, I’ve seen every episode at least five times. So, I lovvvvved this piece on NYMag.com about how the show’s producers and writers, including executive producer Scott Silveri, quoted above, came to the decision to make Monica Gellar and Chandler Bing a couple. Keep reading »