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It’s time again for “Shortcuts.” For every question, I’ll give my advice in three sentences or less, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss guy friends who want to take things to the next level, mercy-killing a relationship, and guilt over being “the other woman.” Keep reading »
A couple weeks ago, I posted a list of 15 signs you’re just friends to help those of you in male-female friendships determine whether your pal is strictly a pal and nothing more. If you’re still feeling a little unsure what the status of your relationship is, maybe today’s list will help you a little more. After the jump, 15 signs you’re more than just friends (or friends with benefits). Keep reading »
I’ve had a “friends with benefits” situation with a male friend of mine for the last few months. I recently told him that I had feelings for him, but that I was in no way interested in acting on those feelings, as I know that he is not wanting a “gf/bf relationship” right now. After I told him this, he told me he needed some time to think things through. A few weeks later, he invited me out for a few drinks, and then back to his place for the benefits part of our relationship. We went out for a middle of the night snack, and he did all of the classic “boyfriend” posturing — opening doors, hand brushing, turned toward me, looking at me during conversations, etc. After that, he has been contacting me almost daily, first for benefits and then for cuddles and talking. Last week, he invited me out for karaoke at a local bar where he introduced me to people (as his friend), but spent the whole night with his arm around me. At one point, he even kissed me after I performed. But he still insists that this is a FwB relationship, and nothing more. Oh, and he isn’t seeing any other women in any sort of capacity. He is in denial over our relationship, or am I just way too into him? — Just a Friend with Benefits
Evolutionary psychologist Peter K. Jonason thinks he has this whole friends with benefits thing figured out. Annoyed by seeing only the extremes of one-night stands and marriage being studied, Jonason decided to take a step into the gray area of researching what he calls “the booty call relationship.” The end product is a paper called “Positioning the Booty-Call Relationship on the Spectrum of Relationships.” In it, he believes he answers some pressing questions about why so many people, especially college students, end up with f**k buddies.