Right after Ex-Mr. Jessica and I broke up around New Year’s, Tom*, a friend I’ve had for about four years asked if I wanted to go down to Washington, D.C., and visit him to get my mind off the breakup. I assumed there might be an ulterior motive there, but I was in pulling-my-hair-out, “Who knows why men do anything?!” mode and wasn’t totally sure. In any case, I told Tom I was still too sad to be good company, which was true.
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There are times in every woman’s life where her body wants either what her heart can’t handle or her brain knows better. You know the drill — you want a man, but not a relationship. Or, more to the point, you want some loving, but don’t want any complications. All the booty; none of the baggage.
Maybe you’re wildly attracted to a dude physically, but find him mentally or morally lacking—like a tanning technician or a bounty hunter. There’s no way you’d ever date him, but why should you deny yourself the pleasure assets might provide? Answer: Not a reason in the world.
This weekend, the Natalie Portman and Ashton Kutcher rom-com “No Strings Attached,” about a friends with benefits relationship that gets all screwy when the two try not to fall in love, was number one at the box office. With that in mind, here are some tips for ensuring your FWB situation scores just as big. Keep reading »
It’s time again for “Shortcuts.” For every question, I’ll give my advice in three sentences or less, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss guy friends who want to take things to the next level, mercy-killing a relationship, and guilt over being “the other woman.” Keep reading »
A couple weeks ago, I posted a list of 15 signs you’re just friends to help those of you in male-female friendships determine whether your pal is strictly a pal and nothing more. If you’re still feeling a little unsure what the status of your relationship is, maybe today’s list will help you a little more. After the jump, 15 signs you’re more than just friends (or friends with benefits). Keep reading »
Evolutionary psychologist Peter K. Jonason thinks he has this whole friends with benefits thing figured out. Annoyed by seeing only the extremes of one-night stands and marriage being studied, Jonason decided to take a step into the gray area of researching what he calls “the booty call relationship.” The end product is a paper called “Positioning the Booty-Call Relationship on the Spectrum of Relationships.” In it, he believes he answers some pressing questions about why so many people, especially college students, end up with f**k buddies.
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Justin Timberlake was in Times Square to shoot “Friends with Benefits,” a film co-starring Mila Kunis. Justin appears to be standing in the middle of a huge dance sequence. Hopefully, he will get to boogie too. [NYC, 8/6/10] Keep reading »
It’s time again for “Shortcuts.” For every question, I’ll give my advice in two sentences or less, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss braggart husbands, commitment-phobe boyfriends, “test-driving” relationships, and what to do with a cigar box of memories. Keep reading »
Shooting “Friends with Benefits” in New York City today, actress Mila Kunis tries to pretend she doesn’t need to pee while costar Justin Timberlake tries to figure out how big he can make the crotch pooch in his pants. As for the movie, it’s about “a headhunter [who] recruits a magazine editor and since each is too busy to find a mate, they agree to sleep together with no strings attached.” Don’t tell Jessica Biel. [NYC, 7/20/10] Keep reading »