“If you want to have kids you’d better do it while you’re young. The women in our family go through menopause early — 38 to be exact. Your grandmother? 39.”
My mother said that to me every few weeks from the moment I started menstruating until I hit 30. But at 25, I was more concerned with drink specials than finding someone special. During my monthly fertility chats with Mom, I’d internally puff up and congratulate myself for not being into all that conventional crap.
I was the cool chick. The one who didn’t need a boyfriend and didn’t want to get married and lived in a big, bad city and focused on work and traipsed about to parties; soaking up new experiences and bad dating stories like a weathered Army vet with a killer hangover. This was my identity and I loved every second of it. Keep reading »
Mother Nature’s biological clock stops for no one, not even wannabe grandparents. And that’s why, instead of nagging their daughters about why they have not settled down and started pumping out babies, The New York Times reports that today’s moms and dads are helping to foot the bill to freeze their eggs. Well, rich moms and dads, anyway. The procedure to freeze eggs (not including future in vitro fertilization) costs between $8,000 and $18,000. But apparently, the possibility of future grandchildren is priceless. Keep reading »
When you’re 32, have no serious romantic prospects besides the one(s) in your head, most of your close friends are getting married or having babies, and the only thing you’re sure of is that you’d like to have a baby someday too, you spend a lot of time thinking about how that’s going to happen. I am not proud of being a chick flick stereotype, believe me, but I looked in the mirror this morning and that’s what I saw and, well, time to face facts. Keep reading »
In Newsweek, Rachel Lehmann-Haupt shares how she decided to have some of her eggs frozen at 37. After a relationship ended, Rachel wanted to have kids of her own at some point in the future, but she worried her time might be running out, since doctors say 35 is the age after which fertility tends to drop. With money inherited from her grandmother, she had the procedure, and eight of her mature eggs are being stored for the day when she finds a man to fertilize them.
Lehmann-Haupt speculates freezing eggs could affect women’s lives. “I think that like birth control or abortion, egg freezing could also change society. It is a choice, another tool by which women are able to assert control over their bodies.” The prohibitive cost (around $15,000 plus $400 per year for storing the eggs) prevents the majority of us from having our eggs frozen for later use, but someday, as science progresses, this could change. Is this something you would do? Do you think freezing your eggs would help you feel like you have more control over your life? Would it take away some of the pressure we feel to find a man and make babies before a certain age? [Newsweek via Salon Broadsheet] Keep reading »