“I don’t have a problem with gay people. I got some gay homies. Yeah, for real. People who were gay used to get beat up. It was cool to beat up on gay people back then. But in the 90s and 2000s, gay is a way of life. Just regular people with jobs. Now they are accepted, not classified. They just went through the same things we went through as black. … Frank Ocean ain’t no rapper. He’s a singer. It’s acceptable in the singing world, but in the rap world I don’t know if it will ever be acceptable because rap is so masculine. It’s like a football team. You can’t be in a locker room full of motherf–king tough-ass dudes, then all of a sudden say, ‘Hey, man, I like you.’ You know, that’s going to be tough.”
––Well, Snoop, I’d argue that gay has been a “way of life” since, like, forever. But still, it’s interesting to hear a major figure in the rap world actually offer up some coherent thoughts on homosexuality in the rap game. And, for what it’s worth, Snoop, I do know of openly gay (and trans!) rappers who have steadily been making their way to the mainstream. There’s hope for acceptance, yet. [The Guardian]
GQ: Do you consider yourself bisexual?
Frank Ocean: You can move to the next question. I’ll respectfully say that life is dynamic and comes along with dynamic experiences, and the same sentiment that I have towards genres of music, I have towards a lot of labels and boxes and shit. I’m in this business to be creative-I’ll even diminish it and say to be a content provider. One of the pieces of content that I’m for fuck sure not giving is porn videos. I’m not a centerfold. I’m not trying to sell you sex. People should pay attention to that in the letter: I didn’t need to label it for it to have impact. Because people realize everything that I say is so relatable, because when you’re talking about romantic love, both sides in all scenarios feel the same shit. As a writer, as a creator, I’m giving you my experiences. But just take what I give you. You ain’t got to pry beyond that. I’m giving you what I feel like you can feel. The other shit, you can’t feel. You can’t feel a box. You can’t feel a label. Don’t get caught up in that shit. There’s so much something in life. Don’t get caught up in the nothing. That shit is nothing, you know? It’s nothing. Vanish the fear.
– R&B singer Frank Ocean, offering a radical alternative to the gay/straight, public/private dichotomy. Ocean seems to suggest that it’s not only inappropriate to try and sexually label him, but also inadequate. And while there’s plenty of implied political power in identifying as gay or bisexual, it may not be accurate or adequate for something as large as sexuality. Ocean infamously revealed that he’d previously been in love with a man on his Tumblr this past July. [GQ]
Oh, Karl Lagerfeld, have you ever smiled in your life? We understand there’s a lot of pressure when you’re Kaiser Karl, but hello — you’re hanging out with amazing R&B star Frank Ocean. That’s something to be happy about! Ocean and Karl struck a pose together at Karl and Carine Roitfeld’s launch for their Little Black Jacket Chanel exhibition.
“Personally, for me, I like people I have a connection with. I’m not the type of girl who will date someone that I don’t really like just so I’m not lonely. So the people I always end up being with are people I have a big-ass connection with, and that could be with a boy, that could be with a girl. It could be with someone who’s 40-years-old, it could be with someone who’s 18, you know what I’m saying? I don’t want to put those boundaries on myself because that’ll limit the kind of people that I attract. I don’t go searching for girls and guys, I just take whatever comes my way and that’s just genuine.”
– Rapper Kreayshawn spoke with Salon.com about Frank Ocean’s coming-out and her own sexuality, namely how she herself doesn’t label it. This bit reminded me of an article I read yesterday in New York magazine. They interviewed a bunch of bisexuals — rather, more accurately, people who have been attracted to both men and women throughout their lives — and I was surprised at how many of them used the label “gay” or “straight” or no label at all instead of saying “bi.” For myself I prefer to just say “straight-ish” … or “slut.” [Salon.com]
“[Coming out] was about my own sanity and my ability to feel like I’m living a life where … I’m happy when I wake up in the morning, and not with this freakin’ boulder on my chest. … I wished at 13 there was somebody I looked up to who would have said something like that, who would have been transparent in that way.”
– R&B singer Frank Ocean, on coming out at age 24. [The Guardian]
Beyonce is super stoked for newly out R&B singer Frank Ocean, and to show her support, she did what only Bey-Bey could: She posted a poem for Ocean on her website. The rather repetitive verse encourages Ocean to be himself and be an inspiration. Would we expect anything less from Beyonce, really?
After the jump, seven more soulful celebrity poets (including Charlie Sheen — yes, really).
On last night’s Jimmy Fallon, openly gay R&B singer Frank Ocean offered up his debut television performance. Ocean chose to sing the song “Bad Religion,” off his new album Channel Orange, a moving song about loving someone who can’t love you back. In it, he intones:
This unrequited love
To me it’s nothing but
A one-man cult
And cyanide in my styrofoam cup
I could never make him love me
Never make him love me
Ocean’s vocals, and his message, are heartbreaking and powerful. And definitely worth a listen.