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4 Steps To Forgiving Your Mom

Congratulations! You have taken the first step toward choosing to have an entirely different relationship with your mother. That’s very exciting — and admirable … especially after all these years of feeling that you were powerless to change your feelings, and that she may have been the one at fault. Now let’s take the next step so that this Mother’s Day is different — and you are left feeling satisfied at having achieved your own freedom from your reactions. That would be a remarkable achievement indeed! 

Mother’s Day, like Christmas and other family times together, can be a period of enormous stress and apprehension before, during and after the event. I suggest that you make the choice based on a powerful new perspective, which will give you a profound sense of peace, ease, and even love. How good would that be? How freeing would that be for you? Would there be anything to lose? Read more …

Poll: Could You Forgive Your Significant Other’s Infidelity?

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20 Things Your Boyfriend Should Forgive You For

Yesterday, Simcha posted a list of 22 things women should forgive their boyfriends for, but compassion goes both ways, fellas! Ladies screw up from time to time too, but we sure would appreciate you letting the following 20 things slide. Keep reading »

22 Things You Should Forgive Your Boyfriend For

Nobody’s perfect. And whom do you want to kiss and make up with more than your man? Though he sometimes might make you feel crazy for loving him, like a country singer with big hair and puns to spare, you know deep down inside you can forgive him for some minor indiscretions. So, in honor of Kiss and Make Up Day, here are some things you can turn a blind eye to, or at least channel into hot make-up sex. Keep reading »

21 Things A Woman Should Never Forgive A Man For Doing

Remember that part in the “Sex and the City” movie when Miranda and Carrie are sitting in the backseat of a taxi, and Miranda is trying to get Carrie to forgive her for basically screwing up her whole wedding and entire life, and then Carrie says Miranda should forgive Steve for cheating on her while they’re at it, and then Carrie says, “It’s forgiveness,” and the taxi driver nods in understanding? Well, that has no bearing on what I’m about to say here.

There are things people do in relationships that are simply never, ever forgivable. You might think we’re talking about “cheating” or something along those lines, but I think the issue goes much deeper than that. There are things far, far graver that a woman can never, EVER forgive her man for doing. Find out what they are after the jump. They may shock and amaze you. Keep reading »

Could You Forgive A Cheater?

At this point, it’s redundant to dissect the various political sexcapades of late. But all that talk of cheating has many of us civilians looking over our partners’ shoulders. I think every woman cringed a little at the thought that Elin Nordegren, Tiger Woods’ wife, might attend the press conference held by the man that publicly shamed her, and cheered when she didn’t. The same cannot be said for Silda Spitzer and, for a time, Elizabeth Edwards, both of whom “stood by their man.” Now comes news that “Lost” star Matthew Fox might have cheated on his wife of 18 years with a stripper. What would you do if you were one of these women? Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Finding Forgiveness For A Friend’s Assault

My best friend in the world was attacked. Her ex, upset and drunk one night, followed her home and up the stairs to her apartment door. Before she could close it, he’d muscled it open. She tried to force the weight of her body against it, to hold it shut. And couldn’t. He came through. He chased her through the apartment, bellowing about what she “owed him,” and knocked her down. He held her on the floor, but she got away, running down the street missing a shoe.
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Girl Talk: Meeting Up With My Ex Was Therapeutic

Meeting up with an ex

I was in Brooklyn exactly one block from David’s* apartment with about one hour to spare. I knew what I had to do. I sent a text before I had too much time to think about it: “I’m in your hood. Have an hour to kill. Drink?” I got a queasy feeling in my stomach. It had been almost two years since the last time I’d seen him … Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Forgiveness Goes A Long Way

The names, details, and genders of the two people referenced in this story are unimportant. This essay is about forgiveness, not the things that needed to be forgiven.

Over the course of the last few months — and as recently as the last few days — I’ve taken the opportunity to forgive a few key people in my life. While my relationships with these two people are very, very different, they both hurt me in some strangely similar ways. Both betrayed my trust, both became strangers to me, and both made me extremely angry. The kind of anger that, even when you don’t have the person in your life for a long period of time, still grips your heart and claws at your skin every single day. The kind of anger that makes you forget the person is still a human being — the kind of anger that’s poisonous. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: How “Intervention” Helped Me To Forgive

I was really young and naïve when I met Christian* at a nightclub. By “young,” I mean 18 and by “naïve,” I mean an inexperienced dater who thought men would only like me for my intelligence.

“Isn’t she beautiful?” Christian asked some other club goers in line. I looked behind me to see where the beautiful girl was. I certainly didn’t think it was me. But he pointed at me again. He was standing in the club’s entryway wearing big, Buddy Holly glasses, black leather pants, and reeking of “teen icon.” Then he smiled – a wide, devilish grin. With one hand, he offered me a lollipop; with the other he held a whiskey on the rocks. In fact, in the four years (on and off) that we were involved, Christian usually had a whiskey on the rocks. It was like his signature accessory. Keep reading »