We’ve been thinking a lot about second chances lately: when to give them, who to give them to, and how they’re earned. Second chances are complicated, because we all want to be one of those magnanimous, forgiving souls who write inspiring essays for O magazine, but at the same time, no one wants to be a gullible doormat. There’s a balance between forgiveness and foolishness; the trick is learning to walk the tight rope. Sometimes second chances are in order, and sometimes, in the cases of hipster bars or douche-y exes, it’s best to just cut your losses and move on. Here are 15 things that (almost) always deserve a second chance, and 10 things that strike out after one. Keep reading »
So, let’s say you’ve made some poor choices and really burned or betrayed someone. What are your chances of being forgiven? Well, that depends on the nature of your relationship, the quality of your apologies, and of course, the astrological sign of the person you’re begging for forgiveness! Which sign will be more than happy to let bygones be bygones? Which sign will forgive but not forget? Which sign will make you work to earn back their trust? Which sign will take their grudge to the grave? Read on to find out which signs will forgive you… Keep reading »
Congratulations! You have taken the first step toward choosing to have an entirely different relationship with your mother. That’s very exciting — and admirable … especially after all these years of feeling that you were powerless to change your feelings, and that she may have been the one at fault. Now let’s take the next step so that this Mother’s Day is different — and you are left feeling satisfied at having achieved your own freedom from your reactions. That would be a remarkable achievement indeed!
Mother’s Day, like Christmas and other family times together, can be a period of enormous stress and apprehension before, during and after the event. I suggest that you make the choice based on a powerful new perspective, which will give you a profound sense of peace, ease, and even love. How good would that be? How freeing would that be for you? Would there be anything to lose? Read more …
Yesterday, Simcha posted a list of 22 things women should forgive their boyfriends for, but compassion goes both ways, fellas! Ladies screw up from time to time too, but we sure would appreciate you letting the following 20 things slide. Keep reading »
Nobody’s perfect. And whom do you want to kiss and make up with more than your man? Though he sometimes might make you feel crazy for loving him, like a country singer with big hair and puns to spare, you know deep down inside you can forgive him for some minor indiscretions. So, in honor of Kiss and Make Up Day, here are some things you can turn a blind eye to, or at least channel into hot make-up sex. Keep reading »
Remember that part in the “Sex and the City” movie when Miranda and Carrie are sitting in the backseat of a taxi, and Miranda is trying to get Carrie to forgive her for basically screwing up her whole wedding and entire life, and then Carrie says Miranda should forgive Steve for cheating on her while they’re at it, and then Carrie says, “It’s forgiveness,” and the taxi driver nods in understanding? Well, that has no bearing on what I’m about to say here.
There are things people do in relationships that are simply never, ever forgivable. You might think we’re talking about “cheating” or something along those lines, but I think the issue goes much deeper than that. There are things far, far graver that a woman can never, EVER forgive her man for doing. Find out what they are after the jump. They may shock and amaze you. Keep reading »
At this point, it’s redundant to dissect the various political sexcapades of late. But all that talk of cheating has many of us civilians looking over our partners’ shoulders. I think every woman cringed a little at the thought that Elin Nordegren, Tiger Woods’ wife, might attend the press conference held by the man that publicly shamed her, and cheered when she didn’t. The same cannot be said for Silda Spitzer and, for a time, Elizabeth Edwards, both of whom “stood by their man.” Now comes news that “Lost” star Matthew Fox might have cheated on his wife of 18 years with a stripper. What would you do if you were one of these women? Keep reading »
My best friend in the world was attacked. Her ex, upset and drunk one night, followed her home and up the stairs to her apartment door. Before she could close it, he’d muscled it open. She tried to force the weight of her body against it, to hold it shut. And couldn’t. He came through. He chased her through the apartment, bellowing about what she “owed him,” and knocked her down. He held her on the floor, but she got away, running down the street missing a shoe.
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I was in Brooklyn exactly one block from David’s* apartment with about one hour to spare. I knew what I had to do. I sent a text before I had too much time to think about it: “I’m in your hood. Have an hour to kill. Drink?” I got a queasy feeling in my stomach. It had been almost two years since the last time I’d seen him … Keep reading »