Posts tagged "first time for everything"

First Time For Everything: A Polyamorous Relationship

I really didn’t know what polyamory was until I fell into it at 27. I was arguing one day with a couple I’d been sleeping with for about a month, when BAM! I ended up in a three-way relationship. I’ve always been open-minded as far as sexual relationships were concerned and was sleeping with a…
By: Anya James / April 30, 2010

First Time For Everything: Sex Parties Helped Me Overcome My Intimacy Issues

I double-checked my bag: Wallet, bus pass, lip gloss. A bottle of cheap wine. A variety pack of condoms. My favorite vibrator and a pair of handcuffs. My husband and I were attending our very first sex party and — by God — I wanted us to be prepared. I wasn’t sure what to expect…
By: Steph Auteri / February 12, 2010

First Time For Everything: Screwing My Gay Best Friend

"I've never even kissed a woman," Adam said. One of my best friends on the planet, Adam was unequivocally gay—the kind of caricature personality who lisped, wore pink, plucked his eyebrows, flicked his wrists, and decorated his apartment in rainbows. He was my first call when a guy I was dating was being a jerk,…
By: Anonymous / October 20, 2009

First Time For Everything: A May-December Romance

We met when I delivered his mail, a task performed by all the interns. But I liked to think I was different: I was an eager little NYU journalism student, desperate for attention, and I chatted with all the editors as I passed their cubicles. Many magazine editors on the top of the masthead are…
By: Jessica Wakeman / September 23, 2009

First Time For Everything: The Gratifying One-Night Stand

As a single lady who has lived in a big city for years, and now moved to a new one, I've had my fare share of one-night stands. I'd never call myself someone who makes a romantic life out of having a lot of random sex. In fact, my heart stands more on the…
By: Anonymous / September 8, 2009

First Time For Everything: Swinging

When I first set out to write about swinging for an article about the lifestyle, the last thing I expected was to find myself nodding when a slim, curly-haired brunette asks if she may take off my panties. It's a windy Friday night and I'm in a cozy, apartment-style swing club in Midtown Manhattan, my…
By: Diana Vilibert / September 3, 2009

First Time For Everything: Rough Sex

I thought I’d had “rough sex” before; I’d been spanked on my butt plenty of times, had my hair pulled, even been caned once while strung up with my hands over my head. That hurt, and I cried, and I liked it, because I’m submissive like that, but it was just a one-time thing. I’d…
By: Rachel Kramer Bussel / August 17, 2009

First Time For Everything: Getting Spanked

My first spanking was at my 16th birthday party. My guy friends tackled me on the kitchen floor and took turns giving me 16 spanks. And maybe one for good luck. I don't remember. Once freed, I was livid. I was mortified. And I was totally turned on.
By: Jessica Wakeman / June 1, 2009

First Time For Everything: Hot For Teacher

It began with my high school English teacher. I was 15 and shy; he was 30 and moonlighted as a poet. He also cursed in class, horsed around with his students, and (despite his age) still had jet black hair. I got nervous and sweaty whenever we interacted, and my childish crush raged until high…
By: Christiana Yiallourides / March 2, 2009

First Time For Everything: Hot Ugly Sex

“So when can we meet him?” This is a question that most women long to hear from their friends after dating a great guy for a couple of weeks. It is the last thing you want to hear, however, when your current beau is unattractive. Alright, I am sugarcoating it -- this guy was ugly.
By: Joey Simon / February 9, 2009

First Time For Everything: I Called Off My Engagement

Recently, I committed the ultimate relationship taboo: I told a man who wanted to spend the rest of his life with me that I couldn’t marry him. Even worse, I broke off my engagement at a time in my life when many of my close girlfriends are blissfully picking out wedding dresses and drafting tender…
By: Lauren Cook / January 12, 2009

First Time For Everything: Dating A Younger Man

I have forever dated older men. Some by a year. Others by four years. Another by ten years. My theory came to be that ten years might be the ideal age difference. I felt five years older than my age, and men were usually about five maturity years younger than their actual age, so if…
By: Natalie Krinsky / December 15, 2008

First Time For Everything: Holiday Party Hook-Up

There I was at my first company Christmas party, looking respectably sophisticated in a little black dress and kitten heels. Fresh out of college, I was working a coffee-running, "Ugly Betty" kind of job at a major conglomerate. This seasonal shindig wasn't your average corporate affair. Since there were thousands of employees, no one wa…
By: Jacqueline Frankel / December 8, 2008

First Time For Everything: Shacking Up

You truly don’t know your man until you perform the ultimate test of compatibility. No, it does not involve signing up on eHarmony.com to see if you’re meant to be. To know if your love will last until the end of your days, you must do the inevitable: Move in together. When my boyfriend of…
By: Marissa Willman / September 29, 2008

First Time For Everything: Sex On The Beach And Other Unlikely Places

Everybody’s talking about British psychoanalyst Brett Kahr’s meaty new tome, Who’s Been Sleeping in Your Head?, based on the largest study of sexual fantasies ever undertaken. Not surprisingly, sex in public ranks high up there. This very important research prompted me to take an oh-so-romantic walk down memory lane to reflect on what were the…
By: Erin Flaherty / August 31, 2008

First Time For Everything: Dating A Grandfather

Last year, I had sex with a grandfather. That sounds bad, but I didn’t know he was a grandpa until after we’d done it. Plus, he’s a good thirty years younger than my own grandfather. But still, at 53, he had two kids and a baby granddaughter, while at 32, I’m itching to give birth…
By: Rachel Kramer Bussel / July 21, 2008

First Time For Everything: The Great Twentysomething Move-Out

As Erin already pointed out, there will be some point in your career as a twentysomething when someone will break your heart. There’s also a chance you’ll break someone’s heart. Either way, there’s a good chance that someone will be your roommate, making cutting ties an even bigger bitch than usual. Here are…
By: Elizabeth Kaufman / July 7, 2008

First Time For Everything: Dating A Good Guy

I have dated losers of all stripes. Degenerate gamblers, pathological liars, cheaters, guys who can’t get it up, nymphomaniacs, older guys, younger guys, short guys, out of shape guys, steroid-pumping in-shape guys, musicians, baby daddies and waiters. I even had a brief affair with a Voice Over Artist. Yes, in a world where you can’t…
By: Natalie Krinsky / June 16, 2008

First Time For Everything: The Rebound

After a bad break-up, I hid in my room for a while listening to Beck's sad Sea Change, clutching my childhood stuffed animal, Muffin, wondering what I did wrong. But after the obligatory period of self-pity, I was ready to move into phase two: the drunken rebound. My newfound freedom had me wanting some free…
By: Jacqueline Frankel / June 2, 2008

First Time For Everything: Losing The V-Card

I will forever associate my virginity with toads. No, this is no allusion to fairy tales, no delusions of princess-like grandeur. To my grave disappointment, at no point during my epic virginity-losing did the pimply faced amphibian straddling me morph into a dashing prince. The reason I associate my deflowering with toads is because instead…
By: Natalie Krinsky / April 14, 2008