As I surveyed real friends, Facebook friends, Twitter friends, and total strangers about having sex on the first date, the unfortunate cow comparison came up no fewer than five times in my first twelve interviews. Everybody complained about it, bemoaning the lack of nuance, the icky imagery, and the overt transactional implications. And yet, it kept rearing it’s ugly little antiquated head. Are there kernels of truth buried there? Is first-date sex a relationship nonstarter? Are we, as we often claim to be, past the era of plastering A’s on each other’s chests? Keep reading »
Oh, there are just rules for everything, huh? Floss after every meal! Don’t wear white after Labor Day! If you’re going to pick your nose, do it in private! As Mischa Barton knows, rules are meant to be broken and there’s no bigger one to break, in my book, than that whole “don’t bone a dude on the first date” rule. Sure, there are plenty of decent reasons to resist doing the horizontal mambo right away, but there are just as many to justify dropping your drawers and getting it on tout de suite! Here are five. Keep reading »
While we here at The Frisky, from our experienced Mind of Man to the freshly single gal Amelia, have been debating the merits of sex on a first date, some researchers in the U.K. think they’ve got it down to a science.
According to a mathematical model created by Prof. Robert Seymour and his team from the University College London, “By delaying mating, the female is able to reduce the chance that she will mate with a bad male.” Basically Prof. Seymour is telling you that you have to make a man wait for sex to prove his worth. This study was less interested in studs and more interested in helping women find something called a “good male.” Using other Discovery Channel-esque language like “long courtship” and “mating,” the researchers have made even sex seem unsexy. From charts, graphs and funding, Seymour has concluded that, “Long courtship is a price paid for increasing the chance that mating, if it occurs, will be a harmonious match which benefits both sexes. This may help to explain the commonly held belief that a woman is best advised not to sleep with a man on a first date.” So, let me get this equation straight. W (courtship length) times X (doin’ it), equals Y (compatibility)?! Keep reading »
Go ahead and have sex on the first date if you want. If it feels good, do it. Ruin yourself. Get your rocks off. Surrender to chemistry, drink, irresponsibility. Indulge in the passion, throw caution to the wind, make a big sloppy mess of your love life. Your prince might not call you back if you rail him in the bathroom stall or after he slinks out of your apartment while you’re sleeping. If that happens, cry and wail! Just know that reports of the fragility of the human heart are greatly exaggerated. Keep reading »