Men should pay for the first date. It is our responsibility, nay, birthright. It’s what we do instead of having to wear heels or beautifying face spackle. Women should offer to at least cover the tip, because that is polite. The next date should be her treat. Every subsequent date should be split. This is also polite. It is 2009, after all, and things change. More men are strapped for cash, more women are flushed. It is an increasingly even playing field when it comes to gender norms. Simple, right? Now we can all move along… Keep reading »
An internet market research company surveyed 3,000 people recently and asked them what they consider the 10 biggest first date faux pas. The answers were a bit surprising, but before you take a peek at them after the jump, think about what you consider first date faux pas. Someone who monopolizes the conversation? Won’t quit talking about past relationships? Makes racist, sexist remarks? Wants to debate every point you make? Wears cheap, overpowering cologne? Tries to maul you when he says good-night? Yeah, none of those made the list. See what did after the jump. Keep reading »
You’ve got your favorite lip gloss, mints, and enough money to cover your share of dinner, but are there first-date essentials you’re forgetting to bring — or forgetting to leave at home? Learn from my mistakes and make sure these things are on your first-date checklist. Keep reading »
Go ahead and have sex on the first date if you want. If it feels good, do it. Ruin yourself. Get your rocks off. Surrender to chemistry, drink, irresponsibility. Indulge in the passion, throw caution to the wind, make a big sloppy mess of your love life. Your prince might not call you back if you rail him in the bathroom stall or after he slinks out of your apartment while you’re sleeping. If that happens, cry and wail! Just know that reports of the fragility of the human heart are greatly exaggerated. Keep reading »
I’m going to make a general statement here that’s probably going to get me flamed. If you have any interest in something more than sexual with a guy, do not have sex with him on the first date. While I’m usually against such “dating rules,” there are some logical conclusions I’ve come to after observing men and women, hearing war stories from friends, and listening to the advice of male friends whom I respect. With obvious exceptions (yes, I’m sure you do know someone who slept with her husband of 60 years on the first date), the chance of having a long-term relationship with someone goes down, way down, if you bone on the first date. Keep reading »
The unthinkable has happened. He asked you out. The only guys who renders you speechless. The guy so smart, handsome and unbelievably hot you can do little more than blush and stutter in his presence. And now you’re going out with him. Tomorrow. Hooray?
Your friends think it’s cute that you’re in such a panic, but you can’t see any humor in the situation. Not only do you have to lose ten pounds, grow an extra cup size and somehow talk your mousey mop into looking like Jennifer Aniston’s—you have to do it all by tomorrow. Oh, and you should probably also think about regaining your powers of speech. What to wear? What to smell like? What to do?
Okay, I can’t really help you with that, but here are a few things you definitely shouldn’t do, after the jump… Keep reading »
iCarly‘s 15-year-old star Miranda Cosgrove toldPeople she hasn’t gone on a real date yet. “I can go on double dates with my friends. It’s the big time to get a boyfriend, I guess. My best friend goes on a date and calls me and tells me all the details like 20 times.” This got us thinking about our first dates…I think my mom drove me and the boy to the movies. Keep reading »
So, itâ€™s Friday night and the cute guy you met at a party last weekend asked you out on a date — you really like him and really want to overcome all the first date barriers to score an ever so elusive second date. Well there are lots of precautions to take to get there, but I will help you out with the first, which is perhaps the most important. You guessed it: Wardrobe Choice! Since this is a first date, letâ€™s consider a standard scenario: dinner at a restaurant whose ambiance falls somewhere in between local bar and 5-star hot spot, followed by a movie. The combo-date will give us a lot of leeway to examine several possibilities. Let’s look to Cameron Diaz for inspiration.
You could wear that killer dress that never fails to get heads turning. In this situation, however, a dress can potentially make you seem high-maintenance; while some guys do find high-maintenance gals appealing, itâ€™s a slippery slope, and a risk simply not worth taking on a first date. Slipping on a smashing dress, especially when combined with pre-date excitement, can also lead you to go way overboard with the hair, makeup, accessories, etc. — in which case you will have graduated from “too high maintenanceâ€™” to “total freaking drag queen”. FYI, that is a major first-date DONâ€™T!
You also could go the casual jeans and t-shirt route, you know, to show him that youâ€™re one of those cool girls who isnâ€™t obsessed with her appearance. Okay, true, he may find your laid back vibe appealing, however, if you put so little effort into this first date, it might make him too scared to stick around and see what future dates might hold. In other words, visions of unshaved legs might send him straight to the island of lost men. Let’s talk about smart options, after the jump. Keep reading »