Don’t: Misrepresent yourself. While online dating is a valuable resource for the savvy single, there are people out there who misrepresent themselves. Don’t be one of them. Just as your online dating profile should accurately represent who you really are, your in-person encounters should be equally authentic. Don’t pretend to be something or someone you’re not to try and impress a potential partner. You’re fabulous just as you are and if somebody else can’t see that, it’s their loss. Besides, a relationship founded on lies and/or insincerities will quickly crumble.
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How long does it take to make a first impression? 15 seconds? 7 seconds? 3 seconds? I’ve been doing some dating lately (FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, SOMEONE HELP ME), and I’ve come to the conclusion that I can tell how a date is going to go within the first three seconds. My shrink thinks this is poppycock, some fantasy of omnipotence, but what does he know? In any case, I believe — and this is the key — that if I’m totally honest with myself, I know exactly how the date will go virtually immediately: the second I set eyes on the guy.
When you go on a first date, is your first impression usually right or wrong? Keep reading »
Dear Guys: You are awesome, and the ladies of The Frisky love you, but sometimes when it comes to dating, you forget that the first date is where you get to make your key first impression on us, and when it comes to your fashion choices … well, some of them are questionable. Therefore, we have created a helpful guide revealing what you really! shouldn’t! wear! on! a! first! date! Unless you want it to be our last. Check out the big no-nos after the jump. Keep reading »
I took a break from the online dating pool for about four months because my dad was in the final stages of cancer. He passed away in July, and I’ve been back in the online dating waters for a month or so now and am having trouble deciding what’s appropriate to share about my dad’s death on a first date. I feel that I have taken time to focus on myself and deal with my feelings, and I can talk about his passing very easily because of the work I’ve done on myself. However, in the few dates I’ve had these past few weeks, the topic of family, whether my parents are still together, what my relationship with my parents is like, etc. naturally comes up. I don’t like lying, especially on a first date, but I also don’t want to bring down the room by saying, “Oh actually, my dad’s dead.” I don’t feel uncomfortable telling people he passed away recently, but it seems to make some guys uncomfortable, like I’m telling too much too soon. Is this a case of “Well, if the guy can’t handle it , hen that’s his problem” or more of a “Hey, stop revealing so much about yourself on a first date”? I don’t make the subject of his death into a long drawn-out discussion — it’s just a fact of my life. Is there “proper” etiquette for handling this? — WWMMD (What Would Miss Manners Do)
We ladies take on an awful lot of the responsibility when a date goes bad. But sometimes it’s just not our fault. Sometimes the guys we date just don’t know when to shut up, and end up saying rude, stupid or downright utterly shocking things to us. After the jump, some of THE WORST first date confessions we’ve heard from guys. Stuff they should have waited to say or, perhaps, never said at all. It’s not that we don’t appreciate their candidness — but perhaps they should have waited until we got to know each other a little better before confessing their deepest secrets.
And don’t forget to tell us about the worst, most appalling, or surprising thing a guy’s ever confessed to you. Keep reading »
You’re going on a date. You get dressed, you head out the door, you walk into the joint. He’s not bad. Heck, he’s even cute. Everything is going great. But then you say something, or do something, from which there is no returning. Oops. You made a tragic first date mistake. Don’t you hate it when that happens? I know I do. If you want to know the top 10 things you should never, ever do on a first date, that I, myself, may, I repeat, may, have done at some point in my life, read on. Keep reading »
Getting ready for a first date is never easy. Between the expectations, nervousness and excitement it usually doesn’t go as planned. In fact, a first date is often awkward and a bit uncomfortable. After all, you’re getting to know someone for the first time. Instead of worrying about the possibility of the date going wrong, take a look at 15 easy ways you can make your first date less awkward and more of a success! Keep reading »
Congratulations! The upbeat, All-American-esque cutie you met last week has asked you out on a date. You’re pretty darn happy for yourself, but let’s face it, you’re also slightly nervous because first dates are, well, nerve-wracking. Never fear—luck is on your side, as are we. Follow these seven tips for first date preparation and tell us how your night turned out. Keep reading »
The other day the Telegraph published a list of ten first date faux pas, which included bad manners, being late, and answering phone calls (isn’t this the same as “bad manners”?). Um, thanks Telegraph! We never would have figured those out on our own! Now, how about some tips that may not be complete no-brainers, huh? After the jump, 15 more first date mistakes to avoid. Keep reading »