Psychologist Robert Leahy made a list of reasons why men don’t listen to women. Sure maybe he’s not listening to us because he want us to be rational rather than emotional, but it’s pretty likely that at that point, we’re not listening to him either. While this list is an interesting look at why communication breaks down between the sexes from the male perspective, we thought it would only be fair to make a list of reasons why women tune men out. Check them out after the jump. Why do you stop listening? Share in the comments. Keep reading »
According to a new study, bathroom behaviors are to blame for triggering the majority of couples’ average of 312 fights a year, with kitchen cleanliness coming in a close second. If you think couples are fighting — most often on Thursdays at 8:00pm for approximately ten minutes — about meaningful stuff like sex, money, parenting, and core values, think again. The study,aptly conducted by Betterbathrooms.com, found that for the 3,000 adults surveyed, it’s the little things that happen in the potty room, like hair in the shower drain, that cause the biggest fights. I don’t know about you, but hair in the drain really does send me into a rage. I also hate when the toilet paper roll is facing the wrong direction. Purely maddening. After the jump, the top 10 things that set couples off. What little things make you go postal on your SO? Feel free to get them off your chest in the comments. Keep reading »
Men. Who can understand them? Not me. The thing about men I understand the least is how they fight. I literally feel like I’m speaking another language when I’m arguing with my dude. Are we talking about the same thing? Did we have the same conversation? Wait, are we even on the same planet? That’s when I feel like that “men are from Mars” and “women are from Venus” BS might have some truth to it.
Things we don’t understand about how men argue — and sweeping gender generalizations! — after the jump … Keep reading »
As I get older and my life becomes more complicated, I’ve noticed that my desire to spend time with certain friends has waned. Not that I don’t love and care for them, but for various reasons, these friendships have become too complicated or too negative to warrant the effort that it takes to keep them going. How sad. Yet I have to wonder, is this simply something that happens with age and increased stress? Or is it more?
When I look back, the power of hindsight offers a few clues that these friendships were ending regardless of what was going on in my life. I don’t imagine that there was much that I could have done to save them because each one had some of the eroding elements listed below. If you’re thinking about shifts in your friendships and wondering if one has become toxic, I offer you these signs that it’s time to let the relationship go. Keep reading »
How many times a day do you smile? Chances are it might not be enough. Smiling can change your mood, making you feel happy even when you didn’t think you could. Think about it — people are always busy, whether they’re late to work, shopping around, or running errands. We often forget how easy it is to smile and the significant effect it can have on improving your perspetive. If happiness is not enough of an incentive to start smiling, well, for the hell of it, then maybe getting a beach bod is. While smiling may not directly burn calories, it might lead to a good laugh, which could burn anywhere from 10 to 40 calories per day! Science, people! After the jump, find out five more reasons to smile just because. Keep reading »
Every once in a while I get a question that’s so to-the-point and universal, I can’t not answer. Here’s an example:
Is fighting healthy for a relationship? And if so, how do you define what a “healthy fight” is? — Curious
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Let’s be honest: every relationship has a moment—OK, a lot of moments—where one person just wants the other person to shut up. Whether it’s in the middle of a fight or just during a stressful moment, the sound of the other person’s voice is just bothering you.
But saying “shut up,” as we all learned in grade school, is just rude. Relationships thrive on kindness and telling your partner to “shut up” is about as disrespectful as you can get. So, how to you get your boo to cease and desist talking/nagging/complaining while still showing some respect? Keep reading »
I’ve always considered fighting to be a really important part of a relationship. Almost as important as how we f**k. Hear me out on this one. Just like screwing, I’ve always thought that there needed to be a balance, a compatibility in the way my dude and I verbally sparred. If we fought the same — either by withdrawing emotionally or screaming obscenities or sobbing tears of rage — our disagreements would never, ever end. I’m a weeper and, at times, an emotional mess. Often the only thing that can pull me out of the sinkhole is the soothing voice and manner of someone — a man, in this case — taking charge and putting an end to a fight as swiftly as it began. It’s the one area of my life where sometimes I feel like I need a little “saving.” Keep reading »
Yesterday, as I was about to get in my usual train car (I’m a creature of habit), I noticed something was amiss. There was a large crowd of about 50 teenagers hovering over two girls who were beating the crap out of each other. This wasn’t your usual hair-pulling-and-scratching kind of girl fight. These girls would have made even the most hardened UFC fighters cringe, as they punched, kicked, and slammed each other. The funny thing is that when they arrived at their stop, the fighting stopped. And as I sat in another train car, I thought: “Well, at least they’re responsible enough to go to school.” I’ve never been in a girl fight, unless you count the times when my bigger and older cousins would beat me up and I would bite them in defense, but we were only toddlers. I went to Catholic schools, where we were watched like hawks and teachers always swooped in before anything came to blows. Once, in high school, these girls had a major fight, miles away from the school, but they were wearing their very recognizable uniforms, and someone called the school and they got in trouble anyway. I think physical fighting just wasn’t worth it for most of my fellow students or me. We developed very witty ways to argue and learned how to curse like sailors instead. But I wonder what other people’s experiences have been. Have you ever been in a girl fight? Keep reading »
I know, I know, how do you define “better,” right? But I think most people would agree that men and women tend to have different fighting “styles,” which really becomes a problem when we’re fighting with each other, especially in a romantic relationship. So, what do men think of the way their partners behave during a lover’s quarrel? Do they think women make a big deal out of nothing, or do they think we’re actually more advanced when it comes to conflict resolution? Find out, after the jump. Keep reading »