What was Pat Robertson’s famous quote about feminists again? Ah yes, feminism “encourages women to leave their husbands, kill their children, practice witchcraft, destroy capitalism and become lesbians.” Sheesh, who wants to be associated with that?
Understandably, if “feminist” is a dirty word for some women, identifying yourself as one can be downright scary for some dudes. But even in the face of ignorance regarding what feminists actually believe — that men and women are equal and thus should be paid the same, educated the same, have equal access to health care, and get equal structural support from society — some men are not afraid to fly their feminist flag.
Take Ethan Hawke, for example. In one of those silly “25 Things You Don’t Know About Me” puff pieces in US Weekly, Hawke very simply stated as fact #8, “I am a feminist.” So easy, so simple. That didn’t hurt, right?
After the jump, here are 10 other dudes who are not afraid to use the F-word…
Fox News’ new show “Outnumbered” pits four female anchorbabes up against one male guest. The premise? Gender wars! Fun! On Friday, the male guest, (unscrupulous) Fox Business contributor Charles Payne, wore a cute little accessory on air to signal his disdain for the opposite sex: cufflinks depicting a caveman with a club, dragging a woman behind him by her hair. Yes, really, he actually wore cufflinks depicting caveman domestic violence — he said so himself! You couldn’t make this shit up. [YouTube via MediaMatters]
Who is Laci Green and where has she been all my life? Like a sex-positive Disney star on speed, Laci hosts a YouTube channel called Sex+ where she covers everything from hymens and consent to buttplay and sex with disabilities. Laci is also a loud and proud feminist and yesterday she posted a video addressing three common myths about “The F Word” — that is, feminism. It’s more for the new-to-feminism types — like, say, your little sister — but I for one am really glad that chipper, upbeat and funny videos about feminism exist. [YouTube]
“Like every woman is dying to give birth! I don’t think so. Nobody asks guys that. And you go into a supermarket and every tabloid is like, ‘Pregnant and Alone!’ Stuck in the 1950s ideal of how a woman should live her life. This brings out the fiery feminist in me.”
Zooey Deschanel has always been pretty upfront about her disinterest in having children and in August’s InStyle, she calls out the tabloids for their complicity. You tell ‘em, sister! [InStyle]
My husband and I met and got married all within five months. Kale had been visiting from Australia on a year-long tourist visa when we fell in love. Marrying not only kept us together, but launched us into a lifetime side-by-side. It didn’t really feel like a choice or a decision; it was obvious to both of us what we were going to do. And that means that I put just about zero forethought into what our marriage would “mean” for me as a woman or for us as a couple.
I’d thought about marriage long before I got married, sure. As a little girl I played house, pretending to be married to my teddy bear (his name is Gregory and I still have him). I had a serious relationship in my 20s with a man — Ex-Mr. Jessica — who I’d thought I would marry and have children with. While dating Ex-Mr. J, most of my thinking had been around the work/career balance and justifying to myself how I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom, if possible, for a time. However, I hadn’t put too much thought into how the day-to-day drudgery of marriage would go. It seemed so far off. Keep reading »