I once had a boyfriend who woke me up nearly every morning with his boner.
He poked it into my back, then at my butt, again and again, again and again. At first, he did it half-jokingly, with a troublemaking grin and absurd thrusting motions. I swatted at him, told him to stop, squirmed away. He kept at it. The next day, when he didn’t get the hint, I rolled my eyes and let out several long Ughs. “Nice try, not happening,” I said.
He only got more frustrated. “Gawd, why do you have to be so boring!” He told me. “What’s wrong with you?” Keep reading »
“I don’t think of myself as being a feminist. So I don’t really think about feminism a whole lot, to be honest. I wouldn’t label myself anything, certainly not something with an ‘ism’ or an ‘ist’ at the end of it. I’m not interested in anything that is in any way excluding of men. … [E]qually, I’m not interested in anything anyone else might like me to be.”
Color me surprised. Sinead O’Connor, the woman behind badass feminist anthems like “No Man’s Woman” and “Daddy I’m Fine,” is not so interested in being labeled a feminist. Sure, she seems more against aligning herself with any set of beliefs out of a distaste for labels, which I suppose is to be expected from such an iconoclastic figure. But I was surprised Sinead would characterize feminism as possibly “excluding of men” at all. For a singer who has SO MUCH girl power spirit imbued in her songs, has spoken out about rampant sexualization within the music industry, and named her new album after Sheryl Sandberg’s “Ban Bossy” campaign, well, it’s disappointing that she has the impression that equal rights for all only benefits women. [Guardian UK] [Image via Fame/Flynet]
“My niece was given a date rape drug that weekend. She’s 20-years-old – thank God nothing happened because she was with some responsible guys that took care of her. She was safe because she was with a group of friends that realized – she said, ‘Oh, my god, I can’t feel my … ” and she started losing consciousness. Thank god the people she was with put her in a room, closed the door, and she didn’t come to for three and a half hours. … There is an epidemic going on out here in regards to the treatment of women. We have to figure out how we can empower people in different ways. … I’m not a conventional parent, which I take a lot of pride in. The first thing I had my niece do was sit down with my daughter and a couple of her friends and tell her about that experience. I don’t just sit with Willow and go, ‘hey, this is what Mommy thinks.’ Let me just bring in a little reality to validate what Mommy’s been talking to you about.”
This is Jada Pinkett Smith discussing about #JusticeForJada, the hashtag in support of a 16-year-old girl named Jada, whose sexual assault went viral on the Internet. While speaking at an event on Sunday night and then following up with US Weekly, Pinkett Smith revealed that her niece was roofied the same weekend as Jada’s assault. So the actress asked her niece to sit down with her 13-year-old daughter Willow and talk about the experience — not to scare her, I think, but to open her eyes to rape culture in a very concrete way.
After the jump, Pinkett Smith explained more how she is raising Willow to be confident and assertive: Keep reading »
A rabbinical court in Israel was recently ordered to remove ”men only” signs from its bomb shelter. The gender segregation in the bomb shelters would be keeping with the Orthodox Jewish practice of separating the sexes. As The Week notes, the court had a separate space for “women only,” but it was amidst the regular courtrooms in a room only accessible by a code and “did not appear to provide extra security or protection.” So, like, not really a bomb shelter? Keep reading »
“I had an agent that told me not to speak in meetings because I was too intelligent and it was stressing to the men. It was a woman that told me that. I didn’t say anything, then I went to my car and kind of cried and then I was, like, ‘Fuck you’… [I]t’s been amazing changing gears and doing things that honor my brain….I spent the better part of 15 years not being myself, and I’m just kind of over that.”
“Charmed” actress Rose McGowan told “HuffPost Live” that two years ago, she was scolded by an agent for speaking well in meetings. She says that only lately has she gotten comfortable acting like her true self and speaking her mind instead of blending into what she thought others wanted her to be in the male-dominated film business. Her full interview is pretty kickass, and full of clever observations about the overt sexism she’s seen over the years in Hollywood. [Huffington Post]
What was Pat Robertson’s famous quote about feminists again? Ah yes, feminism “encourages women to leave their husbands, kill their children, practice witchcraft, destroy capitalism and become lesbians.” Sheesh, who wants to be associated with that?
Understandably, if “feminist” is a dirty word for some women, identifying yourself as one can be downright scary for some dudes. But even in the face of ignorance regarding what feminists actually believe — that men and women are equal and thus should be paid the same, educated the same, have equal access to health care, and get equal structural support from society — some men are not afraid to fly their feminist flag.
Take Ethan Hawke, for example. In one of those silly “25 Things You Don’t Know About Me” puff pieces in US Weekly, Hawke very simply stated as fact #8, “I am a feminist.” So easy, so simple. That didn’t hurt, right?
After the jump, here are 10 other dudes who are not afraid to use the F-word…