My husband and I met and got married all within five months. Kale had been visiting from Australia on a year-long tourist visa when we fell in love. Marrying not only kept us together, but launched us into a lifetime side-by-side. It didn’t really feel like a choice or a decision; it was obvious to both of us what we were going to do. And that means that I put just about zero forethought into what our marriage would “mean” for me as a woman or for us as a couple.
I’d thought about marriage long before I got married, sure. As a little girl I played house, pretending to be married to my teddy bear (his name is Gregory and I still have him). I had a serious relationship in my 20s with a man — Ex-Mr. Jessica — who I’d thought I would marry and have children with. While dating Ex-Mr. J, most of my thinking had been around the work/career balance and justifying to myself how I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom, if possible, for a time. However, I hadn’t put too much thought into how the day-to-day drudgery of marriage would go. It seemed so far off. Keep reading »
Abbi Jacobson and Ilana Glazer, the brilliant comedic duo behind “Broad City,” chose not to join the ranks of female stars who dodge the f-word, and I love them for it. When asked by PopSugar at the Critics’ Choice Television awards whether they’re “cool with” the word feminist, Jacobson graciously responded:
“I would totally say I’m a feminist. I don’t find it to be negative at all.”
Glazer chimed in with Jaocbson to agree:
“I feel like a feminist is gender equality. You know, we’re feminists… the people who work on the show are feminists.”
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If you think you don’t know who Jenny Slate is, you just haven’t attached the name to the person. She’s Mona-Lisa on “Parks and Recreation”; Tammy on “Bob’s Burgers”; a bunch of characters on “Kroll Show”; and she was on one season of “Saturday Night Live.” (You may remember her from the Doorbells And More sketch?). Lately, Slate is everywhere — literally everywhere — as the star of a new film, “Obvious Child” which appears nationwide this month.
In “Obvious Child,” Slate plays 27-year-old Donna, who accidentally gets pregnant right after she’s been dumped and lost her job. She genuinely likes the guy who got her pregnant (played by Jake Lacy from “The Office”), but is in a bad place to bring a kid into the world. Donna wants to have an abortion and unlike many movies where a women ends a pregnancy, that choice isn’t portrayed as a scary or dangerous thing. “Obvious Child” manages to be both hilarious and heart-tugging, a testament to both director/writer Gillian Robespierre’s writing and Slate’s earnest relatability onscreen.
Jenny Slate and I chatted recently about movies depicting abortion, women in Hollywood, and feminism. Here’s our conversation, after the jump: Keep reading »
Etsy is the go-to place to find homemade soaps and Christmas ornaments, so why not feminist T-shirts? But maybe a simple “This Is What A Feminist Looks Like” tee won’t get the point across. Maybe only a vagina dentata T-shirt will cut it. Don’t worry, Etsy sellers have got you covered! [Image of a confused woman via Shutterstock]
“[T]he word ‘feminist’ is a word that discriminates, and I’m not into that. I don’t think there has to be a separation in life in anything. For me, bringing up the whole ‘sisterhood’ thing was about embracing each other’s differences. Embrace my point of view even if it’s different from your point of view, but see that our end goal is the same. The way that we’re getting there might be different, but as long as we approach life with kindness and compassion, that’s all that matters. So it made me sadly laugh that a woman who I was trying to say, ‘Let’s embrace one another,’ distinctly chose to do the opposite. But you know what? Everything is out of your control, and you can only be truthful about how you feel.”
I love Shailene Woodley, but still scratch my head over all her triangulations about not wanting to call herself a “feminist.” In an interview with The Daily Beast, Shailene was asked about a recent interview she gave with TIME in which she said she’s not a feminist because “I love men” and she thinks there needs to be a “balance” of power. Her remarks blew up the Internet, to put it mildly — a fact Shailene was unaware of because she doesn’t use the Internet. When her publicist called to warn her about the backlash, Shailene said, “Honestly, I started laughing.” Here are her continued thoughts on labels and feminism (and because this is Shailene Woodley we are talking about, her “truth”) from the Beast: Keep reading »