The book Fifty Shades of Grey has brought to the forefront of modern society and readers’ minds the fact that some women (and men) enjoying BDSM play in their sex lives. Shocking, right? What sort of deviant wants to be spanked or tied up or told they’re a “bad girl”? I’ll tell you: about 60 percent of my friends — mostly women, but some men, too.
As with any book that explores a realm diverging from the mundane, there has been a lot of talk about not only the writing (apparently it sucks), but also the topic. While some are appalled by it, others, like myself, are just giving my fellow friends who enjoy some spanking action high fives. It’s about time that a woman wanting to play the submissive role in the bedroom is portrayed in a light that makes it seem like a normal sex act, not something that goes on in a creepy S&M dungeon. Read more…
A few weeks ago, an article in the Orthodox Jewish newspaper The Jewish Press began to make waves in the religious community. Yitta Halberstam, a well-known Jewish author, wrote about the process of trying to find her son a wife. In her part of the Jewish community (a right-wing faction of Orthodoxy sometimes known as yeshivish), it’s not uncommon for a professional shadchan (matchmaker) to pair up young eligible men and women. A shadchan who makes a successful shidduch (match) can be paid well for their services. However, there has been a recent “shidduch crisis,” which is that there are more prospective brides than grooms. Orthodox boys are waiting longer to marry, while girls are essentially considered over the hill if they’re not married by 18 or 19.
One way that shadchanim (the plural of shadchan) have tried to solve this issue is by hosting events where mothers can meet and interview prospective daughters-in-law. Halberstam attended one of these events and she admitted that the whole process made her uncomfortable. However, as the mother of an eligible bachelor and therefore someone in a position of relative power, Halberstam could have called off the whole thing and pointed out how awkward and unfair it was to the young women involved.
Instead, she penned a long rant about how young women should wear more makeup and their families should be willing to pay for plastic surgery if that’s what it takes to land a husband. Keep reading »
Lila Rose, a twentysomething anti-abortion activist who conducts “sting” operations on Planned Parenthood, penned a piece last week for the news site Politico about the voice she says has been absent from the debate over women’s health care: “that of the anti-abortion feminist.”
Now, it’s not a news that a feminist would also be opposed to abortion; there have always been feminists who have made the individual choice not to have an abortion when presented with an unwanted pregnancy. The problem is when women who call themselves feminists and are also anti-abortion try to climb into my bed, my OB/GYN office, my medical records, and tell me what to do — women like Lila Rose, who writes:
We are women who view the intentional killing of children not as a constitutional right, a matter of privacy or a necessary evil but, rather, as profoundly anti-woman and the antithesis of love. … We are women who believe that something precious is lost when fertility is intentionally excluded from marriage, a sacred bond and a total giving of each spouse to the other. We are women who believe that sex and pregnancy aren’t just health issues; they are also inextricably linked with family, morals, faith and values. And we are women who love everything about being a woman, including being mothers. Keep reading »
“I think Sarah Silverman had a quote where she was like, ‘Sometimes with an old guy with misogyny you’re just like, “You cute old guy. You misogynist.” I almost feel like ['Two & A Half Men' co-creator Lee Aronsohn, who complained last week that too many women have shows on TV ] is holding on desperately to a world that no longer exists … I felt especially bad for him because it’s not even a funny joke. If you had a good quip, I’d be like, ‘Well, you’re a dick, but at least you’re a good comedy writer!’ But with that, I was like, ‘Come on, dude. “Labia saturation point”?’ It’s also so dumb. There’s three shows on TV about women, so I guess we really reached our limit. It’s not like three-quarters of the world is comprised of women, you idiot.
I almost wanted to do a tweet, but I didn’t do it: ‘Since we’ve reached our labia saturation point on television, I’ve decided not to release “Girls.”‘ Like, ‘HBO’s behind me on this decision and we’re so sorry for anybody we’re disappointing, but we really can’t over-vagina the TV. Lee has spoken.’”
– Lena Dunham, creator of “Girls,” responds to Lee Aronsohn’s fretfulness last week over reaching “peak vagina on television.” Lena’s got a point: if you’re going to be a sexist asshat … at least be a funny sexist asshat. [Huffington Post]
Dear Guy Who Seemed Cool On Our First Date But Freaked When I Said I Wanted To Take Sexual Stuff Slowly And Sent Me A Barrage Of Douchey Text Messages Which Culminated In Pronouncing Me “Crazy”,
I feel as if we have gotten off on the wrong foot. Keep reading »
UPDATE, 1:40p.m.: Mother Jones is reporting the clinic is “temporarily closed” and the FBI has joined an investigation into the bombing. [Mother Jones]
An explosive blew up at a Planned Parenthood clinic in Grand Chute, Wisconsin last night at around 7:30 p.m. Police say a homemade bomb was placed on a windowsill outside the Appleton North Health Clinic. It started a fire that burned itself out but still caused damage to the building. No one was hurt.
Intimidation tactics like this are nothing short of domestic terrorism, intent on scaring the employees of abortion clinics from doing their jobs. Thank you to the women and men who work at these clinics and put themselves at risk for clinic violence every day.
Naomi Wolf, a prominent feminist activist, is calling for a boycott of Katy Perry’s entire pop music oeuvre on account of the singer’s music video for her song “Part Of Me.” In the video, Katy dumps a boyfriend and then joins the Marines, where she endures tough training while singing about how she’s so strong and “you’re never gonna break my soul.” On her Facebook page, Naomi Wolf wrote that the video is “a total piece of propaganda for the Marines,” continuing:
I really want to find out if she was paid by them for making it. It is truly shameful … I would suggest a boycott of this singer whom I really liked — if you are as offended at this glorification of violence as I am. Keep reading »
Dear Man Who Propositioned Me For Sex On The Subway,
Why is it that after I respectfully responded “no, thanks” to your subway sex proposition, you found it necessary to call me a “bitch”? Have you not seen the movie “Shame”? Even an exceptionally fantastic looking guy like Michael Fassbender (who, might I add, was playing a sex addict) found it difficult to come on to a girl while riding the train because he feared rejection.
But you sir, wearing that hideous shirt, those skinny jeans which were obviously washed one time too many because they revealed your ankles, a pair of busted Converse, with a chip-toothed, yellow grin, thought that your offer to leave the train with you on 23rd street “to hang out at your house” should have been received with excitement. Keep reading »