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The Soapbox: On Hugo Schwyzer, Personal Essay Writing & Redemption

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The Soapbox: On Hugo Schwyzer, Personal Essay Writing & Redemption

Last week, the controversial professor, feminist blogger and personal essayist Hugo Schwyzer announced on his blog, in an interview with NYmag.com and again in LA Weekly that he was retiring his notorious public persona and quitting the internet for good (or— for the time being, he corrected himself some days later in yet another goodbye). Maybe you don’t know or care who this person is and that is just as well. He is a semi-big deal in the feminist blogosphere in the way that Serge Haroche is probably (hopefully) an even bigger deal among mathy-type people (he won the Noble Prize in Physics in 2012, according to this random website I found when I Googled “Nobel Prize winners”). And maybe we should all know more about Serge Haroche. But here we are talking about Hugo.  (For a complete list of criticisms of Hugo’s work, you can go here. Or here. Yes, there are entire websites created for the sole purpose of criticizing this man and his work.) [Note: A few of Schwyzer's pieces on The Good Men Project were crossposted on The Frisky a few years ago.]

I can’t help it. Honestly, I’m kind of obsessed with him. As a freelance writer as well as a writing instructor — I teach courses in memoir, personal essay and opinion writing, the genres that both Hugo and I write — this whole brouhaha is pushing all my buttons. Some people are taking a certain joy in this character’s downfall — which I feel is mean but, yes, a little tempting. Like many, for me, the redemptive narrative of Hugo Schwyzer always rang less than true. Keep reading »

Robin Thicke Says “Blurred Lines” Is A “Feminist Movement”

Robin Thicke Says "Blurred Lines" Is A "Feminist Movement"
"It's actually a feminist movement in itself..."

Robin Thicke’s new album, Blurred Lines, is out today and to promote it, he performed on “The Today Show” this morning. When he was done makin’ it rain, Matt Lauer and Savannah Guthrie asked him about the controversy surrounding the song “Blurred Lines”, namely that some critics think the lyrics are a bit, well, rapey. I happen to disagree — I love the song and think the lyrics are being misconstrued — but Robin Thicke really didn’t win any additional points with me with his asinine response to whether the song objectifies women. “…if you listen to the lyrics it says, ‘That man is not your maker.’ … It’s actually a feminist movement in itself. It’s saying that women and men are equals as animals and as power — you know, in power, and that we’re all supposed to just — it doesn’t matter whether you’re a good girl or a bad girl. You can still have a good time.” Yeah, yeah, that’s all fine and good, but “Blurred Lines” is a “feminist movement”? Thicke, please. [via Buzzfeed] Keep reading »

Robin Thicke's NSFW Vid
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It's got nipples, lambs and Pharrel. Read More »
Defending "Blurred Lines"
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Is the song "rapey"? Read More »
Thicke Vs. Thicke
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Check out this "Growing Pains"/"Blurred Lines" mashup. Read More »

Pregnant Women Really Do Not Belong In Public, Turkish Leader Sensibly Points Out

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Fined For Screaming
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Zimbabwean women fined $5 for each scream during childbirth. Read More »
Pregnant & Fired
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Woman fired for getting pregnant out of wedlock. Read More »

You know what is just the worst? When pregnant ladies go out in public. Yeah, their selfless maternal giving and their miracle of life — it is really not something other people should have to watch. Please, shield us from the inhumanity. Keep reading »

I Tried To Play Feminist Barbies With My Nieces And Kinda Failed

Barbie Body Makeover
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A Barbie doll gets a beautifully average body makeover. Read More »
The Barbie Body
Real-life Barbie infographic makes the doll ideal very unappealing. Read More »
Bye Bye Barbie
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Barbie is out, Monster High Dolls are in. Read More »

I think I’m a decent aunt. Not so good at remembering birthdays, admittedly, but what I lack in presents-giving, I make up for in lots of facetime. We play all kinds of games — usually “doctor,” in which I pretend to have some terrible malady wrought by a zoo animal (“Help! A hippopotamus bit my leg off!”) and they wrap toilet paper (“bandages”) around me pretending to fix it. Either we do that, or we play Barbies.

Usually my nieces’ Barbie dolls are going to a ball to meet a prince. It doesn’t matter if she’s Color-Change Mermaid Barbie or I Can Be USA President Barbie. She is always going to a ball to meet a prince. Sometimes directly after the ball, she and the prince get married. So, last weekend when I was babysitting, I tried to set the tone for something different. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Sometimes I Don’t Understand Feminists

Soapbox: Judgey Feminism
Elizabeth Wurtzel reminds us how anti-feminist it is to judge other women's decisions. Read More »
Anti Sex-Positive Feminism
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On Jillian Horowitz's interview with Thought Catalog about kink. Read More »
Feminist Food Issues
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Feminists have food and body image issues, too! Read More »
The Soapbox: Sometimes I Don't Understand Feminists

I don’t know if I’m the right kind of feminist.

Oh, my principles are in the right place -– birth control and abortions for those who want/need them; equal pay for equal work; full participation in government and society; equal funding for girls’ sports; the right to wear whatever the hell I want and not get chased down a street; and so on and so forth. But sometimes when I read articles by professional, ivory tower-approved feminists, I can’t understand what the hell is going on.

I’ll see an interesting headline over on one of the feminist-friendly websites, and I’ll click on through to expand my knowledge. And then I’ll come upon something like this:

The intersectionality of the diagonalism of the duality of the Hegelian manifesto advanced by Paglia shows evidence of unchecked cannibalistic governance that was meant to be unpacked by POC. Constructivism teaches us that inordinate amounts of identities are compromised by the culture of “being-ness” currently infecting conversations that ought to question assumptions of race, class, and woman-ness. We must disrupt notions of cis intertextuality.

WHAT?

OK obviously the paragraph above is total nonsense. But “nonsense” is exactly how some of these essays read to me. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Feminism Deserves Better Than “Sex-Negative Vs. Sex-Positive”

Anti Sex-Positive Feminism
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On Jillian Horowitz's interview with Thought Catalog about kink. Read More »
Be Sex Positive!
Eight ways to be positive you're sex positive. Read More »
Tales Of A Kinky Feminist
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You can be a kinky feminist and flawed human being. Read More »
The Soapbox: Feminism Deserves Better than “Sex-Negative vs. Sex-Positive”

As a feminist, kinky person and sex commentator, I am the target audience for Jillian Horowitz’s xoJane essay “I’m a Sex-Negative Feminist” — and that’s exactly the point. Part of the site’s “Unpopular Opinion” series, I can only surmise that the essay, like others before it, was written largely with the intention of riling up its supposed targets rather than fostering a nuanced debate.

I’d also quibble with her quickie history lesson—yes, sex-positive feminism in part emerged as a response to anti-porn feminist activism, but it also sprang from the anti-BDSM and anti-lesbian bent of much of mainstream 1970’s and ’80’s feminism. My understanding is that sex-positive feminism was about embracing feminist ideals and furthering sexual freedom—for everyone, not just women. Keep reading »

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