“My niece was given a date rape drug that weekend. She’s 20-years-old – thank God nothing happened because she was with some responsible guys that took care of her. She was safe because she was with a group of friends that realized – she said, ‘Oh, my god, I can’t feel my … ” and she started losing consciousness. Thank god the people she was with put her in a room, closed the door, and she didn’t come to for three and a half hours. … There is an epidemic going on out here in regards to the treatment of women. We have to figure out how we can empower people in different ways. … I’m not a conventional parent, which I take a lot of pride in. The first thing I had my niece do was sit down with my daughter and a couple of her friends and tell her about that experience. I don’t just sit with Willow and go, ‘hey, this is what Mommy thinks.’ Let me just bring in a little reality to validate what Mommy’s been talking to you about.”
This is Jada Pinkett Smith discussing about #JusticeForJada, the hashtag in support of a 16-year-old girl named Jada, whose sexual assault went viral on the Internet. While speaking at an event on Sunday night and then following up with US Weekly, Pinkett Smith revealed that her niece was roofied the same weekend as Jada’s assault. So the actress asked her niece to sit down with her 13-year-old daughter Willow and talk about the experience — not to scare her, I think, but to open her eyes to rape culture in a very concrete way.
After the jump, Pinkett Smith explained more how she is raising Willow to be confident and assertive: Keep reading »
A rabbinical court in Israel was recently ordered to remove ”men only” signs from its bomb shelter. The gender segregation in the bomb shelters would be keeping with the Orthodox Jewish practice of separating the sexes. As The Week notes, the court had a separate space for “women only,” but it was amidst the regular courtrooms in a room only accessible by a code and “did not appear to provide extra security or protection.” So, like, not really a bomb shelter? Keep reading »
“I had an agent that told me not to speak in meetings because I was too intelligent and it was stressing to the men. It was a woman that told me that. I didn’t say anything, then I went to my car and kind of cried and then I was, like, ‘Fuck you’… [I]t’s been amazing changing gears and doing things that honor my brain….I spent the better part of 15 years not being myself, and I’m just kind of over that.”
“Charmed” actress Rose McGowan told “HuffPost Live” that two years ago, she was scolded by an agent for speaking well in meetings. She says that only lately has she gotten comfortable acting like her true self and speaking her mind instead of blending into what she thought others wanted her to be in the male-dominated film business. Her full interview is pretty kickass, and full of clever observations about the overt sexism she’s seen over the years in Hollywood. [Huffington Post]
What was Pat Robertson’s famous quote about feminists again? Ah yes, feminism “encourages women to leave their husbands, kill their children, practice witchcraft, destroy capitalism and become lesbians.” Sheesh, who wants to be associated with that?
Understandably, if “feminist” is a dirty word for some women, identifying yourself as one can be downright scary for some dudes. But even in the face of ignorance regarding what feminists actually believe — that men and women are equal and thus should be paid the same, educated the same, have equal access to health care, and get equal structural support from society — some men are not afraid to fly their feminist flag.
Take Ethan Hawke, for example. In one of those silly “25 Things You Don’t Know About Me” puff pieces in US Weekly, Hawke very simply stated as fact #8, “I am a feminist.” So easy, so simple. That didn’t hurt, right?
After the jump, here are 10 other dudes who are not afraid to use the F-word…
Fox News’ new show “Outnumbered” pits four female anchorbabes up against one male guest. The premise? Gender wars! Fun! On Friday, the male guest, (unscrupulous) Fox Business contributor Charles Payne, wore a cute little accessory on air to signal his disdain for the opposite sex: cufflinks depicting a caveman with a club, dragging a woman behind him by her hair. Yes, really, he actually wore cufflinks depicting caveman domestic violence — he said so himself! You couldn’t make this shit up. [YouTube via MediaMatters]
Who is Laci Green and where has she been all my life? Like a sex-positive Disney star on speed, Laci hosts a YouTube channel called Sex+ where she covers everything from hymens and consent to buttplay and sex with disabilities. Laci is also a loud and proud feminist and yesterday she posted a video addressing three common myths about “The F Word” — that is, feminism. It’s more for the new-to-feminism types — like, say, your little sister — but I for one am really glad that chipper, upbeat and funny videos about feminism exist. [YouTube]
“Like every woman is dying to give birth! I don’t think so. Nobody asks guys that. And you go into a supermarket and every tabloid is like, ‘Pregnant and Alone!’ Stuck in the 1950s ideal of how a woman should live her life. This brings out the fiery feminist in me.”
Zooey Deschanel has always been pretty upfront about her disinterest in having children and in August’s InStyle, she calls out the tabloids for their complicity. You tell ‘em, sister! [InStyle]
My husband and I met and got married all within five months. Kale had been visiting from Australia on a year-long tourist visa when we fell in love. Marrying not only kept us together, but launched us into a lifetime side-by-side. It didn’t really feel like a choice or a decision; it was obvious to both of us what we were going to do. And that means that I put just about zero forethought into what our marriage would “mean” for me as a woman or for us as a couple.
I’d thought about marriage long before I got married, sure. As a little girl I played house, pretending to be married to my teddy bear (his name is Gregory and I still have him). I had a serious relationship in my 20s with a man — Ex-Mr. Jessica — who I’d thought I would marry and have children with. While dating Ex-Mr. J, most of my thinking had been around the work/career balance and justifying to myself how I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom, if possible, for a time. However, I hadn’t put too much thought into how the day-to-day drudgery of marriage would go. It seemed so far off. Keep reading »
Abbi Jacobson and Ilana Glazer, the brilliant comedic duo behind “Broad City,” chose not to join the ranks of female stars who dodge the f-word, and I love them for it. When asked by PopSugar at the Critics’ Choice Television awards whether they’re “cool with” the word feminist, Jacobson graciously responded:
“I would totally say I’m a feminist. I don’t find it to be negative at all.”
Glazer chimed in with Jaocbson to agree:
“I feel like a feminist is gender equality. You know, we’re feminists… the people who work on the show are feminists.”
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