Working in a very supportive nearly all-female office I find it extremely hard to believe that women can have a gender bias against themselves. But I guess if you’re one of the lucky women who have successfully surpassed the glass ceiling, it’s possible that once inside the velvet ropes you may have a conscious or subconscious desire to keep the female success club exclusive. If this is true, the triumphant women then might make it exceptionally challenging for the rest of womankind to thrive.
I pose this thought because of a recent New York Times article titled ‘Rethinking Gender Bias in Theater’ that discusses the state of gender bias in the theater community and proves this phenomenon. It explains that female artistic directors and literary managers are two parts, of a three-part reason, as to why significantly less shows written by female playwrights are staged than plays written by males. The statistic isn’t so bad that they’re calling in the female affirmative action troops… yet.
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I was raised by a working, single mother. She went to Stanford, majored in economics, became a public school teacher, wrote a book, and now works as a journalist. She didn’t give up her job when she had my sister or me, and she certainly didn’t give it up after she and my father divorced. I consider her the ultimate feminist — she’s worked her butt off, made a living on her own, and raised two perfect daughters (just kidding). She’s my hero. But if she had quit her job when I was born, retiring at age 31, would she still be my #1 role model? It’s hard to say.
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Cougar, spinster, playgirl, bachelorette. So many slang terms all mean the same thing: a single gal who lives on her own and on her own terms, like Kylie Minogue (chart topping dance hits and spandex booty shorts not required). But a new word has been coined in the U.K. and Australia: “freemale”
. A freemale is a woman who stays single and only uses her vajane as an in-door for sex, not as an out-door for babies. The colloquialism, which has just washed up on our shores
, is a mix of freedom and female, two words which should go hand in hand already. But what the new lingo “freemale” is actually is doing is taking away an inherent quality of being a woman and being an individual, choice. “Freemale” is making it seem as though women with families didn’t choose that life for themselves. Or, worse yet, we aren’t doing our own thing if we’re just “female.” How does being in a relationship with a man only qualify you as a woman? That’s just major misogynistic BS. Especially as the number of women, 25 to 44, who fit the definition of “freemale” has doubled to nearly 700,000 over the past 20 years. So, while the intention to popularize the Destiny’s Child style Independent Woman
movement is good, the terminology could still use a little work. Keep reading »