Militants from ISIS, a.k.a. the Islamic State/ISIL (or whatever else you’d like to name the terrorist group that’s been wreaking havoc on Middle Eastern society and by proxy, much of the rest of the world), has kidnapped close to 7,000 Yazidi women and children within the past two months to be kept as slaves and forced into marriages with strangers. Many of those who were kidnapped saw their husbands, fathers and other male relatives murdered before their eyes. The victims, members of the Kurdish Yazidi religious group (which ISIS has heavily targeted), are from the Sinjar region of northern Iraq, an area that’s now been overtaken by the terrorist group. Here are five things to know about the nightmarish kidnappings. Keep reading »
I’m 31 years old and I’ve never been in relationship, nor have I ever been in love. I look at couples — married, cohabiting, dating — and I’m so envious of their ability to open up and create something with another person. Sometimes I feel like I’m too broken to even be considered by the universe to find love. I’ve never suffered any emotional or mental trauma that would provoke these thoughts, but I wonder if it’s self-preservation. I feel as though I’ve put myself out there, but each time I’m unsuccessful. Any advice for someone feeling a little hopeless?
The bad news: your attitude need an adjustment. The good news: adjusting your attitude is free! Instead of telling yourself that you’re a failure, correct that narrative in your head and say that you just haven’t found the right person yet, which is totally okay and super normal. Keep reading »
Most people have sex in the pedestrian enclaves of their bedroom, on a Wednesday night, after prime-time television but before “The Daily Show.” It’s a simple affair, but it’s beautiful, because it works. The bedroom is a safe space with ALL the creature comforts you want when you’re doing it: clean sheets, water in plentiful abundance, all the lube you’d ever need, and at the end of everything, a bathroom you can scurry to when the deed is done so you don’t get a bladder or yeast infection. For most, this kind of sexual adventurousness is fine. There are some, however, that comb this earth, armed with a sexual bucket list, intent on doing it in any space two people can feasibly fit. If you find yourself with one of these sexual Lewis and Clarks, be prepared. Arm yourself with this list of places to have sex, ranked from best to worst, and be ready to face whatever challenge they’ve got in mind head on. Keep reading »
This piece does not target all men. It is geared towards the demographic of Peter Pans among the male population who, regardless of age just refuse to grow up. They are the dudes who believe they are working towards a gig that will be extremely lucrative in the long run, but in the interim they are 30+ year-old living on sofas, in a basement, unemployed and broke playing video games day in and day out or producing something mediocre that more than likely will never take off.
They are the men who aspire to be “music producers,” “paid gamers,” “actors”, “rappers,” who have yet to make it in the business, but believe they are right on the brink of a huge break through. And who knows, one out of every couple million of these dudes, perhaps, will do something great. But many simply will not and they do not have a back-up plan to fall back on in the case of failure because they just know that they are going to be successful. Keep reading »
Malala Yousafzai, a Pakistani activist for girls’ education rights, just became the youngest ever recipient of the Nobel Peace Price. She shares the award with Kailash Satyarthi, an Indian advocate who campaigns against child labor and exploitation. Yousafzai came into the international spotlight in 2009 when she began blogging anonymously about life under Taliban rule for the BBC and expressed her desire to continue her education. Her community in the Swat region of Pakistan had been overtaken by the Taliban the year before, and local schools had begun closing left and right. Eventually Malala was publicly identified as the blog’s author, and in 2012, Taliban forces barged onto her school bus and shot her in the head. Malala miraculously survived and was airlifted to England for recovery, where she still lives with her parents and brother. Instead of intimidating her into silence, the shooting made Malala even more determined to fight for the thousands of girls around the world who are still unable to attend school without fearing for their lives. After the jump, a few ways we can all help further her cause! Keep reading »
I’m 31 and live in Brooklyn. My problem: I keep attracting perfectly nice, smart, but utterly self-absorbed men. I’m a giver and a nurturer. I like listening to other people talk about their problems/interests/days/whatever. I like offering advice and think I’m good at it. I truly am happy to show my partners that I l care for and support them in whatever way I can, but despite the variety of “types” of guys I date — funny nerds! quiet writers! outgoing ad sales dudes! — and the fun we have together, they do very little to offer as much support/attention/interest as I give them. They don’t ask me as in-depth of questions, they aren’t as giving in the bedroom, they don’t seem as concerned or caring when I’m having a hard time. I try to lead by example, and I don’t want be LESS kind/nurturing/supportive as some sort of test or just to prove that I’m not a doormat. I like being a generous person, I just don’t understand why I can’t find a partner who’s as willing to be generous towards me. What am I doing wrong?
The kinds of guys who are attracted to living in New York City—driven, ambitious, self-starters—can be the same kinds of people who can be challenging to date. Sure, they look great on paper (who doesn’t love an employed fella!) but they didn’t always make the most fantastic partners. You know why? It’s because they put their energy and emotion into their career, not their personal life. And they may be willing to share dinner with you, but they aren’t as willing to share their heart. It is incredibly frustrating. Keep reading »