Saturday June 18 will be a creepy evening in the Dallas/Fort Worth area: it’s Daddy-Daughter Date Night at Chick-Fil-A. Dads and daughters can RSVP for tables at participating restaurants on DaddyDaughterDate.com, a site so festooned with red hearts, filigree and curlicue script that it wouldn’t look out of place on Valentine’s Day. Even though June 18 is the day before Father’s Day.
Anyone else got a case of the icks yet? Keep reading »
Confession: I’m a bit of a daddy’s girl. My dad has always made me feel protected and loved, even if he hasn’t always verbalized it the way my mom does. In the back of my mind, I’m always comparing how well the men I date treat me with how well my father treats me.
But Dad also does some confusing stuff, too. When I got dumped over the phone a few months ago, I was at my parents’ house, and when I started crying, my dad yelled at me and told me to stop making such a big deal out of things. I was, like, “Ummm, what? I just got dumped.” Why was the sweet guy who mailed me Snoopy cartoons yelling at me to stop crying when I just got my heart broken?
Then I read Our Fathers, Ourselves: Daughters, Fathers, and the Changing American Family, by Dr. Peggy Drexler. Based on her interviews with 70 women, ages 20 through 40, she explores the relationships of fathers and their adult daughters: why grown women seek their fathers’ approval; why some of us are still a “daddy’s girl” even in adulthood; and whether we date/marry men “just like our fathers,” as the rumor goes. I also learned that my father’s reaction to my post-breakup behavior — hysterical crying, snot everywhere — was not at all uncommon. Fathers understandably feel powerless when their child is in pain (the same goes for mothers, too) and sometimes their knee-jerk reaction is to make the child stop showing how hurt they are. My dad was just being … a dad.
Dr. Drexler — who (unrelated but interesting) is married to the CEO of J.Crew, Mickey Drexler! — very kindly responded to several questions of mine about Our Fathers, Ourselves for The Frisky. Learn more about your relationship with your father after the jump! Keep reading »
For most of my 15-year dating career, I went for Fledglings, Makeshift Men, pre-release beta tests of the fully formed adult male. Like Rusty, the dread-locked guitarist with groupies to spare whom I followed to various smoky, sticky-floored venues in college, hoping he’d recognize me from anthropology class. Guys whose giant charisma, outsider cool or longer-than-purely-business hair stoked my sense of adventure and ate my own — often annoying — level of maturity for breakfast.
I was drawn to men who were nothing like the soft-spoken, principled and straight-laced person who had been the dominant male presence in my life so far: my retired CPA father. Keep reading »
So what do we think of this Daddy’s Little Project Diaper Bag? It is designed to look like a tool belt, with a ton of pockets, and comes with blueprints on how to change a diaper.
Now, a diaper bag is just a bag you put diapers in, so clearly this is all about marketing. Some people — like Amelia, whose guy friend owns one — think the toolkit diaper bag is totally cute. [Cute enough that, made for "men" or not, I would want one for myself. -- Editor] Others — like me — see how it’s a cute product, but also think it’s as annoying/offensive as the pink-ification of products to signify they’re “for women.” I mean, diaper-changing blueprints? Men aren’t stupid. Keep reading »
Over at Asylum, our pal and Asylum’s token girl Emily McCombs talks about women and their daddy issues.
“It may surprise you to learn this, but Asylum’s token girl has daddy issues. But what does that really mean? Watch the video to find out a woman’s perspective on the psychological phenomenon.”
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What are some signs that I shouldn’t marry my boyfriend?
The first thing that leaps to mind is, “If you have to ask …” Having doubts doesn’t necessarily mean you should never marry him, but you are wise to heed that quiet but insistent voice in your head until you are completely sure he’s the one. As for specific signs, there are plenty, but here’s a start. Read more … Keep reading »
It’s time for me to confess: I’ve been seeing another woman.
No, she’s not a cocktail waitress or a nightclub promoter or a porn star, but she’s cute, has a killer smile and looks good in a dress. I’ve tried to rationalize the relationship as the inevitable by-product of a common stagnation period for marriages: my wife Dorothy and I are about to enter our fifth year.
But that argument just doesn’t fit. Keep reading »
My father doesn’t like trying anything new. Paying bills for instance. He still writes checks and sends them snail mail. “You can pay everything online now,” I’ve told him. “It’s faster and you don’t have to use stamps.”
He refuses, though he’s fairly internet-savvy, because he’s paid bills this way for the past 30 years, dammit, and that’s the way he’s going to keep paying them. He can get impatient. His stories can go on forever. He can be antisocial and crabby.
I want to be just like him when I grow up. Keep reading »
Need some early motivation to start making your Father’s Day plans? Perhaps this story will inspire you. Twenty-four-year-old Matthew Brace walked into a Massachusetts convenience store on Monday with his three-month-old baby. Sadly, Brace did not have the money needed to purchase to two 40-ounce bottles of beer. And so he said, “For two 40s, you can have her.” It seemed like a joke at first, only it wasn’t. When Brace put the baby in the clerk’s truck, the clerk called the cops. Brace is now being charged with reckless endangerment and has been sent for a psychological evaluation. So, this Father’s Day, just be glad your dad didn’t try to give you away for beer. [AOL News] Keep reading »