SWF seeks an out-of-shape, weekend-binge-drinking man-child who still goes to KISS concerts and cannot kick his comic book habit even though he’s well into his 40s. Must be choked by the umbilical cord of a domineering mother and live in a state of perpetual Catholic guilt that flares up when he misses Mass on Sunday or lingers too long on at a nasty corner of the World Wide Web. Lasting three minutes in the sack mandatory; five minutes a plus.
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For months I watched women swoon over “The Bachelor,” Jason Mesnick, a divorced single father, and I just couldn’t understand why. The whole thing was cute, sure, but didn’t these ladies get that people with kids have different priorities than those of us who have yet to procreate?
”When I went to see some live music last week, I found myself more into a bartender than the band. He had a beard, black-framed glasses and a mess of curly hair tucked up into a stocking cap—exactly my type. But every time I tried to order from him, another bartender would intercept. While my ill-fated attempt at conversation resulted in a few too many trips to the bar, I at least worked up enough liquid courage to give him my number … sort of. I scribbled “You, with the hat” alongside my name and number on a piece of paper, and left it by the tip jar on my way out. A few days later he called and the next night we were exchanging shy smiles and embarrassing stories over whiskey on the rocks.
I was smitten. He was cute, smart and much nicer than I expected (in my experience, his look is favored by grumbly hipsters). He played in a local alt-country band and paid for my drinks. Little did I know, he was building up some liquid courage of his own.
“I should tell you something,” he said halfway through our third round. “I’ve been married before.”
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“Well, that’s what I was getting at. I have two. I figured I should probably just get that out of the way now.”
He explained that when he was 19, he married his high school girlfriend after she got pregnant. They had two kids and divorced a few years later. He now has his son and daughter every other weekend and attends all of their school functions. In fact, his relationship with his kids sounded a lot like the one my sister and I had with our father.
After I got over the initial shock, I was surprised at how much it didn’t matter to me. Had my bearded bartender told me he had kids before we went out, I would have found a reason to cancel. But I already liked him and the fact that he had two munchkins around every other weekend wasn’t going to keep me from having fun with him that night, or the next time we went out. Plus, given my success rate with dating, I figured it was too early to worry about something that wouldn’t affect me unless we were to get serious.
I ultimately had to face the fact that as I get older—and, well, do things like move to the Midwest—the chances of dating men who have already been married or have children are going to increase, which isn’t necessarily all bad. I knew on the first date that I wasn’t wasting my time with someone who couldn’t deal with life or handle responsibility. And that’s more than I can say for most of the men I’ve dated.
As we’ve written about before, fathers have a profound influence over their daughters, especially when it comes to relationships. Many people believe that women either seek out partners that are a lot like their dads or as different from them as can be. But two new studies reveal that women are actually more influenced by their fathers than their mothers when it comes to choosing their career paths.
Dads are hard to buy presents for, mostly because they either have everything they want or have the ability to buy anything they want. That’s why you need to find something that he didn’t even know he wanted. Keep reading »
When I was in elementary school, saying you were going to sue someone was the cool thing to do. If your frenemy did something to annoy you, you would say, for example, “Steal my juice box, and I’ll sue you!” Suffice it to say no suing went on back then. Oh, how the times have changed. A 12 year old in Canada just took her dad to court, suing him after he grounded her for disobeying his orders to stay off the internet. He had banned her from going on a school trip after she used a friend’s computer to chat on websites he had blocked at home and posted pictures of herself online that Dad considered inappropriate. With the help of a public defender, she went to court and the judge ruled that the father’s punishment was too severe. Getting grounded is severe punishment? [AHN] Keep reading »
Father’s Day is coming up this Sunday and we here at The Frisky love baby-making! So, while being a celeb is a tough job, being a dad is even more demanding. In honor of the men who spend time with their kids and look so good doing it, we’ve compiled a list of DILFs (the man version of MILF, for those of you not familiar). Check out all eleven, after the jump….
One of the things I finally realized about ten months ago — four months before I got engaged — is that one of the main reasons why getting married freaked me out so much, why I always labeled myself “not really a marriage person”, is that it brought up a very difficult problem. Do I invite my dad?
My dad and I aren’t really close, which really isn’t that unusual of an issue for people — but we’re more than just “not close”. Without airing too much of his dirty laundry — and inspiring an unhappy phone call later this evening — I can explain that while I was in college, my dad made some choices that resulted in losing his job, ending relationships with most of his friends, and breaking up his marriage to my mom. Needless to say, our relationship, which had once been very close, was damaged as well, and because he didn’t exactly quickly rebound, apologize, and get his act together (really, still kind of waiting on that), a lot of time passed before I could even consider forgiving him. And I’m pretty sure there’s not enough time in the world to make inviting him to my wedding — let alone playing an integral part — a pleasant option. Keep reading »
A benefit to raise awareness sounds like a good thing, but sometimes even a ball can be bad. Case in point: The Chastity Gala, a trend of father/daughter dances across the nation, aka the most uncomfortable parties we’ve ever heard of. Recently, in Colorado Springs, 150 fathers with girls from grade school to college attended such a purity ritual at a local hotel. Now, slow dancing with your pop at weddings can be sweet, but making a teenage girl swear to her daddy that she’ll carry her V-card until she marries sounds like cruel and unusual punishment (not to mention totally ludicrous). But even dumber than having to dance about virginity is the idea that these poor misguided dad’s think by taking a vow, “Before God to cover my daughter as her authority and protection in the area of purity,” they’re precious little flowers won’t grow up and put out. According to The New York Times, statistics have shown that teenagers who practice abstinence will eventually have sex before they wed and are unfortunately more likely to forgo protection. What’s really safer: upholding your daughter to an unrealistic moral standard so you can avoid the awkward sex talk or teaching her how to take care of herself and her needs in a way where she can respect her sexuality? Either way, no one should be forced to put on a fancy dress and parade around chanting promises they can’t keep. [Trend Hunter] Keep reading »
The “Modern Love” column in this Sunday’s New York Times was about a woman who dates a musician who has a kid with a woman he briefly dated. The guy turns out to be a bit of a child himsef, but the whole piece got me thinking about whether I would be down for dating a dude with a kid (specifically if I didn’t have any kids of my own). I think I would be fine with it, considering I am such a sucker for the little ones, but what about you? If you were a single woman who didn’t have kids, would you date a guy who had a child of his own? [Modern Love: Was I On A Date Or Babysitting?] Keep reading »
Fashion designer Tom Ford knows this season’s hottest accessory is the baby bump and he wants to make one for his 2008 Collection. The dapper American legend raised Gucci, YSL, and his own house, but now he wants a kid….and what a stylish looker his baby will be! Although Ford’s been with his partner, Richard Buckley, former Editor-in-Chief of Vogue Hommes International, foreva-eva, Ford admits he slept with women until he finally realized he was too hot to not be a homo. So now, for the first time in about thirty years, one lucky lady will get to be his sperm receptacle/baby mama! And the fringe benefits sound even better. After all, one womb for a free wardrobe is better than the going surrogacy rate for sure. [Style Dash] Keep reading »
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