Kirstie Alley has good Photoshop skills, but questionable judgment when it comes to pointing out her weight issues. She posted this pic of her head Photoshopped onto a fat woman’s body on Twitter, cracking jokes about drinking beer and whether her “butt looks big.” I can appreciate that she’s a celeb willing to poke fun at herself. And I don’t blame her for having body image issues; lots of us do. But poking fun at her yo-yo dieting/weight loss, which is clearly a very big deal to her and has been for years, vis-a-vis another, obese woman’s body just makes me uncomfortable. That’s a real person with feelings (and, apparently, a chain bikini)! Not cool, Kirstie. [Twitter.com/KirstieAlley]
It’s not often that a dude comedian stands up for a woman who’s getting fat shamed — and be funny about it! So a big high five, or whatever it is they do Down Under, to Australian comedian Adam Hills for telling Joan Rivers to STFU. Joan’s been all over the place cracking jokes about how fat Adele is and on his UK show The Last Leg, Hills called her out in a very emotional “FUCK YOU!”
If you make fat jokes, you’re being a dick! And I’m referring to you, Joan Rivers. Seth MacFarlane started it at the Oscars but after the Oscars, Joan Rivers tweeted “You could easily pick Adele’s Oscar out of the lineup. It was the only one wearing Spanx.” Then she went on the Letterman show and made a whole bunch of awful jokes which included her saying “I met Adele” and then she went [puffs cheeks out and makes "fat" motion with hands]. FUCK YOU!
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I’ve been asked by people on different ends of the fat lover spectrum about advice being a good ally. From the “My lover doesn’t see how beautiful she is and won’t have sex with the lights on” to the “My lover uses the term ‘fat’ to describe themselves but I’ve always thought of that as a derogatory word … isn’t it?” For Fat Sex Week, I’ve highlighted some of the best ways to be a good ally to your fat lover.
This is all from my limited perspective, you should obviously be in good communication with your lover to find out what works for them and how they operate in the world. Communication is an essential sex toy!
This advice applies to folks of all sizes, not just thinner folks partnered (in all the myriad ways one can partner) with fat folks. And a lot of it is good advice for sex in general, regardless of whether or not your partner is fat. Keep reading »
People on the internet have been telling me I’m fat for at least a decade — since whenever the first full-body photograph of me appeared on a blog author page. I still remember one of the first times it happened. I was probably 22 years old, wearing a pink pencil skirt and cute black top, retro-style, in the photo.
“Just like I thought, she’s pear-shaped,” snarked one commenter, who apparently previously inferred from the quality of my writing that my body was not up to his high expectations, only to have it all confirmed by a photo.
I stood in front of the mirror in that same outfit, staring at my body from every angle, trying to figure out just how pear-shaped I was. Was it my thighs causing the problem? Had to be, right? I measured them. I calculated my BMI. I took more digital photos and compared them to the existing photo. I went through the size tags on all my clothes, trying to find the biggest one so I could prove to myself that I either was or wasn’t fat. Definitively.
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I shook my head recently when I read about New York Observer film critic Rex Reed’s personal insult toward actress Melissa McCarthy. In a review of her latest offering, “Identity Thief,” he called her “tractor-sized” and as big as a “hippo.” Isn’t it interesting, I thought, that a man, who himself is part of a marginalized and often supressed segment of society [Reed is widely believed to be gay.] wields his pejoratives so freely when directed toward another similarly ill-regarded community, the “un-thin” or “un-commercial.” The part of our population that still hides in a closet of self-hatred. The part of our population, fearful that they won’t be accepted or seen for anything other than their physical appearance. You don’t have to be overweight to be part of our collective; you just have to have a self-loathing of some physical feature you feel you possess. Surely, this is something that everyone can relate to at some point in their lives and certainly, unless he was blessed to have grown up amongst royalty, Rex Reed himself must have had to deal with.
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Discriminating against women because of their weight is a very real problem and it goes all the way to the jury box. A new study at Yale University observed 471 adults in mock court cases for four individuals, of whom they were presented pictures: a skinny man, a skinny woman, an obese man, and an obese women. As reported by Yale, “Male participants rated the obese female defendant guiltier than the lean female defendant, whereas female respondents judged the two female defendants equally regardless of weight.” Skinny male participants were more likely than their heftier brothers to negatively judge an obese female defendant. Yet there was absolutely no difference in how guilty the skinny and obese men were judged. Keep reading »