In a recent article from “Men’s Health” a female writer decides to speak for her gender and tell the mostly male readers what women wish they’d do to get them off. Of the 18 fantasies she lists, I concur with six…well, maybe six and a half. The others are just so off-the-mark and absurd, I worry about men incorporating these fantasies into their sexual routines and turning off women so dramatically that all sex becomes just a fantasy. After the jump, a few of the “women’s fantasies” that are especially ridiculous. Keep reading »
Look, I like being in a relationship, I really do. I especially love being in a live-in relationship. I like that my boyfriend and I cook dinner together, how Sunday mornings are never lonely, and I’ve always got a travel partner and someone to see movies with. More than just being in a relationship, I love the person I’m in a relationship with. My boyfriend’s one of the kindest, funniest, most generous people I know, and I have more fun with him than anyone else. Yet, I can’t stop fantasizing about other men. Keep reading »
I’m working from home today, so naturally I’m enjoying the background noise known as “The View.” Elisabeth Hasselbeck just said that she thinks that fantasizing about another person while you’re having sex with your partner is kinda, sorta a form of cheating. Mind you, I think she once said that masturbating is cheating too. So what do you think? Is thinking about someone else while you’re doin’ it a form of infidelity? Keep reading »
Should I be worried that I think about Daniel Craig every time I have sex with my boyfriend? — Boning For Bond, via email
For the most part, fantasies are a healthy part of a sexual relationship. Letting images filter into your mind during sex is natural, and feeling anxiety about them only makes sex less enjoyable. Fantasies can be worrisome when they’re obsessive, or focus on one person. Thinking only of Daniel Craig or an ex when you have sex could signal a bigger problem with you or your relationship.
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