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Girl Talk: I Want My Boyfriend To Fantasize About Other Women

Rachel Kramer BusselJune 30, 2011 //

I read Eliza Jules’ essay “I Obsessively Monitor My Husband’s Lube Bottle” over at xoJane and was left with this question: Is a partner’s masturbation something we should worry about? The more I’ve thought about it, though, the more I’ve concluded that, for me, I’m at the very opposite end of the spectrum as Jules; I’d be worried if someone I was dating didn’t masturbate, all the more so if I was the cause behind them holding off in the self-love department. I also wouldn’t expect someone’s firmly entrenched patterns of masturbation and porn use, especially if I met them well into their adult life, to change just because they were with me.

I’ll even go so far as to say I would definitely not want to be the sole source of my partner’s masturbation fodder. Part of it? Sure. But imagine the pressure if every single time they jerked off, they were thinking about you. That would creep me out a bit, and while I’m not an expert, I don’t think that’s a realistic goal, especially when you’re talking about long-term relationships. Keep reading »

What Gets You Off?

Julie GersteinDecember 15, 2010 //

Spank bank: It’s the one bank where you always have credit. And no matter what you’re into–what kind of fantasies or images or stories you play to get off–your spank bank is an invaluable resource. We’ve been talking a lot about masturbation and we want to know: when you’re flicking the bean, what makes you hot and bothered? And if you’re wondering what Frisky staffers get off to, well, click on the jump…
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Dear Wendy: “I’m Engaged But Fantasizing About A Colleague”

Wendy AtterberryOctober 6, 2010 //

I am happily engaged to a wonderful man, and we are planning an amazing life together in the years to come. I couldn’t be more excited about how my life has turned out thus far. But over the past year, I have developed an excellent working relationship with someone I have a lot in common with. My company is actually his client, and I am his main contact. Until recently, our interaction had been only through email or over the phone. But at an industry event several weeks ago, we finally had a chance to connect in person, and it turns out that he is QUITE the looker. A few drinks were had at an after party, and he admitted that he had feelings for me and tried to kiss me. I was taken off guard and sincerely flattered, and though I did not kiss him or become physically involved, I didn’t remove myself from the situation immediately. Since then, I have found my thoughts drifting to him, and to what would have happened if I had let myself slip up. My rational self wants nothing to do with slipping up! I am already resolved to drink less and leave earlier at the next industry event. But I am having trouble managing my daydreams, and my ego it seems. How do I kill this fantasy so I can get back to my real life and love? — Afraid of Slipping Up

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Dear Wendy: “I’m Afraid I’m Going To Cheat On My Boyfriend”

Wendy AtterberryMay 26, 2010 //

I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 10 months, and we love each other so much. Lately though, another man, Mr. X, has been appearing in my dreams, and when I wake up I just can’t stop fantasizing and thinking about him. Would this be considered as cheating on my boyfriend? Mr. X is my sister-in-law’s brother, and he is just so gorgeous (and also single). That part of the family lives in another country, and I will actually be visiting soon (without my boyfriend) for a family wedding, and will no doubt be spending time with this hottie. I’m scared that I might do something that I will regret, and hurt both myself and my boyfriend. What should I do? Do I tell my boyfriend what’s been on my mind? — Dreamer

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What Are Your Secret Turn-Ons?

Wendy AtterberryFebruary 22, 2010 //

Do you like strictly tall, dark and handsome men, or does your taste tend to deviate just a bit from the norm? While I would never kick Gilles Marini out of bed — um, unless my husband walked in on us, I guess — I have a few turn-ons that are a little less mainstream and wasn’t at all surprised to learn I’m not alone. In a recent study of 2,500 women, it was revealed that women name “facial stubble,” a “geeky personality,” and a “hairy chest” as their top three “secret turn-ons.” Other traits included in the top ten were: “grey hair, glasses and being a passionate supporter of a sports team.” Glasses are hot, but being a sports fan? That one surprises me. Keep reading »

Poll: Do You Want Your Sexual Fantasies To Be Actualized?

Jessica WakemanDecember 30, 2009 //

Would you like your sexual fantasies to be actualized?

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Girl Talk: Guys, Keep Your Porno Fantasies To Yourself

AnonymousNovember 18, 2009 //

“Tell me what you want to do to me,” I cooed in Brandon’s* ear. It was our first time in bed together and I was hoping he would pass my “dirty talk test.” The test is simple. I ask the man what he wants to do to me and he responds with his own special brand of dirty talk. Easy, right? Not always so simple.

It’s easier to get the little head than the big head in the game. But the problem is, I only want to have sex with a man when both heads are present. I want him to understand that my pleasure takes place first in my mind and then in my body. And if he can’t stimulate my mind, he has a very slim chance of stimulating anything on my body. Sure he can fumble his way around and accidentally push a button, but why bother? I know some people don’t like to talk; they just like to “do.” But for me it’s not enough. Keep reading »

Women’s Sexual Fantasies As Confusing As Ever

Wendy AtterberryMay 8, 2009 //

A few months ago, I posted about a list of “women’s sexual fantasies” that appeared in Men’s Health. I wrote that the majority of the fantasies listed were “so off-the-mark and absurd, I [worried] about men incorporating these fantasies into their sexual routines and turning off women so dramatically that all sex becomes just a fantasy.” Many of you agreed that the list didn’t come close to reflecting women’s true fantasies, and Men’s Health must have listened because they’ve published a new list of women’s sexual fantasies — only these sound suspiciously like men’s top desires! After the jump, see what the publication is telling its (mostly male) readers we women want in the sack. Keep reading »

Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: Are Your Friends In Your Spank Bank?

Amelia McDonell-ParryMarch 18, 2009 //

Last night I had the pleasure of guesting on Cosmo Radio on Sirius. One of things we discussed (in addition to the Hottest Guys With Irish Blood and Paul Rudd) was the public’s obsession with the ins and outs of celebrity sex lives. How weird it must be for, say, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, to know that thousands/millions of people actually think about them DOING IT? But Brian, Cosmo Radio’s resident male, clued us in on something startling. There are people — men, specifically — who think about US having sex. How we do it, what we look like when we’re doing it, and what it might be like to be the one doing it to us. In fact, he promised, we could count on the fact that at least five of our guy friends thought about us while they were jerking off. Say what? My guy friends, aka the Guys On Our IM, have potentially included me in their spank bank? I was honored, not disgusted by the notion, and therefore had to confirm… Keep reading »

Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: What Really Turns You On?

Amelia McDonell-ParryFebruary 18, 2009 //

Lately I’ve been kind of getting in touch with my kinkier side. Being that I didn’t really have a kinky side before, it’s a big deal for me that I’ve discovered the pleasures of, uh, ass-smacking. Now that it’s kind of my “thing,” I’ve been thinking about other people I know and their “things.” I once hooked up with this Brazilian guy in San Francisco (and by hook up, I mean we met at a club, went back to his weird warehouse apartment, and made out a little) and discovered that he had a thing for armpit licking. My armpit, that is. I’ve told this story numerous times and most people express disgust and/or concern that he could die from deodorant poisoning. (He didn’t, as far as I know, but we didn’t keep in touch.) One of the people who expressed disgust is someone I’m sort of seeing — but he has a thing for striped thigh high stockings, so I guess one man’s trash is another man’s treasure. After the jump, I grill the guys on my IM about what turns them on. We get off topic a few times. Sorry. Keep reading »

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