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Girl Talk: I Want My Boyfriend To Fantasize About Other Women

I read Eliza Jules’ essay “I Obsessively Monitor My Husband’s Lube Bottle” over at xoJane and was left with this question: Is a partner’s masturbation something we should worry about? The more I’ve thought about it, though, the more I’ve concluded that, for me, I’m at the very opposite end of the spectrum as Jules; I’d be worried if someone I was dating didn’t masturbate, all the more so if I was the cause behind them holding off in the self-love department. I also wouldn’t expect someone’s firmly entrenched patterns of masturbation and porn use, especially if I met them well into their adult life, to change just because they were with me.

I’ll even go so far as to say I would definitely not want to be the sole source of my partner’s masturbation fodder. Part of it? Sure. But imagine the pressure if every single time they jerked off, they were thinking about you. That would creep me out a bit, and while I’m not an expert, I don’t think that’s a realistic goal, especially when you’re talking about long-term relationships. Keep reading »

What Gets You Off?

Spank bank: It’s the one bank where you always have credit. And no matter what you’re into–what kind of fantasies or images or stories you play to get off–your spank bank is an invaluable resource. We’ve been talking a lot about masturbation and we want to know: when you’re flicking the bean, what makes you hot and bothered? And if you’re wondering what Frisky staffers get off to, well, click on the jump…
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Dear Wendy: “I’m Engaged But Fantasizing About A Colleague”

I am happily engaged to a wonderful man, and we are planning an amazing life together in the years to come. I couldn’t be more excited about how my life has turned out thus far. But over the past year, I have developed an excellent working relationship with someone I have a lot in common with. My company is actually his client, and I am his main contact. Until recently, our interaction had been only through email or over the phone. But at an industry event several weeks ago, we finally had a chance to connect in person, and it turns out that he is QUITE the looker. A few drinks were had at an after party, and he admitted that he had feelings for me and tried to kiss me. I was taken off guard and sincerely flattered, and though I did not kiss him or become physically involved, I didn’t remove myself from the situation immediately. Since then, I have found my thoughts drifting to him, and to what would have happened if I had let myself slip up. My rational self wants nothing to do with slipping up! I am already resolved to drink less and leave earlier at the next industry event. But I am having trouble managing my daydreams, and my ego it seems. How do I kill this fantasy so I can get back to my real life and love? — Afraid of Slipping Up

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Dear Wendy: “I’m Afraid I’m Going To Cheat On My Boyfriend”

I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 10 months, and we love each other so much. Lately though, another man, Mr. X, has been appearing in my dreams, and when I wake up I just can’t stop fantasizing and thinking about him. Would this be considered as cheating on my boyfriend? Mr. X is my sister-in-law’s brother, and he is just so gorgeous (and also single). That part of the family lives in another country, and I will actually be visiting soon (without my boyfriend) for a family wedding, and will no doubt be spending time with this hottie. I’m scared that I might do something that I will regret, and hurt both myself and my boyfriend. What should I do? Do I tell my boyfriend what’s been on my mind? — Dreamer

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What Are Your Secret Turn-Ons?

Do you like strictly tall, dark and handsome men, or does your taste tend to deviate just a bit from the norm? While I would never kick Gilles Marini out of bed — um, unless my husband walked in on us, I guess — I have a few turn-ons that are a little less mainstream and wasn’t at all surprised to learn I’m not alone. In a recent study of 2,500 women, it was revealed that women name “facial stubble,” a “geeky personality,” and a “hairy chest” as their top three “secret turn-ons.” Other traits included in the top ten were: “grey hair, glasses and being a passionate supporter of a sports team.” Glasses are hot, but being a sports fan? That one surprises me. Keep reading »

Poll: Do You Want Your Sexual Fantasies To Be Actualized?

Would you like your sexual fantasies to be actualized?

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