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Life After Dating: Splitting The Holidays

Life After Dating: Splitting The Holidays

My parents separated during my senior year of high school. That was bad enough, not because I was upset at the time about them separating, but because that first holiday season was weird — my dad was there, but only begrudgingly on my mom’s part — and once the divorce proceedings started and things got ugly, we started having to split up the holidays. My dad had moved to Madison, Wisconsin, while my mom had the house in a Chicago suburb that we’d grown up in, so it was easier for my sisters and I to do Christmas stuff with my mom. But it was a balancing act.

It got worse when I got into a relationship with my now-ex, the year I graduated from high school, because his family was intensely territorial about holidays and easily offended. So I had to see my dad, I had to see my mom and sisters, I had to see my ex’s mom and siblings, and, if possible, we’d spend time with his dad, too, but not always. Two sets of divorced parents is a pain in the ass. It’s bad when it’s two sets of parents, period, but four gets extreme. My dad has learned to work around this problem by doing family get-togethers before or after the actual holiday. Keep reading »

Dater X: Finding The Love My Mother Lost

Dater X: Finding The Love My Mother Lost

I’ve been writing Dater X for almost a year now, and can honestly say that putting everything out there about my love life hasn’t been easy. Writing this column is therapeutic in a way, because it allows me to reflect on my relationships, both good and bad, and figure out how to move forward with more insight, intuition and confidence. But with that somewhat comforting self-analysis also comes a lot of pressure. I write my story because I want to, but I’m also making myself vulnerable by writing about real people, real feelings and real struggles. Some weeks I blog freely, not giving a fuck what kind of criticism will come my way, and other weeks, I worry about being judged, disrespected, and oftentimes, having my identity uncovered. I’m never certain how I’ll feel at the end of the day, especially on days when I write Dater X, but I know why I do it. I do it because I don’t want to end up like my mom. I’ll share her story with you to give you more insight into why I do what I do—from writing this blog to dating tirelessly and relentlessly for the last several years. It’s hardly a sob story, but it’s one that’s shaped me into who I am. Keep reading »

8 Reasons I Am Already Earnestly, Unironically Looking Forward To Christmas

YES. I am READY FOR CHRISTMAS. I have a job that pays me more than $10 an hour, ten hours a week this year (couldn’t say that last year), my overall health is in a good place, I’m determined to enjoy the cold weather instead of trudging through it, and my boyfriend and I are moving into a larger-than-studio apartment at the beginning of December, so I’ll actually have space to decorate.

November 1st marked Day 1 of Christmas-music-only radio stations, and Christmas items are already stocked in Walgreens, so basically, it’s Christmas now. Here are the things I’m looking forward to most… Keep reading »

Make It Stop: “An Old (Married!) Friend From High School Is Putting The Moves On Me On Social Media”

Make It Stop: "An Old (Married!) Friend From High School Is Putting The Moves On Me On Social Media"

I’m in a happy, committed relationship. I just reconnected with a friend from high school who has a spouse and a daughter, and although it was fun to hang out, immediately after we did so, he started flirting with me and talking about how he had feelings for me in high school. It’s clear that he still does, and that’s fine, but I don’t have any feelings for him — or anyone but my boyfriend! Now I feel like I have to avoid him, but he keeps trying to talk to me on social media. What do I do?

There’s no need to jeopardize your happy relationship over some dud’s lame attempt at a cheap ego boost. You could block him, or unfriend him, or do nothing. I love doing nothing as a response because it’s easy and free! Eventually he’ll get the hint.

You could be direct and say, “I’m not interested. Please stop,” but I don’t want to make it more dramatic than it needs to be.

As for me, depending on how comfortable with him, I’d probably make a joke out of it. Like next time you see him out and he starts chatting you up, give him some sass. Keep reading »

Make It Stop: “My BFF Won’t Stop Competing With Me And Copying Everything I Do!”

Make It Stop: "My BFF Won't Stop Competing With Me And Copying Everything I Do!"

Make It Stop is a new weekly column in which Anna Goldfarb — the blogger behind Shmitten Kitten and Shlooby Kitten — tells you what’s up. Want a fresh take on a stinky dilemma? Email anna@shmittenkitten.com with the subject “Make It Stop.” She’ll make it all better, or at least make you laugh. Girl Scout’s honor.

This week, we’ve got a competitive, copycatting best friend and a overly chatty coworker to contend with… Keep reading »

5 Ways The Kardashian Sisters Are A Depiction Of Modern Sisterhood

Consider the Kardashian sisters. Strip away your groans, the millions, the lavish mansions, the exotic vacations, the Kanye. What do you have? Five insanely close sisters, going through life together. The Kardashians (well, the Kardashian-Jenners) get a ton of flack for being spoiled, obnoxious, and outrageous. But, I actually have always felt a kinship with them — the three oldest sisters, Kourtney, Kim and Khloe, in particular.

Early on in the first season of their long-running reality show, “Keeping Up With The Kardashians,” my sister and I realized that we’re not so different from them — not when it comes to the designer clothes, 72-day marriages, and jet-setting lifestyles — but when it comes to their interactions with each other. They’re crazy close, and so are we. And as my sister and I have loyally watched the Klan over the past seven years, we’ve seen a lot of our relationship reflected in the relationships they have with each other.

I’d venture to say my sister and I aren’t the only ones who have felt this way: the Kardashian sisters are an example of modern sisterhood at its core: Keep reading »

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