According to a new study to be published in the Journal of Neurophysiology, scientists found that falling in love feels exactly like scratching an itch — at least, as far as our brains are concerned. Keep reading »
Have you ever found yourself thinking, “Oh my god, he’s the one!,” within hours, days, or mere weeks after meeting a new guy? The trouble is, when you fall hard and fast, you aren’t really falling for him, because you don’t even know him- yet. Instead, you’re falling for the ideal man in your head, who you’re hoping he’ll be. Keep reading »
This weekend, I was running errands in my neighborhood when I bumped into someone I slept with in the last year. (Narrows it down, doesn’t it? Ha!) Immediately, I felt overwhelmingly flustered. In fact, I may have spoken some form of gibberish. After exchanging pleasantries — his sensical, mine, not so much — we went our separate ways, but I found myself weirdly shaken up. It was the sort of thing that I would have previously associated as a sign that I had romantic feelings for that person; my shaky hands an indicator of nervous sexual energy, and the vague nausea in my stomach would have been called “butterflies.” I would have relished that feeling, called it “thrilling.” Wondered when I would see that person in a naked capacity again and, Oh! Did he feel it too? Ah, the mystery. Isn’t that what makes romance so exciting?
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If you believe in romantic comedies, the ideal outcome of any romantic relationship is that both partners love each other equally. But is that always true in real life? Sure, it may be the case some of the time, but the fact of the matter is that relationships are often uneven or unequal when it comes to love. Especially at the start of a relationship, it’s not uncommon for one partner to be more enamored of the other. Maybe the guy is salivating after the girl like a hungry dog, while she could care less. Or we’ve all heard girlfriends whining about the guy they’re madly in love with — who never calls. I once saw a movie in which an older couple said the reason they never got divorced is because they never fell out of love at the same time. That’s an interesting twist — and suggests that love isn’t always a two-way street, but more like a freeway designed by a crackhead. You never know where it’s going to twist and turn. Is your relationship “equal” when it comes to love? Is it better to love the other person more or for the other person to love you more? Or is love too weird, complicated, and abstract to even be comprehended? Keep reading »
Fascinating new information about the science of love! Apparently, the feeling of falling in love is similar to the “euphoria” of taking cocaine, not that I know anything about that. According to a Syracuse University study, when a person “falls in love,” 12 parts of the brain work together to release crazy amounts of dopamine, oxytocin, adrenaline and vasopression, which, uh, I guess also happens when you’re channeling Tony Montana and snorting a mountain of coke. And it happens quick — that perfect cocktail of chemicals release in only about a fifth of a second. Keep reading »
If men were from Venus and women were from Mars — or, heck, if men and women were from the same planet, everything might be different. Ah, relationships. So much that can go right. So much that can go wrong. If you’re looking to avoid stumbling into the most common relationship traps, it may behoove you to consider the biggest relationship mistakes you can make along the way. Love is great, but it’s knowing what you’re doing when you’re in it that makes a loving relationship last. Keep reading »