Women have been faking orgasms since the beginning of time, the reasoning usually being that it’s just easier to pretend you’ve come when you know a real one is not going to happen. It gives the dude you’re getting down with unspoken permission to finish up himself, without having to say, mid-coitus, “Hey, you know, an orgasm just isn’t in the cards for me today, but you should go ahead and have yours!” (Generally, I encourage people to not mislead their sexual partners and would like to see women be more open about what gets them off so they don’t feel inclined to fake — however, there are just some sexual relationships you don’t want to go that deep with. Whatever. Do you, girl.) But one thing I hadn’t considered, even as an occasional faker myself, is that women might actually get off, in some way, by faking it. Well, a recent study published in the Journal of Sexual Archives found that some women fake orgasms for their own pleasure, and upon thinking about it, I realized that I totally relate. Keep reading »
I read a blog post earlier this month that sounded a familiar refrain: Are single women too independent for their own good? Women’s magazines ask that question, men’s magazines ask that question, and the answer is almost always the same: yes. Keep reading »
Ever since “When Harry Met Sally,” faking orgasms has been considered a totally female thing. After all, why would a guy fake an orgasm? And how? But a new study has found that more men then you’d think pretend during sex. When Live Science surveyed more than 200 college students, 25 percent of the men reported faking it (compared with 50 percent of women). The main reasons men fake orgasms? Either they didn’t want to hurt their partner’s feelings or they felt the sex was taking too long. Rather than deal with the awkwardness of saying, “I don’t want to keep having sex,” men instead will fake an orgasm. And thanks to the prevalence of condoms, they can do so without a woman being suspicious. Keep reading »
Contrary to what your mama might have told you, “just be yourself” is not always the best advice. Almost all of us have something we’re insecure about, and while years of pricey therapy might eventually banish self-doubt, I’ve found that the best way to get over it in the short-term is to refuse to acknowledge it exists in the first place. What some call denial, I call common sense … Keep reading »
Holiday time for men means one thing: sports, sports, and more sports. Christmas Day alone has five basketball games on. This weekend is the last regular season game for football and playoff spots are on the line. And hockey season started not too long ago. If you have no idea what I’m talking about, then you need to keep reading. Whether you are forced to watch games at your man’s house or you want to hit up the bar to drink away the Scrooge inside of you, knowing a little bit about sports will impress the jingle bells off a guy. Yes, we know there are plenty of women out there who are sports obsessed. But there are also plenty of women who aren’t — and we don’t want you to suffer. After the jump are some basic things you need to know about sports to get you by during this holiday season.
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Everyone knows (we hope) that it’s probably not the best idea to fake it in bed. There are exceptions, of course, as in God, can we just get this over with before “Mad Men” starts? But in general, faking an orgasm just reinforces and encourages behavior that simply isn’t getting the job done. There are, however, times in a woman’s life when it’s perfectly acceptable — maybe even necessary for her emotional well-being — to fake it. For example, it’s okay to fake it when…check the list, after the jump! Keep reading »
After chatting with the guys on my IM yesterday about how often they bring a girl to orgasm, I started thinking about faking it. Most of them said they didn’t think women really faked with them and would prefer that they didn’t. So here’s a question for you: Keep reading »