For years, I’ve mostly defined myself in terms of my almost single-minded focus on my ambitions and goals. However, I wasn’t always like that. I don’t know when (probably sometime in middle school or early high school) but, at some point, I came to the conclusion that if I wanted to achieve all of the goals that plenty of people seemed to enjoy telling me were unachievable, I would have to be completely devoted to making those dreams a reality, especially as a woman. Admittedly, I never felt discriminated against at school based on my gender or felt denied anything because I’m a girl. Yet it always seemed to me that boys were taken more seriously than girls. Toughness came easily to them; it was expected of them. As a girl, I had to choose between being seen as sweet and funny or smart and driven. I felt like an either/or situation, despite my identification with aspects of both. I knowingly chose to try to achieve my goals, academic and otherwise, which, in my opinion, left me appearing “serious” and unfeminine.
I spent the first semester of college carrying on this persona. In a sense it paid off: I got great grades. And yet, in order to achieve those grades, I felt I had completely blocked myself off from other important college experiences. I realized that I should be happier about my academic accomplishment. Instead, I just felt hollow, like I was missing out on something more. Keep reading »
Earlier this year, I auditioned for a Broadway show to play a girl … from Wiltshire, England. I hadn’t really considered the note that, “using a regional accent would be an advantage,” until around midnight the night before. And to clarify, “would be an advantage” means, do it.
That’s okay, I thought to myself, I’ll just wing it. Because you know that we all try to sound like Harry Potter from time to time. Wingardium Leviosa! Keep reading »
Despite her massive U.S. failure last year — one which culminated in closing every store she’d opened in a matter of months — Russian teen designer and heiress Kira Plastinina is reopening two L.A. stores in the coming weeks. But this time, she’s got a new name — K. Plastinina rather than Kira Plastinina — and a second, higher priced line. That may distract people from the hilariousness of the venture for a bit, but this doesn’t seem like particularly sound business strategy. She’s already got 70 successful stores in Russia and we’re kind of wondering why she won’t just let it go and realize that we don’t want her tacky junk here. But she does get points for persistence! [WWD] Keep reading »
Over at The Huffington Post, Dr. Judith Rich poses an interesting question: what would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail? Often we stop ourselves from pursuing our desire to try something, because of fear that we won’t succeed. But if you took that out of the equation — if failure wasn’t possible — what would you do? Initially when I read this question, I thought, “Fly!” I always was a dreamer. But realistically speaking, there’s so much I would do if I knew my fears were misplaced. I would take up surfing, finally master that headstand in yoga, and, obviously, ask Ryan Gosling out on a date. So what would YOU do? Keep reading »