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Social Media’s A Stage, And We’re All Merely Players

Hey, breaking news, guys: the paper of record has just discovered that social media makes breaking up harder than it used to be. In an article called “Breaking Up in a Digital Fishbowl,” The New York Times reports that in this day of shared email passwords, Facebook, Twitter and various other social media platforms, it’s nearly impossible to truly disconnect from an ex:

[The] idea of what it means to break up is [also] being redefined. Where once a spurned lover could use scissors (literally) to cut an ex out of the picture, digital images of the smiling couple in happier days abound on the Web and are difficult to delete. Status updates and tweets have a way of wending their way back to scorned exes, thanks to the interconnectedness of social media. And breakups, awkward and drawn-out in person, are even more so online as details are parsed by the curious, their faces pressed against the digital glass.

Even for those of us who have been spared messy online breakups, it isn’t exactly news that sites like Facebook redefine (and invent new) dating rituals that are complex and difficult to navigate. Though the article lacks any actual news, it does give us an excuse to revisit the issue, one that brings many questions to the forefront. Like: is the convenience of connection worth the price of our privacy? And: are we merely “performers” on the stage of social media platforms, continually changing our role as our relationships to the other players change and evolve? Keep reading »

Remember Your Year In Facebook Status Updates

It’s that time of year again. Time to look back on your year and evaluate—what were the good moments, the crap moments, and the forgotten moments? Facebook can be annoying sometimes, but last night I rediscovered its brilliance. A genius new app will sum up your year in the most randomly comical way possible—by your Facebook status updates. The Year In Status app randomly selects your Facebook statuses from the past year and puts them together on a customizable page. I called mine “Twas a Tale of Sound and Fury: My Statuses, 2009,” and my roommate and I were seriously cracking up for hours about it. How could I have forgotten the time I was “just got caught eating a piece of cheese with no shirt on.” Don’t ask … long story. Don’t deny yourself this small indulgence before 2010 rolls in. Keep reading »

I’ll Pay For Dinner, But I Won’t Be Your Facebook Friend

If I’ve learned anything from sex scandals, it’s that texting somebody you’re hoping to sleep with can be dangerous. Especially if you’re married. Or famous. But this isn’t about dumb Tiger Woods. This is about the rest of us, and those normal, baby-step texts surrounding a first date that can often go horribly awry. Before, you’d just get a girl’s number, and if it was real, you’d set up a date with her and see her then. But now we have texting/IMing/emailing and, good lord, Facebooking each other. There are so many opportunities to be misunderstood!

These days, if you’re going on a date with someone new, chances are you’ve “talked” to this person electronically before you even get to make awkward conversation about your “crazy” work week over salmon croquettes and the second least expensive bottle of wine on the menu (can’t look completely cheap!). But I implore you: stop. Don’t text me, IM me, Gchat me or — heaven forbid — Facebook me after we’ve established our first-date time and place. Let me explain. Read more Keep reading »

Mark By Avon Takes To Facebook—Is This The Next Thing In E-Commerce?

Avon calling! Or, poking?

Mark, Avon’s trendier, Lauren Conrad-endorsed line, is now selling makeup through Facebook. This is the first time we’ve seen e-commerce really take advantage of the social network. The Mark store essentially operates as a fan page with the standard wall and info tabs, but there’s also a shop tab that lets you browse and purchase products under the same umbrella. This could be a flop—something that their market research team thinks is fail-proof because young girls are, like, always on Facebook, right? Or could this be the beginning of a new social networking trend where everything you do (or buy) online is all within the same structure? What do you think — would you buy clothes or makeup off Facebook? [Mark Girl Facebook Page via StyleList] Keep reading »

Alicia Keys Releases New Album On Facebook

Alicia Keys is changing the music game. She’s the first A-list musician to release an entire album via Facebook. Her 1.3 million fans can listen to The Element of Freedom, her sixth album, in its entirety for free and can place pre-orders before the official drop date, Dec. 15. Now we’ll be able to decide whether to purchase the entire album or specific songs; we all know an artist’s previous work is no guarantee their newest album will be as enjoyable. [Alicia Keys] Keep reading »

Free Makeover For Your Profile Pic

For the next week or so, Estée Lauder makeup artists are offering free “put your best face in cyberspace” makeovers at a couple stores across America, which basically means they’re on the makeover train, again—but this time, they’re taking photos of you after your beauty upgrade. Why? Lauder wants to pretty up your Facebook (or Match.com or Twitter or…) photo. Apparently, one of their ads reads: “Your Beauty. Your Style. Your Profile.” And: “Get a great photo for your social network page, website or blog.” Wanna go? Well, better get booking an appointment; they start in some parts of the U.S. tomorrow. Here’s the list of ten counters nationwide that are offering the promo. [Estée Lauder] Keep reading »

How Do You Expect Your Family And Friends To Treat Your Ex?

When you break up with someone, how do you expect the people in your life to treat your ex? This Sunday’s “Modern Love” column in The New York Times explored that topic in an essay by Charles Antin. Antin had an amicable, cold-turkey breakup with his girlfriend of five years, and then found himself morosely following her life in the aftermath via Facebook. When his “technophile” grandfather joined the social networking site and befriended his ex — because of their shared love of Frangelico, it seems — Antin was angry. The column ends with a bit of a whimper — Antin confronted his grandfather, who ended up quitting Facebook entirely — but it got me thinking about how we expect our family members and friends to treat our exes, and how we expect their family and friends to treat us, whether the breakup was amicable or not. Keep reading »

“Unfriending” Is Oxford Dictionary’s 2009 Word Of The Year

First Facebook took over your personal life; now it’s taking over your dictionary. Well, only the New Oxford American Dictionary. Those wordy peeps have chosen the verb “unfriend”—as in, I unfriended Joey so he’d stop pestering me to play that stupid Mafia Wars game!—as their 2009 word of the year, which means it’s been added to their massive publication. “Tramp stamp” and “funemployed” are also new words Oxford included in the dictionary, but (luckily) “unfriend” is the only one we have personal experience with. After the jump, The Frisky’s tales from the trenches of “unfriending!” [Oxford University Press Blog] Keep reading »

Reason #612 Not To Be Friends With Your Mom On Facebook

Something tells me she thinks MILF stands for Mothers I Love on Facebook. [BuzzFeed] Keep reading »

Step Away From The Farm!

My Facebook page has been taken over by FarmVille updates. So-and-so just harvested their stock! Your friend just sold his wares! Help your neighbor scare off crows! And on, and on, and on. The game is sweeping the social networking world and, apparently, running people’s lives. One man gets up in the middle of the night in order to harvest his crops. A husband made his hungry, pregnant wife wait while he tended to his raspberries. Conversations revolve around FarmVille coins and experience rankings. Really?!! Keep reading »

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