“I have a shopping fetish!”
“I have a total fetish for caramel-covered popcorn — it’s my favorite snack!”
“She watches the Kardashians’ shows because she has a weird Kim fetish. She’s wants to dress like her so badly.”
You’ve probably heard a comment like this at least once a week your entire life. These sorts of comments drive me bonkers, because those people are not really referring to fetishes.
Instead, they’re misusing the word “fetish” to describe anything they really like, instead of something that sexually turns them on. I imagine it might be the same way gay folks would feel when a straight-person says to their same-sex friend “I’m gay for you,” when really they just mean their friend is a good buddy.
This is a subject we could all stand to know more about. Obviously I am not a psychologist or a medical expert of any kind; I’m just a woman with a spanking fetish who is researching official information on the subject on Google and including my own experiences and tips. I highly recommend visiting a sex-positive therapist, specifically a sex therapist, for a professional consult and to sort this stuff out if you or a loved one have a fetish or paraphilia.
But for a basic 101 on fetishes and paraphilia, here are some commonly asked questions and answers:
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This July 4th, celebrate our nation’s birth not just by watching fireworks, but by setting off some of your own. Don’t just eat BBQ, play hide the sausage. OK, these double entendres are played out. We know it. We’ ll just come right out and say it: Whatever your plans may be this holiday, assert your (sexual) Independence by making time for a good ‘ol outdoor romp. The holiday requires it. Just don’t get caught. Unless you’re into that kind of thing. After the jump, our suggestions … Keep reading »
So this is what those crazy coeds are up to these days? Things have changed since I was in college and we had the decency to wait until the sun went down. Two USC Trojans had no problem doing it doggie style in full view of the quad in broad daylight. Unfortunately, the male fornicator, a Kappa Sigma frat boy, was excused from the brotherhood over his public display of manhood. The thrill of exhibitionism aside, I hope they had the forethought to put on a Trojan. [Dlisted] Keep reading »
Earlier this summer, New York City opened the much-touted High Line, a former elevated railroad turned into a lovely urban park, for tourists and locals alike to enjoy. People flocked. It turns out it’s not only the trees and comfy lounge chairs that people eagerly line up for. Overlooking the park is The Standard Hotel, where guests can frequently be seen from the park below performing sex acts in front of the hotel’s floor-to-ceiling windows. “Disgusted neighbors say they’ve seen men masturbating, professional porn films being shot and couples engaging in sex in full view of the stunning High Line park path running alongside.” Huh, no wonder my out-of-town wedding guests couldn’t stop raving about the park when they visited it last month. Keep reading »